Im starting to question the reason why some of you women are here?
So,any woman between 25 - 45 looking to meet a guy?
Yes,i read your profiles but i think you just wana play games when
it's been weeks since i last chatted with you....ladies again im being as about as polite as i can be i need more to work from than your picture and profile....if your not honestly ready to at least hook up for fun you need to delete me off your list...last time im saying this start showing me some dedication if you want love instead of bitching about us guys wanting sex all the time ...you need to show us your dedicated...in return for that i will let you in my life and be yours to keep and you will get my heart....im going to start dismissing what i read eventually and my interest will go just to sex ...thats not what you want, playing around is not what i want

hmm well i like it both ways i guess being pursued though is just as fun as pursuing(actually very stimulating i think ) but i think it shows more sincerity and i guess that kind of character i respect and value the most....im just not the kind of guy to that i act without any reason and without intent....i am also a guy thats runs his own mowing operation and i sell dvds
so, i have ambitions and goals and unless i go doing things my way taking complete charge i just end up unsatisfied idk i never got anywhere relying on anyone...some people though get away with it and abuse it and become users....i just think a woman that has time to go make an account has time to respond back to me ..i respect others i will demand it back also ...take it however you want but im not a hard person to understand...im no different that anyone else and as soon as i get that kinda attitude you can count on me to fire right back ...very simple guy just trying to find his match ...maybe im not aiming for the right ones idk,how can me know anything when all some women ever think about it playing stupid? lol seriously it gets very old i don't need it im not tolerating it and im just going to do me ....maybe i will chat in the forum more often ...honestly this site has way more potential than other sites i have visited and thats just fact

well your absolutely right no argument there but i keep finding what i need to avoid ...this is getting really insane not to expect something different at some point..i have no idea what the problem is but i can say im not my problem...i will take the fact im not finding my match a good thing,true im not for just any girl so all the no answer stuff i will see as them not measuring up to me ...i think thats whats really happening here but like at some point surely there has to be someone on my league - i didn't know i was so hard to match lol Jesus ...
any ladies out there you think you can handle me im not your worthless ex that ran off and left you with 3 kids and slept at my home away from home behind bars ...when you come on here and say you want a good guy, do us a favor and define
"good" like what you see or i made you laugh...damit do something about it thats why i am here
thanks john

This is gonna go over as well as a fart in church. In my opinion, this approach will never work with women. Ultimatums never work and especially with the women on here!

Oh no, I don't have any stories at all but know how I'd react to an ultimatum. I tell guys on the job site that try and pull that stuff, I'd rather see them happy in the unemployment line than miserable on the job.

That often has a same magnetic pole reaction....repel!

I can understand your frustration. A lot of people on dating sites either don't know what they are looking for or are not seriously looking to be in a relationship. But, since I was one of those people for a long time, I'm not judging them. I understand their side, too.

Just realize this fact and accept it. Then go with the flow. Understand that online sites like this are just one of many places you may meet the right girl for you.

Join us more in the forums. It's a fun way to meet new people and a good distraction while you wait for the right person.

What do you want to see that they're dedicated to? Before you actually get to know someone, you're not going to see dedication toward you.

I think he means dedication to the process. The ability to go into something with a free and open heart. Doesn't meant the relationship will work out....just means you are open to the possibilities.

I get you John!...What I hear is this....You are here to find someone, you are ready, you joined for THAT reason.....But it's not happening because you can't "keep" a connection going in email....I know exactly what you are talking about because I have been down that road...When you ask for advice, you always hear "join in the forums, join in the forums!" " It's the best way to get to know someone, it's a good way to kill time while you wait for someone to come along."....All this is TRUE, but it doesn't apply to everyone...some peeps don't want to participate on the boards, it's just not their thing....So, how do you keep the email thing going long enough to take the next step?....You have to be able to hold another persons interest, you have to be able to stimulate their intellect, make them laugh, give them reasons to want to continue "typing"...Give them enough assurance to feel safe in trading phone numbers and private addy's with you....It's a two way street babe...Are you doing your part?.....

Excellent advice.

And may I add here just one thing,,,It also HELPS GREATLY TO BREATHE HARD WHILE TYPING,,,,,,oh,,,sorry,,,I guess that,,only works over the phone,,,sorry,,,please disregaurd that,,,,

I believe these to be facts:
1) There are more men than women on this site.
2) What Leigh said.
3) You are a total stranger, until proven otherwise.
4) Women sense when they are just 'one of many.'
5) The forums allow people to get to know you enough
to want to communicate with you.
6) Women are sorely turned off by negativism.
7) Mingle2 is only a tool, administered by you.
8) You, are the bottom line.

I can be open to the possibility of meeting someone new, but I'm not dedicated to it. If it happens, it happens.

Well, I don't want to speak for the OP and what he means. But when I say "dedicated to the process" I mean exactly what you are saying when you use the word "open". If I am dedicated to the process by which I may meet the man for me, I'm not going to stand him up when we finally agree to meet. Or suddenly realize I just don't really want a relationship after talking and making plans with someone.

Of course you may find that you don't like the person youve been talking to and want to end it. But that is because they are not the right person for you. Not because you suddenly decided you don't really want a relationship.

I also think a lot of people will use the excuse that they just don't really want a relationship when what they really mean is that they don't like you as much as they thought they did.

and........if it doesn't, it doesn't?

So you are a member here, you have a profile complete with pictures and some personal info, you participate in forums, that means you've done all you need to do to find love?..

I am not about to tell you how you feel or why you're here cause you are the ONLY one who knows, but if someone was taking bets and I was a betting woman, I would have to put my money on this horse... "You are not interested in finding love, MIngle is just a way to pass the time, a social venue, cheap intertainment"....

Leigh, you are so dead on with this

I've actually taken most of my profile out. Mingle is a way to pass the time.

If I meet someone, awesome. This is certainly not the only way to meet people, though.

Thank you BB!!..

I guess I just think dedication is an odd word to use there.

On another site, there are lots of questions to answer. One was asking if dedication or passion was more important in a relationship. For me, dedication would not come until later on, once we've established wanting to be in a relationship. Until then, it's being open to something and then passion once it starts. Otherwise, there will be nothing to be dedicated to.