Do I stay so she has a family or is it better to leave even if things have a chance to get better?

I never had my real dad and I can't imagine taking my baby girls out of her life just because I don't feel love. Anyone in the same situation?

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Lots of factors to solving that equation.

Primarily, do you feel there are extended family members who perceive you as vulnerable? The hardest thing to do is claim your independence and gain financial support from the child's father.

Do you have your won family to support you in your decision to become a single mom? Your desire to have a child may be all your own. We don't know because you haven't stated anything..

Your not feeling love is important and reason enough to consider not being with the father. That may change or he just may not care about you and maybe even have a strong desire of his own to get an education and eek out a life that he feels he is entitled to.

When we're young we tend to run with the wind. We tend to run into the wind also.

Angels can do both and look good doing it.

There's a song to every question if we just stop to breathe.
There's another soul yearning who might be what you need.
A child's heart can tell you, just you wait and see.
Lucky you, those moments are all we know of free.

I appreciate your response :) Just want my baby to have a good life.

not enough information here

happiness is not a constant or tangible thing, we will be happy at times and unhappy at others regardless of our relationship status

I have been in an unhealthy relationship which I didnt want to be the pattern for my childs perspective of what is 'normal', we worked on it until one refused to work on it anymore and we went our seperate ways

I have been both the one who was tired of working on it and the one who was still willing to work on it,,


the one I left, still remained a part of his childs life, and I wouldnt have it any other way because he is a great father and I wouldnt remove a father from a childs life for ANY reason except that he was abusive towards them


if you stay and work on it,, great, if you leave, it doesnt mean that your child will not have a father anymore,,, parents and spouses have seperate roles,,,,


,,just a thought

Staying in a relationship with someone just because a child is involved does more harm to the child than the parents being separated. If the relationship isn't working, don't try to force it to work thinking it will help the child, it won't.

Thank you! That's the kinda advice I was lookin for.
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YW, I hope things work out for the best. If that means you and the father not being together, that certainly doesn't mean he can't have a happy and loving relationship with the child.

Pregnancy hormones have a way of messing up your thinking, feelings and emotions...at least it did in my case.

If I hadn't been so hormonal and not at my most rational during my last pregnancy, maybe I wouldn't be single today..who knows.

All I know is that I wasn't always myself but didn't realise that this was a result of my pregnancy until way after.

i worry about that! I've been very emotional and scared it could very well be that. Just not feeling loved and idk if its smarter to wait it out and see if I get over it or leave before I take her down with me!

How were things before the pregnancy? Has there been significant changes, other than the baby lately?

You must have been happy with the father at one time. Else there be no child.

That being said...

You must do what you think is right for the child to grow.

Strife will teach strife.

Love will teach love.

Love will make the child grow stronger.

I have a friend like that who is unhappy. She said that the guy told her that he was fixed. She said that it really hurt the guy that she had two girls with and she felt bad. But so many times I would see her come her come in with bruises from that guy beating her up. She has such a big heart but is coming to point of understanding that some people will just lie to you for their own selfish gains. She just keeps on picking out the bad boy type. I really wish I could help her and I have learned the best way to help her is not to give her any advice at all but just to be a good listener. She is just 26 but and I really want to give her tough love but she is just so dog gone cute. I just had to accept the fact that I am just too infatuated with her to give her the help that she needs.

I can say that hormones were really outta whack for my son's mom while she was pregnant, but I stayed, trying to make everyday as great as i could (Nearly impossible some days ^_^) aftarwards she started to calm down in about a month or so. She was more herself and was a great mom. I put up with alot of tourment, especially about how she thought I didn't love her anymore, or that I wasnt' attracted to her. But I stayed because I loved her, and because I loved him.

I don't have a relationship with my dad, and you learn from the mistakes, or your doomed to repeat them 6_^

Love is an action word. It doesn't come with strings, as that is really bartering. I love my family, speaking of which, it's time to get another bottle ready. When I don't feel loved, I turn it on myself and question whether I've been loving. As for the baby, the baby needs to see love to understand it. There's no better feeling today than when each of us kissed our daughter's cheeks in unison.