I had the same problem a few time too. My response is: No I will not stop talking to the men I am talking to when I meet you. If after we see each other for a while and it is looking good then I will be exclusive but not until then. If you are so jealous after the first contact, I probably don't want you anyway.

good... i didnt think i was doing anything wrong... i could see him being upset if he and i were in a relationship or something... but that was just the 2nd email and he got upset and said some pretty horrible things about me when he doenst know anything about me... It didnt seem to me like i was doing anything... just wanted some more opinions... thanks everyone

You have not done anything wrong. There's nothing wrong with chatting with different people.

Many people don't know how to respond to honesty because they're not used to it. He is an idiot for trying to make you responsible for his insecurity.

you may consider that he could have once been on the opposite side of that situation,, being the 'back up' that someone continued talking to even though they were more interested in someone else...


I know thats probably not your intent, but if thats ever happened to him, he may be sensitive about it

in any case, not the right beau for you,,,

i know what you're saying msharmony.... but would he rather i lie about it, and he find out later that i'm interested in someone else?

The way I used to handle it was:

"I have lots of friends of course but no one special right now"



And if he says all kinds of mean stuff to you then he's just being
an unreasonable and miserable twit! No matter what the circumstances
that was uncalled for...

Thanks so much for making this thread. I was talking to different women at one time and was interested in each one of them for different reasons. It caused me to be down for three days because I had to get my own trust level in myself back to where it needed to be. It is one thing not to trust others and another thing to not be able to trust one's self. To me it is the first level of honesty. If one can not trust themselves then to thine own self they can't be true. Which for me would be bad because it would definitely affect my recovery process. To be able to trust in a higher power is my second level of honesty. The third level of honesty is to able to be able to trust myself, my higher power and one other person at the same time. I have at times reached the fourth level of honesty which for me is to be able to be honest with myself, my higher power and two people. My least requirement for recovery is the first level which I try to retain. Otherwise, insanity is not that far behind. for me a day without sanity is like a day without sunshine.

I don't think it's your responsibility to guess, know, or be sensitive to his past experiences. The fact alone that he put you in a situation where you were asked that question when he wasn't ready to hear the answer shows that he wasn't considered towards your feelings. He wanted you to be co-dependent and good for you you weren't.

The guys too jealous and he is a biotch himself, not you.

I doubt he wanted you to lie. Anymore than Id want someone to lie about knowingly infecting me with an STD, but it doesnt mean I wouldnt be pissed that they did so and possibly pissed if I later spoke with someone who was planning to do it to someone else....


honesty doesnt necessarily justify pain for the one who experiences the pain,,,

Bottom line,,The dudes got ISSUES!
THIS is a dating site where strangers become friends first and foremost through communicating with each other as to even understand this site and to have any repo with the members on it...
As we see and type to each other we come to FEEL we know their person,,and through THAT we become more,,or less,,as to talking with them,,and EVERYONE here does THIS,,we HAVE TO DAHHH,,(that to the dude)to be on the Net...so this dude has some issues for JUMPING to his conclusions of you based solely on the fact that YOU talk to more than HIM,,,WOW,,,what EGO on his part,,and what lack of REAL thoughts he possesses for you and your feelings here or as a fellow human being?
I talk to MANY all the time since being on here,,I can be seen and judged as a big flirt here,,but for those who truly know my person,,they know its just my way of being and acting silly with them...But IF,,I am into ANY form of dating a lady,,,there are things that CHANGE,,I am NOT on here much,,I am NOT flirting everyday,,I am NOT dating EVER,,more than ONE lady,,,,and I POST THIS AS MY LIFE,,,when involved so everyone knows...
But I am VERY REAL,,and open with my life to everyone..
After five years on here and trying to understand people and how they respond and act and carry themselves on this site,,I would say,,that YOU have to have some form of a game plan as to ever really wanting to meet someone on here...and through all the possible ones you may know you have who want to meet you,,,
YOU have to choose which one to really meet in person and to do THAT,,I feel everyone weighs their possibilities based on their desires they seek to find within that person,,and as YOU might
have three or four who you think might be someone who fits your heart to see,,,YOU CANNOT MEET EACH ONE ALL AT ONCE,,so some will be set aside until you have a chance to LETS SAY,,interview,,,lol,because that is any meeting but a chance to see with your own eyes and reflect with them on what views and smiles or frowns they can have with you?
AND IN THAT,,,,sitting aside one or two,,,MANY PROBLEMS will appear IF THEY have possessive spirits,,,and if their real with you and knowing you wanted to meet another first because it was easier to accomplish at that time,,than meeting THEM,,,they will understand and be Cool with it..?
So you get to feel one of the ones set aside through your actions,,and then know their maybe NOT right for ya?
And the one you did meet,,depends on how THAT all went and how you felt afterwords about them,,,YOU may be VERY HAPPY,,and want to start dating them,,and then,,you have to be real with that and let them know your doing that...
MANY fail to be THIS honest with a person,,and kind of meet another w/o saying they were,,,and THEN,,SOME even go on to date someone and KEEP them selves open on here like their NOT SEEING anyone and THAT cause a LOT of stink on these pages,,,so I believe in a heart beat that being HONEST will ALWAYS be better for everyone to know and have as your truth...
I had a weekend fling with a lady that I could have fell in love with,,yet she didn't find me her great delight,,,she told me she felt no sparks after our weekend motel stay,,I told her Cool,,and I loved her honesty,,,and we went on to have a forever friendship ONLY,,relationship by email and phone,,,STILL,,
and now,,she's married,,,but its all good,,,,and we still have that friendship...so as someone WE think might be our WOW,,,that doesn't make US,,their WOW after meeting them,,,BUT,,see THATS JUST LIFE!
and we should ALL understand that,,,and be cool with,ALL THAT WE HAVE TO GO THROUGH IN SEARCHING WHO CAN FIND US,,,their GREAT!
wow,,sorry about the Book,,I'm really bored today here in Texas,,,,lol

People feel so brave when using a keyboard and feeling safe behind the comforts of a monitor. You can say things...god awful things, flirty things, mean things, etc. You can even do this little thing called lying. I mean, you can be who you want to be.

This guy chose to (more than likely) show his true A-Hole colors. I guess that is nice of him to do. Spares you wasting more time on a piece-o-cow dung like him. He has that Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction syndrome of "I'm Not Gonna Be Ignored". Next thing you know, he's boiling your rabbit. Not pretty. But hey! Good thing for you that ya pissed him off by doing that ultimate sin of all sins....Talking.....to another man! Lol.

Anyways, write him a sweet email talking about how he will never get any of your sweet.....ok, don't go that far. Ummmmm. Just tell him to phuck off. Yea! Those two words always do the trick. So empowering.

I don't see anything wrong with that whether its online or offline how many guys u talk to is ur concern and no one else's business u know what I mean

its a dating site if you dont talk to alot of people how you to know, who suits you best

sweetyour open and honest and not involvld,your chating togeto knw people betr to find your ideal partner,youv donothing wrong.ignore emotioly imature peopls coments.