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Topic: Friends with Benefits
ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Fri 02/03/12 11:10 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why.

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Fri 02/03/12 11:22 PM
Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 02/03/12 11:28 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. YOU,,just like to make ME TYPE,,don't YA? FWB,,,Personally,,I think almost everyone has had one at some time,,or another..Imean for THIS TERM HERE IN ITS TEXT. What is a date with an old girl or boy friend all about? Gettin some you already know is there? RIGHT? Right.. So with FWB,,you have THAT ANYTIME YOU LIKE, BUT STILL GET TO EXPLORE OTHERS? SO,,,many use these phrases like its something NEW,,and THEY have been around in USE since our beginnings.. NOW,,,,as for TRUTH OF THIS BEING A PERSON REAL LIFE TALKED ABOUT ORDEAL? NOT GONNA HAPPEN? WHY? Because MANY feel that IF they say their involved in ONE,,,OTHERS WILL SEE THAT AND THEM AS CHEAP! SO,,THEY HAVE THEM,,,,,,But the SAY THEY DON'T! AND THAT TO ME IS JUST BULLSHIIT because ANY MAN OR WOMAN should be able to talk freely about them to each other and the WORLD,,as THEIR IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING THEM.. I have dated some women who talked ONLY of LOVE and LONG TERM,,,just to get involved with them,,and find out THEY HID THEIR FWB,,,? And never told me about them,,because they felt,,THEY COULDN'T,,,or I would NOT respect THEM.. THIS IS ME HERE,,and I WANT TRUTH,,,hell,,even IF SHE'S A HOOKER,,,I can handle ANY TRUTH,,,but lies feed more lies,,and HIDE A PART OF YOU,,,so WHY DO THAT? OK,,my typing is tired,,,lol, Hope that helps you understand my thoughts into these FWB friends,,,,

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Fri 02/03/12 11:31 PM
absolutely.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 02/04/12 01:35 AM
Yes I could because for me, my friends with benefits relationship would be like any other relationship that I would have. We would be exclusive, not date other people and spend quality time together. The only difference in my mind, is that we wouldn’t be talking about moving forward i.e. cohabiting/planning a life together. I also think that it’s up to the two people involved to define the nature of their friends with benefits relationship so that it is clear to both parties what's expected.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sat 02/04/12 12:49 PM
This quesion is easier for chicks....you don't gotta feel wierd when a goatee is scratching your nuts........ just sayin........ ..oh hell...were you talking about my chick friends?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/04/12 01:03 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. If you're not seeing other people, it sounds an awful lot like a relationship, rather than a friends with benefits thing.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Sat 02/04/12 01:21 PM
Ya know, I don't understand how folks can do FWB. Because after a while of getting the benifits, I think that one of the friends will get emotionaly involved more than the other friend. Then there goes the friendship.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 02/04/12 01:23 PM
Did somebody say friends with benefits?!!?!!!...where can I get one????

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Sat 02/04/12 01:27 PM
Ya know, I don't understand how folks can do FWB. Because after a while of getting the benifits, I think that one of the friends will get emotionaly involved more than the other friend. Then there goes the friendship. we should test your theory out

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 02/04/12 01:27 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. FWB doesn't mean exclusive to each other. I thought that was one of the selling points of it. Either way it's not for me. Sex and love are not things that I treat lightly, so FWB has never appealed to me.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 02/04/12 01:28 PM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 02/04/12 01:29 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. If you're not seeing other people, it sounds an awful lot like a relationship, rather than a friends with benefits thing. [/quote I could be wrong but in my mind friends with benefits is different from a no strings attached relationship. Am I wrong? Or is it one in the same?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/04/12 01:45 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sat 02/04/12 01:45 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. If you're not seeing other people, it sounds an awful lot like a relationship, rather than a friends with benefits thing. I could be wrong but in my mind friends with benefits is different from a no strings attached relationship. Am I wrong? Or is it one in the same? No strings attached? Yes. Exclusive? No.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Sat 02/04/12 02:06 PM
Ya know, I don't understand how folks can do FWB. Because after a while of getting the benifits, I think that one of the friends will get emotionaly involved more than the other friend. Then there goes the friendship. we should test your theory out Who is this WE you speak of? You and the mouse in your pocket? I know you quoted me, but Leigh is looking for a FWB. But it would be great if you share with the class on how your experiment went.

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Sat 02/04/12 02:09 PM
Ya know, I don't understand how folks can do FWB. Because after a while of getting the benifits, I think that one of the friends will get emotionaly involved more than the other friend. Then there goes the friendship. we should test your theory out Who is this WE you speak of? You and the mouse in your pocket? I know you quoted me, but Leigh is looking for a FWB. But it would be great if you share with the class on how your experiment went. get thee behind me woman! leigh has a "friends first" clause in her profile

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Sat 02/04/12 02:15 PM
Ya know, I don't understand how folks can do FWB. Because after a while of getting the benifits, I think that one of the friends will get emotionaly involved more than the other friend. Then there goes the friendship. we should test your theory out Who is this WE you speak of? You and the mouse in your pocket? I know you quoted me, but Leigh is looking for a FWB. But it would be great if you share with the class on how your experiment went. get thee behind me woman! leigh has a "friends first" clause in her profile Ok I am confused, isn't that the whole point of Friends with benifits? Friend first. Go friend her first. Sheesh.

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Sat 02/04/12 02:20 PM
why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial?

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Sat 02/04/12 02:25 PM
Ok, maybe I should clarify a little more my thoughts on the subject. Why would a guy, say no to just a relationship with a little time spent together every now and then and sex included? If he's not the marrying type, doesn't want kids and wants to be intimate with a woman and only one woman at a time. When the two find the real relationship they are looking for then you go your separate ways on good terms. I wouldn't want to sleep around, there's to many risks out there. But if you know someone and trust them and you both enter an agreement as such why not. I just thought men would never pass up a deal like that.

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Sat 02/04/12 02:27 PM
he doesn't wanna bang ya. the end.

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Sat 02/04/12 02:29 PM
why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial? Don't like the benefits just say so, they should understand. As adults we should act responsible towards each other.