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I think everyone is beautiful. I stand strong by that because my definition of beauty is not the standard definition. What makes a person beautiful to me is their heart and soul. Are they real? Do they enjoy life? How do they treat others? I have met many beautiful on the outside women and men but they have an ugly heart? They are unattractive to me. So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. There is beauty in everything if you take enough care to look. I agree with what you are saying but the general population doesn't think your way. People tend to criticize someone's looks and it makes you feel awful. I got to a point that I don't date anymore as what is the use? If men don't think my looks are adequate; why put myself out there? From reading the posts of others on this Thread; I know I am not alone for thinking this way. I wish people would see the beauty in others both inside and out but that isn't the way a human's brain is wired. |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong. I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me.  There is absolutely NOTHING ugly about you, inside or out!  There are enough people, in this world, who will give you chit, so you dont need to be one of them.  (know what im sayin?) You are nothing shy of adorable, and im sure im not the only one who thinks so.  If I ever hear you talk about yourself that way again, im putting you on "time out".   You happen to be speaking about someone, we all love very much!  
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I think everyone is beautiful. I stand strong by that because my definition of beauty is not the standard definition. What makes a person beautiful to me is their heart and soul. Are they real? Do they enjoy life? How do they treat others? I have met many beautiful on the outside women and men but they have an ugly heart? They are unattractive to me. So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. There is beauty in everything if you take enough care to look. I agree with what you are saying but the general population doesn't think your way. People tend to criticize someone's looks and it makes you feel awful. I got to a point that I don't date anymore as what is the use? If men don't think my looks are adequate; why put myself out there? From reading the posts of others on this Thread; I know I am not alone for thinking this way. I wish people would see the beauty in others both inside and out but that isn't the way a human's brain is wired. I tend to be the type of person that goes against the tide. I am fine with that. You are not alone in your thinking, you are right. I can just wish it wasn't so. There are so many risks in the world today. You take a risk crossing the street, you take a risk eating out, you take risks in your job, political stances..There are a lot of things we take risks on. Out of all of them I feel that love is the one worth the biggest risk. So I would say to you Navy and anyone out there that feels that way. You are beautiful and worth getting to know. Don't give up hope just because of the "general population" and don't let them make you feel awful. There is power in knowing yourself, loving yourself. I have insecurities. My insecurities don't lie so much with my looks anymore but how I see myself. I see myself as someone not worth the time. A waste of air at times. I work on this because I want better for me. I go to therapy and I work on this. I do volunteer work at the SPCA, and Habitat for Humanity because I need to prove to myself that I am not a waste of air. I am worth it. That is my biggest insecurity. I am laying this all out here for all to see, judge or what not because I have been taught by my therapist and by my experiences that we have the power to control how others make us feel. We are okay to have faults. We are human. There is no perfect package out there and that is okay. I have faith that one day, despite my faults that I will find that special someone, even when I say I wont(cause there are times I say I will never find my special someone, but I never believe it). Till then I adventure, embrace my life and myself. Those that say someone is not beautiful I have found are the ones that find themselves ugly so they need to put down others to feel better and need to go to hell...maybe therapy..which at times can be a form of hell. ;) ANYWAY, I hope this post doesn't offend anyone. It was not my intention. Apologies if it does. |
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hm. do i care about how i look? i gotta look fly, so i suppose i do. do i care what you think about how i look? **** no.  It could not have been said better!
