The methods when it comes to Christianity are different than the methods of a regular person who isn't a Christian. For example: Christians do not believe in "fornicating" at any time. While the regular individual who is not a Christian, believes that if you are in a relationship long enough, it is ok. Most Christians that I have talked to, believe that looks should not matter at all, that no matter how a person looks, you should still be with them if their heart is right. As a Christian, what are some of your methods? I am a Christian myself, though I am not perfect. Though I pray for God to give me the strength.

I think the path is not easy. My method is abstaining, but its a challenge because touch and contact had become a large part of how I felt 'loved' and connected with someone else. I am learning to enjoy other expressions of love and connection instead.

I think sex and lust are so ingrained in us at this point much like hardness was ingrained upon our hearts in Jesus time. Those were recognized by Jesus himself when he advised them to give divorce papers to their spouses. Although he didnt promote it.

I think we are similarly very flesh centered and flesh motivated and though we are to wait until we commit to someone, what constitutes a commitment is not quite as well defined in the bible.

So, I think fornication is never 'right' outside of marriage. But I think it can become an addiction that is hard to break once you go there once,,,,,and we have to just do our best to overcome the addiction a little more each day,,,

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I am going to say what I believe as a Christian. I believe that we do not choose who we are with, yea it is our choice, but, God will bring us the one he see's fit for us. That's why we must ask and pray about these things. I believe as a Christian, it is important to pray about the person that you want to be with. We don't just end up with someone for no reason. Alot of Christians will wonder why it is so easy for everyone else to end up with someone, and even though alot of Christians are good looking, they wonder why they can't get dates or anything. Well, I also believe that dating isn't a Christian way, because in the bible a man would see a woman fitting and ask her to marry him. I do believe in getting to know someone, but, also, dating is almost like practicing a relationship. Let's say you go out on 5 dates and it doesn't work, well, what you did now was open your heart up a little by going out on dates, and now that this person doesn't want to see you anymore, one person will still have an emptiness and feel like they were emotionally involved, where as the other person had no feelings. To me, both people must start as friends and if either one of them feels like they might like the person, it should be talked about. There should be no dating to find out if you like someone. Speaking with a phrase, "you don't get to try the toy before it's made". You either like them or you don't. If you like them, and they like you, then you should be toegether, if not, then don't; simple as that. As for fornication, that is a big no. It is hard for all of us, but, if you have a problem with that, then pray about it. It's not easy for me either because I have made mistakes, but, that's because of getting too close before marriage. For me, sex is hard not to have once you've had it. Getting in a relationship will never be the same without it once you have had it before. That is why we are suppose to wait. If you want to be with someone who likes sex alot, then talk about it with the other person and find out if they are willing to do it alot. You still need to pray about it, because you might get married to someone who hates sex, but tricked you into marrying them. It happens, even in the bible days. You should probably get to know someone for a long time before trying to get into a relationship, so that way when you get into a relationship, you can get married a little after.

as a christian, you dont just go into relationships, you must go on your knees in prayer each time anyone approaches you, God will surly reveal if he or she is right or wrong.. As for sex, it is out of the question, though it may not be easy if you already deeply into it but with prayers and supplication you can overcome all temptation. Kill your flesh with prayer and fasting and you will hate sin.

There is a book called "Going All the Way" by Pastor Craig Groeschel. It is quite honestly the most eye opening and reassuring book for christians who can open their hearts and minds to having a marriage that lasts a lifetime. I am not engaged or married but this book has helped me understand what I want as a folllower of Christ. Its absolutely amazing.

relationship is not a Christian life but engagement till married

Wow! This Christian lady lays down some very important facts about finding a mate!

http://christianhusband.org/blog/christian-dating-how-to-know-if-this-is-the-one.html

well lust is a very strong force thats why d bible says 'flee' u cnt stand it,bcs no mata hw strng u tink u r,though ur body doesnt react trust me u mind wil if u dnt exit dat place and pray.
D devilt knws we cn sin even in thoughts so he doesnt hv 2 mak u hv sex JST TINK IT IS HIS 2DAYS MOTTO.
I PERSONALY AVOID GTTIN 2 CLOSE 2 D OPP SEX.I CNT SAY HW 2 ACT WITH A BOYFRIEND BCS I HAVNT HAD DAT XPERIENC SINC I GOT BORN AGAIN.

Thank you for your advice, Cooltryica!

You are a very wise woman,

and God's Blessing are upon you

simply because you are His.

It has been more important to improve my relation to Christ at this point in my life than to another person. Christ has a lot of verses about friendship in the New Testament. Christ even gives the Readers Digest version of the ten commandments by condensing it down to two. I keep working on friendships. Here is an old love poem of mine.

Unfaithful To The World

How can you be faithful
to humanity when you feel
the love for one?
By keeping it to yourself
and telling no one.
Is it better to have loved
someone for who they are
even though they may
not feel the same for you?
I feel it is
but I am not everyone.
Are some people incapable
of true love but only
want a cheap facsimile?
To each his own
is what was always
told to me.
Even though I think
I have been faithful
to you all, I keep feeling
to me I was unfaithful.

Being a Christian & trying to date is Hard! I do agree that you must pray & ask Christ for these things because I do believe in "soulmates" as the world would call it. I do believe that just as Eve was fashioned for Adam, I've been designed by God to be someone's help mate, since the foundation of the earth. We have become shallow along the way because looks & material status plays a big role on how we base our choices. Men just do not know how attractive you are when your heart is after God because it tells me as a woman you will treat me right. Before looking for a partner, let God heal you from your past first, let Him heal any brokenness that still resides in you & only than will you be able to ask God for a partner. Only then will you be the best partner to your partner. Seek God first :)

I live in a small town in new zealand. I have not met any1 at church i am attracted to. I just could not marry any1 that i dont admire inside & outside. So that leaves me single for 13 years. Waiting for God is hard at times going insane!

courtship is the right word and to court over a long period of time is not ideal . Basically for me i believe not having sex or making love before marriage cements the union and also attracts unmerited favour from GOD .

The Lord God has planted beautiful seeds
in the hearts of His Children!