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why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial? Don't like the benefits just say so, they should understand. As adults we should act responsible towards each other. you said a mouthful there 
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he doesn't wanna bang ya. the end. Dang, how'd you know it was me! 
Everything was cool for 3 yrs. I met him here, we had our ups and downs, we both wanted different things in life but the time spent together was always good. He knows me well, I'm not a nut case, if he found someone else that's ok, cause I'm not emotionally attached anymore. But I'm not going to delete my profile from here or stop looking for the relationship I truly want, just to adapt to his wants. I should have posted the topic saying, "My friend just cut off my benifits."
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why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial? Without the friends first part or even just friends, wouldn't that be just like a one night stand, repeted once a month or so? Without the friends part you might as well just f@ck buddies. A casual acquantence that you might or might not like but just have sex with each other. |
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why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial? Without the friends first part or even just friends, wouldn't that be just like a one night stand, repeted once a month or so? Without the friends part you might as well just f@ck buddies. A casual acquantence that you might or might not like but just have sex with each other. you convinced me, i'm in 
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why does friends with benefits have to start with friends first? what if we become friends and then the benefits are not all that beneficial? Without the friends first part or even just friends, wouldn't that be just like a one night stand, repeted once a month or so? Without the friends part you might as well just f@ck buddies. A casual acquantence that you might or might not like but just have sex with each other. you convinced me, i'm in
Excuse me for interupting. |
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maybe in myrtle beach!!
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I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. FWB doesn't mean exclusive to each other. I thought that was one of the selling points of it. Either way it's not for me. Sex and love are not things that I treat lightly, so FWB has never appealed to me. 
agreed - I will just say no - I'll pass |
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I would not ever have an FWB. I do not take matters of the heart lightly. Yeah.. I'm all backed up and everything,but it's just not worth it. If it ever did happen I could lose a friend in the process and friendship is to important to me to take that risk.
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no, I dont think I can do something like that. when I have someone I tend to develop feelings for them, and want a relationship. I cant make love to a man, time and time again and not want him to love me. and women shouldnt accept a relation like that.
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I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. If you're not seeing other people, it sounds an awful lot like a relationship, rather than a friends with benefits thing. I could be wrong but in my mind friends with benefits is different from a no strings attached relationship. Am I wrong? Or is it one in the same? No strings attached? Yes. Exclusive? No. Not exclusive. From what I understand it's an as and when type of thing. no dating/socialising just sex. |
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Ive tried a FWB Relationship it eventually ended because I want more than that and I realized that by being in a relationship with him I was hindering myself from finding what I really wanted.
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. |
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. Only issue I had was that I loved her and it made it harder for me to move on, she had already found her new interest but she enjoyed me in that way more. was very messed up in my situation. We are still friends as she is the mother of my children and all, I just could not continue a sexual relationship if I wanted to detach myself from her. |
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. Only issue I had was that I loved her and it made it harder for me to move on, she had already found her new interest but she enjoyed me in that way more. was very messed up in my situation. We are still friends as she is the mother of my children and all, I just could not continue a sexual relationship if I wanted to detach myself from her. Yeah, in your case, probably wasn't a good move. |
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. Only issue I had was that I loved her and it made it harder for me to move on, she had already found her new interest but she enjoyed me in that way more. was very messed up in my situation. We are still friends as she is the mother of my children and all, I just could not continue a sexual relationship if I wanted to detach myself from her. 
 BUT,,with a DIFFERENT woman,,,,
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. Only issue I had was that I loved her and it made it harder for me to move on, she had already found her new interest but she enjoyed me in that way more. was very messed up in my situation. We are still friends as she is the mother of my children and all, I just could not continue a sexual relationship if I wanted to detach myself from her. Yeah, in your case, probably wasn't a good move. oh it was very stupid very very, as I become more comfortable her and you all get to know my situation a little better (those who want to anyway) you will ask me why i even talk to her let alone would continue sleeping with her lol. |
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Yeah if you are close with someone and you are both willing to fulfill each others needs until you find what your looking for. I could handle it as long as I had no previous history with them, I tried that with my ex after we split and is not working out well. If it is just to fill that need no problem I could handle it and not become attached, but if I actually have feelings for them no I would want it all. I had a FWB going on with one ex gf and it worked out quite well. We split on good terms (obviously) after deciding that neither of us were what the other wanted/needed, but we'd still remain friends (with the occasional roll in the hay while still single). She was a bit of nympho and we knew each other well and knew we're both 'safe'. We were already a couple for a relatively long time and knew that getting back together as a 'couple' wasn't gonna happen. So, all around, it was a hell of a lot better than just hooking up with a random anybody in a bar who could turn out to be a mass murderer, or have some disease or will rob you blind while you're taking a leak. With any luck I'll never be single again, but just in case, I'd do that again in a second. the beginning first year and about the last year of my time with my ex BF was kinda like this - at first he did not want any attachment or commitment- then we both did - then I didn't....we could never seem to be on the same page at the same time. even tho we clearly cared about each other - so the safe sex thing I get that, but I still would never start as FWB again because of the drama and if someone says there is no drama - I would not believe them - and by drama I mean all the emotional upheavals of trying to decide what kind of relationship it's going to be and wrestling over whether there's gonna be a commitment....I'd rather have some of that thinking & talking done before I become intimate even if it's one partner's perception that both are equally unaffected emotionally from the no attachment status that likely is not true - most often one partner does end up wanting a commitment - so it ends a mess and someone gets hurt.... |
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Feh.
Not interested. If I want benefits then it has to be more than friends. I don't wanna have sex w/my friend and I don't want to befriend my lover. I have to love my lover and be friends with my friends. Having a sexual relationship for me could be described as a very special and exclusive friendship which transcends friendship and only gives me what I need when both of us feel the same way about it. It's too late for me. I have experience and now anything less is too much less. |
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Edited by
bramgirl
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Sun 02/05/12 02:16 AM
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Pfffft! She ain't getting off that easy. I want breakfast in the morning. And in return, I'll give her massages. Yo!
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