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I think everyone is beautiful. I stand strong by that because my definition of beauty is not the standard definition. What makes a person beautiful to me is their heart and soul. Are they real? Do they enjoy life? How do they treat others? I have met many beautiful on the outside women and men but they have an ugly heart? They are unattractive to me. So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. There is beauty in everything if you take enough care to look. I agree with what you are saying but the general population doesn't think your way. People tend to criticize someone's looks and it makes you feel awful. I got to a point that I don't date anymore as what is the use? If men don't think my looks are adequate; why put myself out there? From reading the posts of others on this Thread; I know I am not alone for thinking this way. I wish people would see the beauty in others both inside and out but that isn't the way a human's brain is wired. I tend to be the type of person that goes against the tide. I am fine with that. You are not alone in your thinking, you are right. I can just wish it wasn't so. There are so many risks in the world today. You take a risk crossing the street, you take a risk eating out, you take risks in your job, political stances..There are a lot of things we take risks on. Out of all of them I feel that love is the one worth the biggest risk. So I would say to you Navy and anyone out there that feels that way. You are beautiful and worth getting to know. Don't give up hope just because of the "general population" and don't let them make you feel awful. There is power in knowing yourself, loving yourself. I have insecurities. My insecurities don't lie so much with my looks anymore but how I see myself. I see myself as someone not worth the time. A waste of air at times. I work on this because I want better for me. I go to therapy and I work on this. I do volunteer work at the SPCA, and Habitat for Humanity because I need to prove to myself that I am not a waste of air. I am worth it. That is my biggest insecurity. I am laying this all out here for all to see, judge or what not because I have been taught by my therapist and by my experiences that we have the power to control how others make us feel. We are okay to have faults. We are human. There is no perfect package out there and that is okay. I have faith that one day, despite my faults that I will find that special someone, even when I say I wont(cause there are times I say I will never find my special someone, but I never believe it). Till then I adventure, embrace my life and myself. Those that say someone is not beautiful I have found are the ones that find themselves ugly so they need to put down others to feel better and need to go to hell...maybe therapy..which at times can be a form of hell. ;) ANYWAY, I hope this post doesn't offend anyone. It was not my intention. Apologies if it does. Very well said. I don't feel anyone is a waste of air. Like you; I also volunteer with the community. I teach kids music and its very satisfying to see them learn. I also help out with the local food bank, the Drop In Centre, and the Veteran's food bank. I help these organizations as I know I have so much and they have so little. Makes me feel good to help those less fortunate. The fact is I do feel loved but by my friends and family. I am content knowing they will always be there for me and will accept me for not only the way I look but who I am as a person. As for beauty; they say its in the eye of the beholder so I suppose that holds true. I often think that when someone puts you down because of looks or weight is because they themself feel very insecure and perhaps making someone else feel bad makes them feel better. Its pathetic actually but people can be strange. As for your post; I don't think its offensive in any way. On the contrary; its very informative and I for one enjoyed reading it.
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Edited by
wux
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Thu 01/26/12 11:06 AM
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong. I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me. There is absolutely NOTHING ugly about you, inside or out! There are enough people, in this world, who will give you chit, so you dont need to be one of them. (know what im sayin?) You are nothing shy of adorable, and im sure im not the only one who thinks so. If I ever hear you talk about yourself that way again, im putting you on "time out". You happen to be speaking about someone, we all love very much! Okay, okay, lover. I will try to stay away from calling myself repulsive. But that sort of change can't happen overnight. I can't do the complete turn-around in one shot, so will it be okay, with your permission, if every new time I call myself ugly, then I'll tie myself to the bed, spank myself, and spank myself hard? and then have my way with myself. Hoo, boy... the sheer thought makes me hott... someone please bring in a huge chunk of ice for me to sit on. |
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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Thu 01/26/12 11:16 AM
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong. I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me. There is absolutely NOTHING ugly about you, inside or out! There are enough people, in this world, who will give you chit, so you dont need to be one of them. (know what im sayin?) You are nothing shy of adorable, and im sure im not the only one who thinks so. If I ever hear you talk about yourself that way again, im putting you on "time out". You happen to be speaking about someone, we all love very much! Okay, okay, lover. I will try to stay away from calling myself repulsive. But that sort of change can't happen overnight. I can't do the complete turn-around in one shot, so will it be okay, with your permission, if every new time I call myself ugly, then I'll tie myself to the bed, spank myself, and spank myself hard? and then have my way with myself. Hoo, boy... the sheer thought makes me hott... someone please bring in a huge chunk of ice for me to sit on. you would enjoy that too much,  so thats not gonna work!  How about every new time you call yourself ugly, I send Deano, Vinnie,and Nick, over to beat your azz.  Much better incentive, not to do it anymore, I think!  It really is for your own good honey.
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Edited by
Kat1974
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Thu 01/26/12 11:40 AM
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? Everyone has beauty to offer. As I said, for me it is the way you look at it. A simple smile holds beauty and how contagious is that? Everyone laughs. There is beauty in laughter. Someone holds the door open for someone..how beautiful is that one simple kind act? So yes, even those that are "ugly on the outside and the inside" can be beautiful too. It is all in your perception. If you are looking for just the ugly, you will find it. If you are looking for the beauty you will find it. |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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Thu 01/26/12 11:23 AM
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? So yes, even those that are ugly on the outside and the inside can be beautiful too. That makes absolutely no sense at all. You say everyone has beauty, well then they arent ugly on the outside and the inside, if somewhere, there is beauty. You say there is beauty in a smile. People who are ugly inside seldom smile. You say there is beauty in someone opening the door for you. People who are ugly on the inside, are generally not polite. These acts require beauty somewhere. |
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Those who say everyone on earth is beautiful, are patently wrong. I, for instance. I am ugly. Down-to-earth, dust-and-dirt ugly. People spend a lot of mental and emotional energy to force a smile on their faces when they deal with me. There is absolutely NOTHING ugly about you, inside or out! There are enough people, in this world, who will give you chit, so you dont need to be one of them. (know what im sayin?) You are nothing shy of adorable, and im sure im not the only one who thinks so. If I ever hear you talk about yourself that way again, im putting you on "time out". You happen to be speaking about someone, we all love very much! Okay, okay, lover. I will try to stay away from calling myself repulsive. But that sort of change can't happen overnight. I can't do the complete turn-around in one shot, so will it be okay, with your permission, if every new time I call myself ugly, then I'll tie myself to the bed, spank myself, and spank myself hard? and then have my way with myself. Hoo, boy... the sheer thought makes me hott... someone please bring in a huge chunk of ice for me to sit on. Well, you don't have to spank yourself. I could do it for you. 
