Topic: Attraction
miko1960's photo
Thu 02/23/12 09:22 AM
This one is for the ladies, how important are physical looks to you, at my place of employment, where there are a lot of single woman, I hear this quite often, there are many forms of attraction, physical looks being not the most important to a woman.

Now I don't consider myself the best looking guy around, however I am told that I carry myself very well, I think a big part of attraction is confidence in one's self, another compliment I receive quite often in my manner of dress, I have always tried to look my best when out in public, I am not the type of male that you see in the store that is dressed liked a teenager, and I guess I should mention hygiene, really guy's we need to clean ourselves daily, I have also noticed that woman have a much higher sense of smell than a man, smell can also be a big part of attraction.

So what I am asking you ladies, what do you find most attractive in a man.

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Thu 02/23/12 09:27 AM
Confidence is extremely sexy to me.
A man who knows what he wants and doesn't let anyone designate where he is going with his life.
He never second guesses himself.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Thu 02/23/12 10:25 AM
A nice dresser is pretty attractive once in a while. I sort of get tired of the guys in my age group thinking emo is the best thing since sliced bread. Annoying buggas grumble

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Thu 02/23/12 10:28 AM
I am Confident that........

Leather is......

Sexy!!!!

(thats my story and I'm stickin to it)

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 02/23/12 11:11 AM
Confidence is great as long as they are not cocky about it.....

Myself a smile that lights up the eyes get me every time.....bigsmile

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Thu 02/23/12 11:22 AM
There has to be some sort of attraction, so looks are important to a point. However, I am attracted to different kinds of men, so I'm not looking for just one type of look. As others have said, confidence is key. It will make you more attractive.

msharmony's photo
Thu 02/23/12 11:25 AM

This one is for the ladies, how important are physical looks to you, at my place of employment, where there are a lot of single woman, I hear this quite often, there are many forms of attraction, physical looks being not the most important to a woman.

Now I don't consider myself the best looking guy around, however I am told that I carry myself very well, I think a big part of attraction is confidence in one's self, another compliment I receive quite often in my manner of dress, I have always tried to look my best when out in public, I am not the type of male that you see in the store that is dressed liked a teenager, and I guess I should mention hygiene, really guy's we need to clean ourselves daily, I have also noticed that woman have a much higher sense of smell than a man, smell can also be a big part of attraction.

So what I am asking you ladies, what do you find most attractive in a man.



you hit the nail on the head

in cyber world, the first thing most see and therefore 'judge' is the picture, the physical appearance

in real life though, when we are actually interacting with bodies, confidence can pretty much create or kill attraction

the moat average physical entity can be the sexiest thing in the world when they are confident and carrying themself with integrity, respect for others, and self respect

the sexiest physical entity can turn away alot of people if they carry themself with excessive uncertainty

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Thu 02/23/12 11:54 AM
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Thu 02/23/12 11:54 AM

Confidence is extremely sexy to me.
A man who knows what he wants and doesn't let anyone designate where he is going with his life.
He never second guesses himself.


This...confidence but not over confidence along with honesty and integrity are also attractive features.

I agree with msharmony, a unfortunate aspect of online dating is that most people tend to go with visual features to define attraction but this says nothing about the person other than that they are good looking and/or look good in clothes, nothing more.

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Thu 02/23/12 11:55 AM
Being attracted to someone's looks is not just an online thing.

Goofball73's photo
Thu 02/23/12 12:03 PM
Dude, you can look awesome but if you don't have confidence in yourself, then chicks pick up on it. I don't care what type of clothing you wear. If you wear it well, then chicks notice it. You can be outgoing and confident. You can be shy and a little quiet but if you have the confidence to pull it off, you are golden. Lesson is....be confident in you.

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Thu 02/23/12 12:13 PM
Edited by Ghostrider2u on Thu 02/23/12 12:14 PM
I met a lady who was drop dead gorgeous.
Attractive in soooo manys...(physically)
Great set of.......well....you know.....
and legs......

Then......

She opened her mouth.


Sounded like a frantic demon of satan.
She had no confidence in herself or anyone else.
Her self esteem had been beaten down lower than the place her voice came from.

Made her really easy to.........

Pass by!!!

We all are attracted to the physical first.....but for most of us
there has to be more.
There has to be "someone Home"
Confidence
Self respect...(without it ya can't respect anyone else)
Some assemblance of....Intellegence
A sense of humor......

Just to name a few..........

soufiehere's photo
Thu 02/23/12 01:26 PM
It literally can be anything, that attracts you.
A certain swagger, a hooded eye once-over, a
shy look, a devil look, the flash of recognition,
the smile of humor, an easy vibe.

It is like they say actors whould be.
Prepared, so that when your Luck arrives
you are ready.

If you are you, it can be.
With anyone.

no photo
Thu 02/23/12 07:06 PM
I am attracted to a heart. A man who shows goodness and kindness to others

I like tall men but really it is what is on the inside...I have been very attracted to men not much taller than me because they were kind

a sense of humor is attractive

a man who let's me know that I am the one he wants is just downright impossible to resist when the attraction is mutual

flirtatious types = big turn off (as in flirting with other women when he is with me)

pyxxie13's photo
Sun 02/26/12 08:36 PM

I met a lady who was drop dead gorgeous.
Attractive in soooo manys...(physically)
Great set of.......well....you know.....
and legs......

Then......

She opened her mouth.


Sounded like a frantic demon of satan.
She had no confidence in herself or anyone else.
Her self esteem had been beaten down lower than the place her voice came from.

Made her really easy to.........

Pass by!!!

We all are attracted to the physical first.....but for most of us
there has to be more.
There has to be "someone Home"
Confidence
Self respect...(without it ya can't respect anyone else)
Some assemblance of....Intellegence
A sense of humor......

Just to name a few..........

I had myself a good laugh..thanks! laugh
I do agree.