maybe, someone here who's gonna solve my prob.

Well,i like a girl from my college for the last three years by now...I don't think she likes me; maybe thinks me as her friend! just a stupid/simple friend who's always there to help her out....

Even Now, I love this girl and i did let her knw about my feelings towards her on the 14th of feb., two years ago!
As expected i got a "NO" to my proposal and she also lts me know that she thinks: "i am better as a friend and not as a boyfriend!"
Ofcourse, i ws hurt! :/

Though i never proposed her again, i still care for her and her family.. i use to worry about them even in the slightest things, use to call her daily, gift her..and sNs.

Well, the prob. is - she behaves as if she don't even care about what i do. She never use to call me up, unless there's a problem, she would give a misscall;if she sometimes wantd to talk (though for a little while or for some purpse)

I feel like as if she don't have the slightest respect for me.!!

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I tried to avoid her, but i couldn't.... After a week, she called me up and scolded me - why am i not calling her! i tried to ignore her for some more days..but, it seemed as if she don't give a **** to it anymore!

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Why i can't leave her, huh?? Why?? What do you guys thinks i should do??
Or any ways you can suggest to make her miss me O fl for me??

I will lose her forever if i do that, dude!! :(

Well, yeah. perhaps you are right. i must make this happen, even if i don't want to....

Earlier i tried to, but i couldn't. she use to share each and everything with me...whnevr she had a hard time. but all she thinks me as hr frnd and nt a single step beyond tht.. :/
i fl sory 4 her (her mom left her when she was just 12.) and nobody's to look after the famly.. (her fathr seems too careless to look after the fam) maybe, this might be one other reason for her "f**k whoever else aftr me" attitude!
But thanks, klc. i guess that's the only way out. though i havn't thot bwt it to tht much tht it spoils my creer or my personal lyf; i think i should do it b4 it takes a serious turn!!
Have a great tym ahead, dude! thnk you.... :)

She's using you.

Dump her and move on. Find a real friend.

If she was at least a FRIEND she wouldn't treat you like that and for her to call you and scold you for not calling you have to be kidding. Stand up for your self and stop being a wimp about it. If she doesn't have the decency to return your call then tell her to piss off and move on. You will never get over her if you keep running back. Been there done that. And if you think your hurting now keep loving her and find out 10- 20 yrs from now she never loved you then you will see what hurt is. The ball is in your court.

Sorry hun .. but you are in the "friends" zone for her. Either make the most of what she does offer you and stop obsessing over her or cut the friendship loose. I am sorry it sounds so bad..but sometimes you have to remove the things that hurt you in life in order to overcome them. Good luck to you. You appear to be sweet and you are definitely a very handsome young man.

i agree with you, dude!!

thank you....perhaps you all are right. She dnt deserves me.

It seems to me that the only thing you could lose is the fantasy that there is a chance of having a relationship. I will tell you what I have told my sons who are about your age. If a girl really cares about you, she will move heaven and earth just to see you smile. My older son thought I was nuts until he met his present girlfriend and found out it was true.

Don't waste your time with this girl. The girl who may be the right one could be right in front of you and you are too busy obsessing to even notice.

Good Luck!

You made me smile now! thank you, :)

Problem One is she's treating you this way in the first place.

Problem Two -- much bigger -- is that you're allowing it.

Sometimes you just have to pull the plug.

hmmm...... no use of taking revenge! i'll just try to move out....

Revenge accomplishes nothing. You only diminish yourself.

"Don't waste your time with this girl. The girl who may be the right one could be right in front of you and you are too busy obsessing to even notice."


I agree with this 100%. After 3 years, you must accept that it's not going to happen. Don't allow yourself to be used, it builds resentment down the road. It devours self esteem and cripples you from finding the someone who will love you and bring you happiness.
You are a nice guy, shine that light on someone who will appreciate you.

I agree with this. I'm not one for ignoring someone, but if they're treating you like this, you need to stop allowing it. And to do that, you need to stop responding to them all together. Good luck.

Moving on helps you to keep your dignity and respect for yourself. I think this might be what be that one guy was talking about of why you can't be in your own shadow. Especially when you look at it from the light angle. Have you ever seen one person say that you were blocking the light while another person would say thank you for blocking the light because it was in their eyes? It is good sometimes to get a second opinion or maybe even more.

I don't think that you have her to loose dude!

Why would want to have someone in your life that treats you badly?

For others to love you and appreciate you, you need to love yourself first...it's not rocket science dude!

:)

just wow

there is nothing for you to lose so don;t worry about that

I have someone ignoring me for a whole lot less

you would do well to learn to respect yourself and find someone who respects you

I have no understanding why you have any interest in this woman

i don't understand this even...but, i have decided to move on!!