How often do you say it?

When is it appropriate? How long is reasonable for a person to recover from personal wrongs such as adultery or abuse ,,,

how long is a reasonable time for people to get over social injustices like jim crow laws, internment camps, or the holocaust?

what ,exactly, does 'get over it' mean

forget it? pretend it didnt happen? dont talk about it? or just dont become obsessed with it?

"It" happened. You're not the only person "it" happened to.
"It" is past. Don't obsess on "it". Don't dwell on "it".
A lot of bad things have happened to a lot of good people.
A lot of bad things will happen to a lot of good people.
Life ain't easy.
Try not to let "it" happen again. But get over it.

I agree some seem to dwell on what happens. Either try to fix it or learn to move on and get past it...

Everyone has had things happen some just tend not to be able to get past it and keeps repeating it over and over..... time to move on..

I dont care for the phrase, but I have used it alot with my 'ex'.

It was never that I didnt think he had every right to harbor feelings about some of the things or people who had harmed him in his life,, it was that I didnt think he should define himself by it.

He was always the one whose parents did or didnt do this or that for him,,,but he was going on 60 and I thought it was time he stopped letting that be his REASON for everything else that went wrong in his life some forty years later. I wanted him to take accountability for his part in certain decisions but he always just went back to his story about his parents.

the most awful things that have personally happened to me , I have learned from, and I dont even need both hands to count how often I have shared them with others,,,

I think its alright to discuss how past things affect present, but its not alright to let them keep us from making our future better,,,

It is a bit of a harsh phrase for sure but some just can't quit dwelling in the past. At times it takes harsh reality for them to see it is time to let it go....

txs,, its so true

I actually say it to myself sometimes, now that I think about it,,lol

guess that means that Im consistent,,

Nothing to do with you Ms H. but how many women on here are still
obsessing over something their ex did to them years ago, and are still judging every man they talk to with the same yardstick?

I couldnt tell ya doll, thats one of the very things I remind myself to 'get over' on the regular,,,,,,

It is more that you need to get through it, rather then get over it..

many many many many many many many many many many

and so do guys

playing tapes will kill the heart

What I love about waking up from a sleep is that I can choose living over dieing. Happy over sad, love over hate, self over selfishness.

We choose the tapes we play.

It is an unfair standard that I use.

"Get over it" applies to everyone but me. Of course I am allowed to hang onto my grudges and hangups like a pitbull on a ham bone. But, obviously, everyone else is just clinging futily to a past that cannot be changed, like a bunch of whining panzies.

Sigh.....

I need my blankie....

hehehehehehehe

Psssssttttt!!! I read in Cosmopolitan Magazine that it takes exactly one month for every year you spend with someone!! Sooooooooooooooooooooo fifty years together means it would take take 2 years and two months to get over the person... I can't believe you don't read Cosmo Harmony!!!

Are you out of bed and wearing clothes?

I am out of bed. I guess that should count for something.

:)

It does.

As I was talking about bad tapes being played, it's great to see you have just made some great tapes to play.

Happy for you my bro!

Ditto~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Again, very nice.

I try not to tell anyone "Get over it!" . Everything takes time...but; there is nothing like a new love to help a heart heal and move on

I don't know. How many?

Get over it ..is a brush off phrase. It is mean and thoughtless. Nobody can judge how another will endure a pain within. I choose to ignore the rude remarks. If they care so little, why should I kill myself in mind torture over them or their lack of caring.