no, not in my world

again

not in my world

calling me a biotch or a slut would be a fast track to the exit

It depends on when you grew up.

If you grew up more than a few decades ago, you learned that '*****' was a mean spirited, hurtful, insulting term that implied that a woman's undesirable qualities might be due to her being a woman - as if men could not be *******.

If you grew up within the last couple decades, you learned that ***** was a term of affection for women you like.

I know many women under 25 who use the word ***** in a positive way, but its super rare to find woman over 40 who use (or accept) the word ***** in a positive way.

You all are overreacting about this topic. Get over it

I bet it depends on who is calling someone a *****. I doubt even the women who don't mind the word would accept it from everyone.

As with children and pets, it is ALL
in the way it is said.
And as singmesweet said, WHO says it.

I am pretty fussy about it

but that's me

Ihave seen a wider acceptance of the term in recent years almost in reaction to it's original meaning, but if a man called me that - even joking I would most likely be offended

some exceptions might be possible but I can't think of any offhand

case in point

ah well

bath time

That is just genuine man humor. Ironical.

And sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

I know punkin

new thread topic...when is a cigar not a cigar?

When indeed someone is, consciously or not, being manipulative.

When someone tells somebody they are "overreacting", sometimes
it just means that that person is really overreacting.

in your opinion (or mine as the case may be)

they may not feel that way at all

usually a strong reaction to something means there's more going on than what we realize as observers

accusing someone of over reacting can also be another one of those manipulative shut downs - in a worst case scenario (to cover tracks of misdeeds)


in a personal sense when guys tell me I'm over reacting I usually laugh because I'm pretty circumspect - if I react strongly to something there's a reason and if someone tries to shut me down by telling me I am over reacting I would take that as disrespect -I doubt there'd be much left to talk about at that point

So...I got this Al Caporn flick....that cigar gets abused....alot.

I can just imagine....does it have multiple partners?

i say its just a vicious circle one man treats them bad the next nice on catches hell for it .i know some men are bad an i know some women are just bad (evil).you can be mentally or physically abused in a relationship wheather you are male or female to classify all of us in the same way hurts the next nice on who in turn hurts the next nice girl thats why im up front an honest about what i want an what i do or dont do to many say they want a quick steady thing maybe if we learned who our mates were first as people or freinds we could avoid alot of just pure hell but it seems that if you wish to wait or be truthfull they are on there way out the door for the next guy who will hurt them so they can blame all men the same way again. how sad see the circle of love-hate games all the time hate it.

Of course. The article never said people never overreact.

So people never overreact to a situation?
And anytime someone says someone else is overreacting they are just tying to hide their own misdeeds?
Interesting world some of us live in.

that's barely worthy of a response motown no one has said always or never on here, except you.

I have already answered this question in my last post & yes, I am suspicious of the ulterior motives of people who try to minimize the concerns of another by accusing them of overrreacting rather than addressing the issue - and yes, whether someone has over reacted is subjective - so it is only your opinion - not a fact, and in fact - as I said I'm more concerned about people who use that to distract from the issue , and people who are "Oh so high & mighty" (excuse me while I bow down to YOUR judgement) who think they have the right to judge someone else's reactions

well hey I gotta snooze - but if u reread my previous post - I have pretty much already explained this - and unless you speak german or french I'm all out of further languages in which to say, yet again, the same thing.....

namaste baby