I have been in a long distance relationship but now I think it should end. because he I doubt is coming. and because of that i don't think I can hold on much longer...

how do you say good bye to someone like that?

Ask him how he feels ^_^

Hi,,I can only give you my best for this happening and its fall out,,ok.
Whoever he is,,and whatever you both have shared together in text email or by phone,,,IF UOU FEEL its over,,and as you mentioned here him not coming,,,I feel you may have just been some dudes form of amusement,,I don't say THIS at all with a smile,,,grrrrrr.
For I hate people who just hurt others with their PLAY.
Many on the Net will promise the moon,,and never give you something as easy as their time to talk with you later?
Many do try and are very intent in wanting you more than a friend to them,,but,,something derails their plans to follow through?
Either way,,its the feelings within you that you base ALL of THEM on,,and here it seems,,you have given up on them fulfilling their intent,,,so to say goodbye to HIM,,would be one of several ways depending on if your sure it is a real goodbye,,,or a desire to throw THAT at him as a means to say YOUR dissatisfied in his abilities to prove he really cares about you?
So you will have to let us know where your both at in heart,,with each other for any of us to really be able to help you,,with what your asking? If you understand what I'msaying here,,,lol

Tell him you've enjoyed getting to know him but you realize you need to get out and meet people you can actually spend physical time with. He should understand and if he doesn't, that's his problem.

Good luck,
C

Pray to God for direction

Just tell him what you have posted here.

the thing is all the advice is good... I have tried to leave the relationship before but he tugs on the heart strings and it drags on again.

I love him in many ways...but he's not coming to the same point I am in the relationship.

Someone mentioned this in another thread, but all you really need is one thing:

Self confidence.

Realize that you are stronger than you think. Use that strength when he starts with the string-pulling and stand up for yourself.

Realize that you can be happy without him. From your posts, you don't sound like you are very happy with him. Would it be much worse without him?

Realize that looking out for you and your young-un is your #1 priority. Concentrate on the things that make YOU happy. Everything else will take care of itself.

The way I've been treated after long chats with women, they simply stop responding to the emails, text messages and ignoring my voice mail I leave. You could do that.

One thing about the internet.
It rather facilitates breaking up.
You are able to compose a kind and
final email explaining your actions.
C'est finis.

I don't want to hurt his feelings but...I just don't see how he will ever be prodded enough to come to me...

I guess I could just talk to him less until he gets the clue.

THEN,,,tell him as chrissy had said to do,,and leave it at that
You say he pulls at you,,truth is your not fully wanting to say goodbye to him..as well...
STAND YOUR GROUND on what YOU KNOW is the right move,,,,and NEVER LOOK BACK,,,,because IF you were 100 percent now,,,,this would take no post made to ask?
Your disatisfied with HIS RESULTS IN SHOWING YOU HE IS REAL ABOUT YOU.

SO MOVE ON,,and KNOW THIS,,,YOU CAN AND WILL FIND ANOTHER WHO WILL SHOW YOU HIS LOVE.

Don't allow yourself to be used and played with when that out-come makes you cry.......

THAT NOT LOVE.....thats hurt and play,,,and I would say goodbye,,,and let him play with someone elses heart...

YOUR HEART belongs ONLY TO YOU AND GOD,,,
Look inside it and see if he's there,,,IF he's not,,,say goodbye.

Good luck in making your mind up as to what to do,,,,

After A While
By Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while
you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong and you really do have worth and you learn and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.

Tell him what you appreciate about the relationship, but why you feel it won't work. Sometimes you may hurt people's feelings, no matter how hard you try not to. and that will make you feel terrible, but it's impossible to form a healthy team when a relationship is only one way. Sometimes it's simply a matter of the right "mixture of chemicals" not being there and there's little either of you can do about that.

If you continue with the relationship even though you don't care for him, you will not only hurt yourself but also him. In all fairness you should let him go as politely as you can so both of you will have a chance to find someone who "really" cares, versus having to continue a relationship based on deceit. Whenever you're in a pickle, honesty will usually get you out the easiest way.

it seems to me that you are still undecided... i, once experience being broken-hearted because of long distance relationship. the only difference is that i'm the dumpee... maybe, you're taking into consideration his feelings that is why you have a hard time letting go. if the relationship is not working anymore then end it but be sure to be firm and explain things to him. do not leave him thinking why and what has happened to the two of you. stand you ground after and do not contact him coz it would make it harder for him to move on. there is no easy way to say goodbye because these are the people we promised to love and never hurt...that is the ironic part.

"miles away" by Winger and "should've been,could've been" by Skillet....listen to those songs sometime and also good advices that given by these good ppl in here...they helped me figure out what I should've done longggggg...time ago..and screw his feeling...take care of yours first......good luck!!