... a face to face meeting?

More often than not, I've gotten to know someone fantastically well via online/text/phone convo's but when we’ve met in person, not an iota of chemistry. I’m as much to blame for not wanting to remain in contact after realising that we're not compatible.

It’s one of the reasons why I prefer to meet quite soon after having exchanged a few ‘you don’t sound like an axe murderer’ emails/phone calls – I know...I know – can do without the “how can you tell he’s not an axe murderer” responses – irony people!!

I was reading one of the threads and someone mentioned preferring to get to know on Mingle first before meeting them. The response seemed to indicate months as opposed to weeks...It got me thinking...maybe it’s me and my womanly sensitivity.. but how do others deal with it? Weeks/months of getting to know someone, then after one date, nothing?

Anything to help pass the time ^_^

Meaning?...

Well, when you have got someone interesting to chat to, the days, months, and years just fly by. It really beats being depressed and lonely. Each day can seem like a life time when you become lonesome :)

EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE JUST WHEN U BELIEVE...

Seems to me you are one of the sane people on here,but then again you could be a complete head the ball..

True..but you've kinda missed the point ma honey. And a bit of a 'cop out' .

Say you've spent months or weeks chatting with someone online. This is someone that you're interested in romantically...You arrange to meet them in person and nothing..not even a friendship can be salvaged. To me, that’s the same as a relationship breaking up in the usual way...just as devastating, just as heartbreaking...which is why I prefer not to spend months getting to know someone online - call it damage limitation

Mmmmm I am a believer in the LONG woo.
No interest whatsoever in dating, it takes
a while for me to work up a letch.
So, I met someone on here, spent 6 months
getting to know each other.
Very hot for the meet.
OVER the minute we met.
Aside from the outright lies, the chemistry,
seemingly there via email, phone, etc., was
not there in person.
Next, spent a year getting to know someone.
And even though I am sure we idealized each
other, the meet was perfection.
And continues today :-)

It can go either way.

Didn't Whitney and Mariah sing that

Apologies, that was unwelcoming . Thank you for your comment.

Well to me i dont know if online dating is real but just wanna try, if truly i found my life partner thru this media i promise to share it on my web, facebook and twitter.
Am a single parent and i really need a companion to be there for me and my Children.
Cheers.

Are you actually talking about friendship or more than that? The subject line says friendship, but your post seems to be talking about more.

If I am chatting with someone I want to meet and they're local, I prefer to meet within a week or two.

However, on mingle, there really are no locals for me, so that would be impossible. That being said, I've never been disappointed by anyone I've met from mingle in person.

Yea, I though it can survive why not... People at first put negative that's why I won't work if you are in that thought!!! I have a friend who have been in that kind relationship and it does work for him, he never do any magic or whatever !!! Just believe in it it will work ;)

well honestly, the dates I have had IRL have not been forum friends, and I think part of the problem is that I did not take enough time to get to know them so there was no "connection" before we met - just a few emails exchanged - to me it is kind of ironic that the people I have got to know the best are the ones who live further away (usually) due to exchanges in the forums. so I think we would stay friends even after we met - even if a romantic relationship did not develop - because we started basically as freinds first where my IRL meets did not have that "freinds first " element

now I have a different problem of hesitating to relate romantically because I don;t want to ruin the friendship if the romance doesn't work out...good grief

I would reserve judgement on the status of my sanity

It works

I want the dating...I want to find whether the person is comfortable in different social settings etc.

I am aware that there is a soddus law/damned if you do/don’t element to meeting someone but my time is precious to me. I don't want to invest it in someone that I may never see again and that's why I prefer to take the sooner rather than later approach.

Online dating is very real and is filled with loads of trails and tribulations to you to meander through. Good luck in finding what you seek and welcome to Mingle2

I am a "rip off the band aid" quick. Why? Well for one reason, and don't be shocked, People can and do Lie! You can talk to them on-line, on the phone or text and they could be lying through their teeth. Untill you are face-to-face with someone and can look in their eyes you will never know the truth. So, the sooner the better to get to know the real person. Less time invested in falling for someone, and months later finding out they were a trumped up facade. Sure this could happen with any real life getting to know someone, but real life tends be more in the moment. JMO

You are right Sing, I think my mind wandered...

I am talking about getting to know someone online with the view of entering into a relationship if all works out.

It's not about being disappointed when meeting someone..It's more about having raised expectations and/or someone not living up to those expectations when you met them in person. Hope this clarifies things for you

It's a bit more than that Eva83. You can't just will yourself to 'like' someone.

If you're chatting to someone as a friend is one thing. If you're chatting to someone with the view of entering into a relationship with them that's something else entirely. Two different conversations.