Back on topic...

at the other site I tried that I was banned for life from....

I was making friendly with this nice chick and I posted something in an art discussion and gave my opinion...

"Salvadore Dali, Vincent Van Gough, Worhol and Mannet were no talent hacks"

...I got read the riot act over the phone about how I am never to say that again....that chick went OFF...I just sat there grinning. I mean she was P!SSED.

I let her b!tchn moan....Cause I say what I actually think. I say lotsa thing that people don't agree with but, only very rarely do they take it personal.

People usually only take it personal when I am intentionally ripping open the deep scars.

Right, but why on God's gray Earth would anyone get offended by another person's opinions about artists? Is it worth blowing a gasket over?

I mean, I love Andy Warhol's work. But I know he's not everyone's cup of Brillo. And that's OK, why should that be an issue?

I get the deep scars part. I've noticed that, too. People get all bent out of shape if you get too close to the truth, or to something they perceive as truth. Like you're somehow exposing something they really really don't want exposed.

But....in the end, it's all just opinions and preferences and subjective thoughts and....and who cares? This woman that sent me the nasty e-mails, I really don't know what was on her mind today, I really don't care. She's exposed herself as the kind of person I try to avoid as much as possible. Did she really think that, by berating and disparaging me in an e-mail, I was suddenly going to change, to conform with whatever her delusional reality might be?

I don't think so....

Ehhhhhhhhhhhhh...........

Don't take it..........

Personally.......per say..........


I couldn't..........resist!!

Not that I have anything against cats, purr say....

Lex, just play like a duck and let it roll off your back. Some people just might like to have an excuse to put someone down anyway they can to make themselves feel better. You stick to your guns because if you settle for something that's not your ideal preference or your deal breaker, you'll always wonder if you should have waited just a little bit longer. That might be worse than just waiting for your right match to finally cross your path.

For sure -- every time I have ever relaxed the standards a little, I ended up in a hellish nightmare of torture and confusion, or married, which basically amounts to the same thing....

On here, unless it's someone I've gotten to know well, I don't take things personally.

lets face it; so many are so insecure that they are victims waiting for a place to happen. I wouldnt' sweat it.

There are more psychos these days but you deal with them by blocking them and moving on.