Is it a bad thing to demand that someone you date meet the requirements of being able to cook and clean?

i think being an adult should probably cover the basics here. but, for me, demanding and requirements, are not part of the deal.

Are you demanding they cook and clean for you?

maybe demanding anything of a person you are dating is a bad thing. if you prefer someone who can cook and clean you could be up front before you date them. then again dating could be a nice way to get to know someone before getting involved with them. if you place a demand on the first date, you may not have a second

your joking...right?
can not be a serious question, just can't

Pretty much yes

What, so putting on my profile that you have to be able to wash good, clean and iron wasnt a good idea.
well how the heck am i supposed to find someone who does it if i dont advertise..Gosh

i don't 'demand' but PREFER that they at least like to cook and clean. if not, into the pit THIS IS SPARTA!

(((((((bastet)))))))

If you are looking for a mate to raise children with and you want to be a stay at home wife and raise little ones, there is nothing wrong with those requirements.

On the other side, if a man is looking for a wife and partner to raise children with and is willing to work and support the family while she stays home, she better darn know how to cook and clean or be willing to learn.

If the guy just wants a roll in the hay and is not looking for a commitment, he probably does not care if you can make toast. So if he requires that you are able to cook and clean, you know he is shopping for a committed relationship.

(albeit an old fashioned one.)

demands are usually not embraced in a 'loving' relationship, however, your preferences are your own and should be based upon what is important to you

You do not require a date...you require a maid.


Fool!


...and funny with it....the jester of all courts.

I think the word there should have been prefers someone that cooks and cleans but I agree this person wants a maid lol


cooking....do Pop Tarts count

I can't cook at all, and it would be hypocritical of me to demand that my partner cook. It's really more of an individual thing. Some love to cook, some don't. It doesn't matter to me. That's why Al Gore invented Arby's.

As for cleaning, I think it should be a shared responsibility. I have no problem with doing dishes or laundry or taking the garbage out. It's just not a big issue.

I would love it if a guy would cook and clean... I am retired from cooking and would also retire from cleaning if I could get on the housework fairy's route.

Barefoot and pregnant?

...I believe there's someone for everyone.

People who demand from others, that
which they are unwilling to do
themselves, get no respect from me.

Hey. Its your call. Good luck with it. As Dr. Phil asks, "How is that working for you?" I guess a 'mate' and a 'date' can be construed as being different if you want it to be. I do a lot of dishes but my boarder does cook. Eating out is just not prudent at this juncture with finances and the cost of restaurant food. Come to think of it eating anything at all is just not feasible at this juncture. Grocery prices have skyrocketed. We need that guy from the old Grapenuts commercial to teach us how to eat tree bark and the like.

Euell Gibbons. Of course, he's dead now, probably from eating tree bark. Or Grape Nuts.

Hahahahahaha! Yeah right, that so won't fly. I will do it because I want to not because I have to. Anyone who demands I cook and clean can kiss my ***!

toast? yes toast I can do!

but I agree with bastet on this one
"requirements" is a word that does not belong here

to think that someone would date or marry me because I can cook & clean? sorry I only do "it" for love

cooking and cleaning are shared activities, OP, and your attitude is going to be a immediate red flag to many women

most women work so household chores are shared and I suggest that HE learn to do them if he doesn't already know how. All of my sons could cook and clean by age 5

but it sounds as tho your mother may have spoiled you - literally

most women no longer wish to be financially dependent on a man