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? So yes, even those that are ugly on the outside and the inside can be beautiful too. That makes absolutely no sense at all. You say everyone has beauty, well then they arent ugly on the outside and the inside, if somewhere, there is beauty. You say there is beauty in a smile. People who are ugly inside seldom smile. You say there is beauty in someone opening the door for you. People who are ugly on the inside, are generally not polite. These acts require beauty somewhere. I am quoting him, using his terms. I dont think anyone is all around ugly. That was my mistake for not using the " around "ugly on the outside and the inside" I will try to be more clear when I am expressing my opinion. Apologies. |
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? So yes, even those that are ugly on the outside and the inside can be beautiful too. That makes absolutely no sense at all. You say everyone has beauty, well then they arent ugly on the outside and the inside, if somewhere, there is beauty. You say there is beauty in a smile. People who are ugly inside seldom smile. You say there is beauty in someone opening the door for you. People who are ugly on the inside, are generally not polite. These acts require beauty somewhere. I am quoting him, using his terms. I dont think anyone is all around ugly. That was my mistake for not using the " around "ugly on the outside and the inside" I will try to be more clear when I am expressing my opinion. Apologies. Just dont contradict yourself, is all I was saying. 
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? ....apparently so, though I would be interested to know just what makes some of these people beautiful robert pickton, albert fish, charles manson, theoneste bagosora, hitler. I have many, many more, but I figure what’s the point, “everyone” is beautiful, right? |
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? So yes, even those that are ugly on the outside and the inside can be beautiful too. That makes absolutely no sense at all. You say everyone has beauty, well then they arent ugly on the outside and the inside, if somewhere, there is beauty. You say there is beauty in a smile. People who are ugly inside seldom smile. You say there is beauty in someone opening the door for you. People who are ugly on the inside, are generally not polite. These acts require beauty somewhere. I am quoting him, using his terms. I dont think anyone is all around ugly. That was my mistake for not using the " around "ugly on the outside and the inside" I will try to be more clear when I am expressing my opinion. Apologies. Just dont contradict yourself, is all I was saying. Fixed! I added the "".  On a completely OT sidenote? The always cracks me up. I dont know why. |
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? ....apparently so, though I would be interested to know just what makes some of these people beautiful robert pickton, albert fish, charles manson, theoneste bagosora, hitler. I have many, many more, but I figure what’s the point, “everyone” is beautiful, right? To each their own. I dont go out of my way to look for negatives. There is to much of that, that goes on. I respect those that have different views than me, welcome the debate. Maybe another view will alter my view, maybe my view will alter theirs. Who knows. Just because I think there is beauty in everything doesn't mean others do. There are horrendous acts by people, unforgiveable acts that have altered lives, the world, scarred millions.But from those horrendous unforgettable unforgiveable events there were acts of mercy, charity, bravery, boldness, an attempt to right a wrong to protect others so that it never happens again, so on and so on. Lessons. |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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I think everyone is beautiful..... So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole. And what about the people who are both ugly on the outside, and the inside? Are they beautiful too? ....apparently so, though I would be interested to know just what makes some of these people beautiful robert pickton, albert fish, charles manson, theoneste bagosora, hitler. I have many, many more, but I figure what’s the point, “everyone” is beautiful, right? Thats why I say, NO, everyone is not beautiful. If a person is ugly on the outside, and on the inside, I fail to see where their beauty is. Unless your someone who finds someone with no beauty at all, beautiful, and that makes entirely no sense. Interesting maybe, but not beautiful. Then again, there is such a thing as something being so ugly, its cute. But usually that referes to the outside, not the inside. Example:  Who knows? He might have the best personality ever, or be great in the sack!  I want one! Its adorable!  Im allergic to cats, badly! Not this one! I think they are all beautiful outside, in their own way. I am a Libra. And astrology says that "Libras find beauty in everything". I try to, but it doesnt always happen. |
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I want one! Its adorable! Im allergic to cats, badly! Not this one! I thought you had those two fixed!  |
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I want one! Its adorable! Im allergic to cats, badly! Not this one! I thought you had those two fixed! I WANT ONE OF THOSE TOO! ITS PRECIOUS! |
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I want one! Its adorable! Im allergic to cats, badly! Not this one! I thought you had those two fixed! I WANT ONE OF THOSE TOO! ITS PRECIOUS! Ummmm.......yeah........
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