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| Topic: WHY CARE ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK? | |
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Ah, so you believe only ugly people should think others shouldn't be insecure. Odd way of looking at things. If you're labelling people as 'ugly' and 'looking good' then you're disagreeing with what she was trying to say, and you're judging people by their looks, which is what she was trying to say you shouldn't be doing or caring about when people do. I'm not disagreeing with what she's trying to say. I'm just trying to figure out what you're trying to say. You're too busy judging her and what she said, though. |
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I think if we were being truley honest with ourselves, there are times we all have insecurities. It is part of human nature. I try not to care about what other's think of me. I live a good life, try to be the best person I can be. But if I had a bad hair day? I cringe and go "oh well f***" I think that there are parts of us we try to improve on that is built on our own insecurities. For example...I use to be 330lbs, size 42. Now I am 170 and between a 10 and 12. It was my insecurities about my weight and caring about my looks, wanting to be able to attract others that caused me to work out to lose that weight. This is my opinion and just being honest. I have a hard time believing that everyone here doesn't have any insecurities. Also you can have confidence in yourself and still have insecurities. I think it is just important that you don't let those insecurities control your decisions but work on getting rid of them. Bettering yourself. Hope that makes sense. I also agree that everyone is beautiful. That is so true. I am a confident person in that I can do just about anything I put my mind too but very insecure about my looks which happens to be my biggest weakness. Other than that; I feel pretty good about the person I am. I think we all tend to hide our insecurities as others will see them as weakness and use it against us but that is JMO. |
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I always find it humorous when somebody who has pictures of themselves where they are wearing items of clothing and hairstyles etc that are designed to make them look good, are asking why people care about how people look. Oh the irony :D ...that's her style, what she's comfortable in. She is also, evidently, comfortable in her own skin. ..or would it only be acceptable for you if she made the comment and looked like a caveman? I really don't care what anybody thinks of me either I live my life the way I want to live it most importantly I love myself and self love is the best love there is . |
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First things first....there are plenty of ugly people out there...go to Wal-mart....you will see what I mean.
Secondly..I encourage people to dress like slobs and ignore the basics of grooming....when I stand next to them I look freakin gorgeous!!! :) |
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Hello folks, I have removed a couple of posts here. Most all of you know, by now, disparaging others is a violation of our forum rules. Please keep that in mind, in your posting. Thanks, Mark |
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I care about how I look for a couple of reasons...
Yes, I'm a slave to conformity in that I believe if you aren't exceedingly gorgeous, exceedingly ugly, exceedingly over/under/inappropriately dressed/made up...you blend into the crowd. I happen to like it there. Second reason I care, and why I get up just about every morning and shower, do my hair and makeup - is that I do it for ME. It's part of a ritual of taking care of myself when for many years I didn't care about me. I'll go dig a ditch after I'm "fixed" but pleeeeze let me have my morning routine. |
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hm.
do i care about how i look? i gotta look fly, so i suppose i do. do i care what you think about how i look? **** no. |
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If I care about what I look like, then it's for myself, not for others approval.
Sometimes I feel like getting all dolled up. Sometimes I feel like wearing sweats or jeans, no make and hair in a pony tail (yes I go out in public like that  ) I'm not out for others approval of me. I am confident in who I am...the good and bad. My computer ate my first post (never went through lol) oh how I hate modern technology sometimes 
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yay! I wasn't removed *runs amuck now* Amuck amuck amuck amuck!
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I'm sexy and I know it (if you don't get the LMFAO reference, then you'll probably think me shallow...either way...bite me)
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grrrr...let’s be honest here people.
it is completely impossible for you to go through your life (whether you are 20 or 90) and tell me that everyone you have come into contact with is beautiful. sure some of you think it sounds good to say such a thing, but the reality is that it’s not true. guess what, it doesn’t make you a bad person to be honest about it either. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but we all use different eyes, which means beauty may be different for each of us. |
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i'm pretty sure that's what they mean, dear.
so shut up. |
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong.
I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me. There is one woman who still thinks I am beautiful, and incidentally, she is grogeous. She is pursuing other boyfriends now, which is fine with me. It just hurts me when people placate their own backpedalling from dangerously unpopular statements, by uttering platitudes which, were they true, would make me the only exception on the globe, in a negatorivious way. |
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With me. I know I'm ugly and don't dress all that well. But. Do I care? No. I was born with my looks. When God created me, HE was happy with my looks. And to me. That's all that matters. I was NOT put on earth for a beauty contest. I was put on earth to serve God.
And if people don't like me. Well. I was not put on earth for a popularity contest. Like I said. I was put on earth to serve God. |
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I am going to go out on a limb here and answer the topic heading. I care about how I look, because I am the one that has to look in the mirror every morning. It makes me happy to look as nice as I can. The plus side to looking as nice as I can, little children do not run screaming down the street away from me.
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Hopefully taking into account my current situation, where my remaining biological parent is dying, it is painful to look in the mirror and know that where much of my looks came from is vanishing and once again I will not see the "face" I most want to see so others are not all that terribly important to me includeing my own. One thing that sticks in my mind about this conversation is it will not be my Dad's looks past or present but what I will remember is his gentle nature, modest personality, and rather meek confidence that was so easy to be around.
Have I, did I, do I notice looks. Sure but with me it is often what is familiar. |
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong. I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me. There is one woman who still thinks I am beautiful, and incidentally, she is grogeous. She is pursuing other boyfriends now, which is fine with me. It just hurts me when people placate their own backpedalling from dangerously unpopular statements, by uttering platitudes which, were they true, would make me the only exception on the globe, in a negatorivious way. 
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I think everyone is beautiful. I stand strong by that because my definition of beauty is not the standard definition. What makes a person beautiful to me is their heart and soul. Are they real? Do they enjoy life? How do they treat others?
I have met many beautiful on the outside women and men but they have an ugly heart? They are unattractive to me. So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. There is beauty in everything if you take enough care to look. |
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