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Morning Ese! .....You burning hunk of man flesh!!!

^^This.

agree

anything less is settling

not gonna work

As for the no socializing part, it really depends on the people. For some, it can just be sex. For some, they may actually be friends.

FWB relationships have a time and place all their own.
Their not for everyone.
I enjoyed mine and we did go out socially, we were friends,
not drunk booty calls.
It's not so bad when it ends if ya know what your going into in the first place.

the way it is described on here it sounds like dating....anything from and to include drunk booty calls to pre relationship dating where u just decided not to pursue relationship or an exclusive commitment

so it sounds like dating that does not progress

but I suppose the FWB thing is different than dating in that with dating there is potential for things to progress but with the FWB it's understood from the beginning that it won't. At least this is what I am understanding from what I've read....

really never had quite that kind of relationship

That's my experience and understanding of it i.e. dating that does not progress but it's up to the two people involved to define what it is before it starts as it can mean different things to different people.

Also, there is an emotional attachment. If there isn’t, you may as well leave the money on the bedside table on your way out and get a snack on the way home.

I've only ever had that kind
of relationship once, so I can
only speak for myself.
For me it was a positive experience,
I have no regrets.

really

I can't quite imagine anything without some kind of emotional attachment.

I guess maybe No Strings....

And if the FWB culture has prompted folks to communicate a little better BEFORE they become intimate about their intentions, well that is certainly not a bad thing

but I still am in this gray area where I really do not think it is entirely possible to define for certain beforehand what will happen in a relationship - we can "intend" but not predict and control

so usually an FWB will end because 1 partner wants more or 1 partner meets someone who they do want to commit to

I can't see myself agreeing to an intimate relationship under that umbrella - friends, casual dating, yes

i think it's all about the friendship first. if you look at it from that point of view than everything will work out.

Different things work for different people. I think too many people look down on others for situations that don't work for them. If it was a positive experience, that's awesome.

I dig getting butt naked with my Mingle Mod woman....She is my love. ....and I get the benefits too!

Friends with benefits? If they ain't a friend...they are just a f**k.

stated as such I understand completely and agree

yuck to the latter

and I agree there is no point in looking down on anyone. What works for one person may not for the next

I think you can define the 'terms' beforehand. By terms, I mean making an agreement to not see other people, to date/socialise as well as how often to meet as part of your relationship.

This doesn't mean that it's a prescriptive relationship as it can be as spontaneous as much as you like.

I agree though, it isn't for everyone and as Smith said, it is all about the friendship and being with someone who's company you enjoy.

Oh absolutely! It's not even worth considering unless there is a positive friendship first

and I agree that you can define the terms beforehand and if that gets people communicating better, that's great

what I do think though is that it is a little naieve to think that we really can control what will happen in the future - so terms may need to be renegotiated

to agree to have sex together as friends with out a commitment or leave open the possibility for one is something I doubt I would agree to up front

doesn't mean that it might not work for someone else tho

You are right. You can't predict what will happen in the future but you know yourself and this type of relationship is no different from the ones that you'd normally have. So if you're the type of person that communicates with a partner, you'll tell him when it's not working and hope that he does the same.

well yes, it is different from the relationships that I would normally have.

I have not entered into any relationships before where there was an agreement that it would be FWB - with no intention that it could develop into something else.

Although I have had men try to bring that into things after we had already been seeing each other for a time, & that did create some friction.

This is why I like the improved communication ideas of talking about things up front that I am reading on here.

That is why I said that this is what I understand as the difference between "dating" that I have done, and "FWB" that I have not chosen - I have always dated with the intention that it was possible for the relationship to evolve into a commitment

Yes, I do hope to become better at communicating my needs and meeting those of my partner - I am an earnest person to the Nth degree. A partner who is genuinely interested in making things work will have no issues (serious ones) from me as long as we understand each other from the start - so I do like the up front communication ideas - once gain

Eh, a lot of people criticize what they don't understand.
It doesn't matter, we all get to do what we want.

We're still friends, years later so yea...positive things came
from that relationship, for both of us.