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Topic: is it wrong?
Hobgoblyn2021 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 8	Mon 02/27/12 07:48 PM Edited by Hobgoblyn2021 on Mon 02/27/12 07:51 PM
my question is one that has been concerning me for some time.... im a married women and active on this site because my hubby says that i can have a girlfriend. he says that he understands that i have needs he cant always fill so he wants me to get a gf..... is this wrong? and if not, who in there right mind is going to date a married women.... i know what some ppl must be thinking and hes not like that.... hes not into having multiple girls at once

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 02/27/12 07:51 PM
my question is one that has been concerning me for some time.... im a married women and active on this site because my hubby says that i can have a girlfriend. he says that he understands that i have needs he cant always fill so he wants me to get a gf..... is this wrong? and if not, whi in there right mind is going to date a married women.... just askin from the subjective perception of 'wrong' if your husband really means what he says, and you are both convinced that this would be a 'need', as opposed to a mere desire its only as wrong as it makes you or he feel,,,,, (from my own perspective, being married should bar any other romantic relationships, regardless of gender)

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 02/27/12 07:51 PM
I'm guessing you feel it's wrong, since you feel the need to ask.

Hobgoblyn2021 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 8	Mon 02/27/12 07:55 PM
i dont think its wrong per say, but i do have my doubts.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 02/27/12 08:01 PM
It's certainly not the norm. but I know couples who have had open marriages/relationships, threesomes, etc. It's not usually something that lasts very long, at least from what I've seen.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 02/27/12 08:04 PM
i dont think its wrong per say, but i do have my doubts. well to me your husband sounds like a right prize idiot and do not let anyone else pressure you into something you do not want sexually of course he can satisfy all of your needs - he needs to man up and do so

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Mon 02/27/12 08:08 PM
I get the feeling there's a lot more to this story that you left out.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 02/27/12 08:43 PM
I'm guessing you feel it's wrong, since you feel the need to ask. Was going to say the same thing...

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 02/27/12 08:45 PM
in my opinion, if you think it may be wrong for your marriage and you're having your doubts it's better to not do it at all.

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Mon 02/27/12 09:00 PM
i dont think its wrong per say, but i do have my doubts. well to me your husband sounds like a right prize idiot and do not let anyone else pressure you into something you do not want sexually of course he can satisfy all of your needs - he needs to man up and do so Maybe he can't? He did say she can have a GIRLfriend, not a BOYfriend....

Hobgoblyn2021 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 8	Mon 02/27/12 09:07 PM
I get the feeling there's a lot more to this story that you left out. the parts i left out, i left out for a reason. there not for this thread and are a bit personal. i only asked what i felt could be answered and/or givin another angle to be looked at from

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Mon 02/27/12 09:14 PM
i dont think its wrong per say, but i do have my doubts. well to me your husband sounds like a right prize idiot and do not let anyone else pressure you into something you do not want sexually of course he can satisfy all of your needs - he needs to man up and do so Maybe he can't? He did say she can have a GIRLfriend, not a BOYfriend.... I was waiting for someone else to cop that.

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Mon 02/27/12 09:16 PM
I get the feeling there's a lot more to this story that you left out. the parts i left out, i left out for a reason. there not for this thread and are a bit personal. i only asked what i felt could be answered and/or givin another angle to be looked at from I'm not judging you

Aijaz66 Joined Sun 02/26/12 Posts: 3	Mon 02/27/12 09:19 PM
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HawaiiMusikMan Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 3548	Mon 02/27/12 09:37 PM
my question is one that has been concerning me for some time.... im a married women and active on this site because my hubby says that i can have a girlfriend. he says that he understands that i have needs he cant always fill so he wants me to get a gf..... is this wrong? and if not, who in there right mind is going to date a married women.... i know what some ppl must be thinking and hes not like that.... hes not into having multiple girls at once I think that if that's your thing, you should pursue it and let him go. He's just trying to hang on and deep down isn't really okay with it. I'm sure there's more to this, but that is my 2 cents from what I've been given.

JERMANICUS Joined Sat 01/28/12 Posts: 597	Mon 02/27/12 09:38 PM
No it's not wrong at all if he gave you permission.

Traday22 Joined Tue 02/21/12 Posts: 17	Mon 02/27/12 10:06 PM
It's not wrong if y'all have an agreement and he is fine with it.. But you as a married woman will have to understand the women you might get involved with won't see you as their gf more as someone they can come to until they find what they're really lookin for.. I'm a lesbian so I know all about what could happen in this particular situation, make sure you are clear on what you want from that woman cause it could turn into a messed up situation.. Otherwise,have at it

Hobgoblyn2021 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 8	Mon 02/27/12 10:20 PM
I get the feeling there's a lot more to this story that you left out. the parts i left out, i left out for a reason. there not for this thread and are a bit personal. i only asked what i felt could be answered and/or givin another angle to be looked at from I'm not judging you lol sorry, i didnt think you were. i just felt maybe i wasent clear and thought i would clarify.... no worries :)

Hobgoblyn2021 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 8	Mon 02/27/12 10:24 PM
It's not wrong if y'all have an agreement and he is fine with it.. But you as a married woman will have to understand the women you might get involved with won't see you as their gf more as someone they can come to until they find what they're really lookin for.. I'm a lesbian so I know all about what could happen in this particular situation, make sure you are clear on what you want from that woman cause it could turn into a messed up situation.. Otherwise,have at it i see yours and a lot of other ppls points too. i would of course lay out some boundaries to not just her but to him also. im not going into this blind. life has tought me that much.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 02/28/12 12:09 AM
I say go for it. Be honest about your intentions and just have blast with experimenting. Mo lovin=mo funin and zats all folks.