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Hi I just wanted to post this as it is close to my heart at the moment. I always hear about or see in romance movies the woman who has two men interested in her and she has to make a choice as to who she is going to settle with..
Well it happens to us men also.. I have a lady friend who i absoloutly adore.. She is everything I would dream to be with, Stunning, Intellectual, Funny, Caring and Speacial in everyway. The only problem is she said that she dosen't have the time to dedicate toward a realationship as she has just started her Uni course.. Now i know women like to be subtle and let guys down gently but it's hard to know is this is the case here or if she is simply being honest.. the fact is she still wants to spend time in my company and vice versa.. I am in a catch 22.. do i wait , stay true, believe, against the odds continue to invest in the dream that may never come to fruition or do i... Persue the new girl.. Young, Bubbly, Fun, Interested.. Torn.. |
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What's more important to you? The girl you'd have to wait for, or pursuing a relationship now?
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Hi I just wanted to post this as it is close to my heart at the moment. I always hear about or see in romance movies the woman who has two men interested in her and she has to make a choice as to who she is going to settle with.. Well it happens to us men also.. I have a lady friend who i absoloutly adore.. She is everything I would dream to be with, Stunning, Intellectual, Funny, Caring and Speacial in everyway. The only problem is she said that she dosen't have the time to dedicate toward a realationship as she has just started her Uni course.. Now i know women like to be subtle and let guys down gently but it's hard to know is this is the case here or if she is simply being honest.. the fact is she still wants to spend time in my company and vice versa.. I am in a catch 22.. do i wait , stay true, believe, against the odds continue to invest in the dream that may never come to fruition or do i... Persue the new girl.. Young, Bubbly, Fun, Interested.. Torn.. The grass ALWAYS looks greener from where you are. Sounds like you have the wanties now and she is otherwise occupied. I would take her at her word. The roaming eye says it all. |
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Edited by
MzMariah
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Wed 10/12/11 01:36 PM
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If the relationship you have now has area's that "ideally" you would change then don't be hopeful that things will change naturally, because life isn't IDEAL and people do not change for love or relationships. She'll be like this until she decides to do something differently just for her own reasons. But please do be honest with yourself and them if it comes to that.
Best Wishes |
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The 1st chick is "Friend Zone" Dude.
Give her the space and be a good man friend to her...even if she dates someone else. She knows you are an option. You make her sound cool...be her friend. The second chick sounds like a roll in the hay. Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You may accidentally dig on her. |
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Thanks for all your advice..
Having thought about things i think il just stay single and aim to find my happiness in that.. Who knows what the future brings.. :) |
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Now your talking.
 Staying single is a lot easier. I think that ladies in waiting thing went out of style a long time ago.
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Thanks for all your advice.. Having thought about things i think il just stay single and aim to find my happiness in that.. Who knows what the future brings.. :) It means you gonna have a lot of sex with your hand. Just trust me on this. |
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I know you made your choice, but let me just add to this.
First Girl: Here is what you should have said to her when she told you that she was all about school. "Ok babe. Cool. I get it. We can be buds but I have to keep moving on babe. I like you. I really do. And maybe, down the road, we may hook up then. But I am gonna enjoy life and if I meet someone, well...wish me the best". Basically, this is a smooth way of saying "See ya". Don't act hurt by her choice. Respect it. And don't go groveling back to her. She moved on, you do the same. If she had seen this, then she would think about it constantly, which means thinking of you and how she couldn't keep you under her thumb. Trust me...she wanted to keep you there and she wanted you to grovel for her. Haha. As for other girls? Hey man, the single life can be great. But a word of caution. When you hit that point where you want someone in your life, I am betting that first chick will come back around. If she does, deny her dude. Date around and hopefully you will meet a nice chick. Enjoy being single. |
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But a word of caution. When you hit that point where you want someone in your life, I am betting that first chick will come back around. If she does, deny her dude. Date around and hopefully you will meet a nice chick. Enjoy being single. Truer words have neve been spoken. |
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Krupa you're funny dude! lol
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I know you made your choice, but let me just add to this. First Girl: Here is what you should have said to her when she told you that she was all about school. "Ok babe. Cool. I get it. We can be buds but I have to keep moving on babe. I like you. I really do. And maybe, down the road, we may hook up then. But I am gonna enjoy life and if I meet someone, well...wish me the best". Basically, this is a smooth way of saying "See ya". Don't act hurt by her choice. Respect it. And don't go groveling back to her. She moved on, you do the same. If she had seen this, then she would think about it constantly, which means thinking of you and how she couldn't keep you under her thumb. Trust me...she wanted to keep you there and she wanted you to grovel for her. Haha. As for other girls? Hey man, the single life can be great. But a word of caution. When you hit that point where you want someone in your life, I am betting that first chick will come back around. If she does, deny her dude. Date around and hopefully you will meet a nice chick. Enjoy being single. You know i know exactly what you mean and it's sound advice.. in most cases. But i can honestly say this lady is different. I dont think she is even interested in having someone under control, i may be wrong but normally im a good judge of character. I have met lots of different women but this lady is completely different to any other woman i have met.. she feels like my mirror reflection. Last nite we spoke on the phone for 3 hrs.. She said if you want something you just have to fight for it.. and she also said she just lets things happen.. Maybe i should just go in for a kiss when we next meet.. Keep posted! :) |
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Edited by
s1owhand
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Thu 10/13/11 03:35 AM
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 I'm thinking - Two is better than one. Chick 1 - It's over. Don't pursue her or befriend her. Pursuit is futile. If she were attracted to you the way a relationship should be then she would be in love with you. Trying to be her friend when you have deeper feelings and hoping for more is just masochism. Chick 2 - Go out with her. Like K says - you never know till you know. Treat her with respect though. She might really be great and you may well find that ultimately you share as much or more with her than with Chick 1. Or not. But having a new interesting and exciting friend is pretty much always a good thing - particularly if you have been let down easy on another front. She might turn out to be a great friend or lover. "Hey, this could be something." http://youtu.be/ILS6ULfhIhI |
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Hi I just wanted to post this as it is close to my heart at the moment. I always hear about or see in romance movies the woman who has two men interested in her and she has to make a choice as to who she is going to settle with.. Well it happens to us men also.. I have a lady friend who i absoloutly adore.. She is everything I would dream to be with, Stunning, Intellectual, Funny, Caring and Speacial in everyway. The only problem is she said that she dosen't have the time to dedicate toward a realationship as she has just started her Uni course.. Now i know women like to be subtle and let guys down gently but it's hard to know is this is the case here or if she is simply being honest.. the fact is she still wants to spend time in my company and vice versa.. I am in a catch 22.. do i wait , stay true, believe, against the odds continue to invest in the dream that may never come to fruition or do i... Persue the new girl.. Young, Bubbly, Fun, Interested.. Torn.. The grass ALWAYS looks greener from where you are. Sounds like you have the wanties now and she is otherwise occupied. I would take her at her word. The roaming eye says it all. I would take her at her word. Ditto |
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