Topic: Defending the Rights of the Women Who Defend U
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Wed 05/25/11 02:28 PM



The irony Mightymoe is it was the women that pissed me off and set me off. I should know better than to listen to civilians. If I did say anything to offend men; I do apologize. I was just so upset to hear about this topic as its dear to my heart. I always got along well with the men I served with and I was one of the boys. My only real anger is with relationships in which I was physically abused. I love my male friends in the military as they are truly my brothers who have treated me as a fellow soldier/sailor. :smile:

i'm not offended by anyone, i just wish people would look at the article from a logical viewpoint and see that it is slanted and a bit misleading.. seems like your one of the few that did see it logically and not emotionally. i think we all agree rape is wrong, and if has been proven to be rape, then they should help the woman out. But the military is not a free clinic for every woman to give birth in, they all have a job to do, and getting pregnant is not part of that job.


Again I have to agree with you. When we first started taking women on combat ships, they would get pregnant to get off ship which left women like me to do their jobs. I guess this is why again I got on well with the guys as I didn't play the pregnancy card. Thanks mightymoe for making me feel better. :smile:


I forgot about that. We knew we were going to deploy to Bosnia with our support unit about 8 months before we actually left. There were a lot of women that were trying to get pregnant by any man to get out of the military then... Think there was something like 20 pregnancies out of 50 women that were going to be deployed.

navygirl's photo
Wed 05/25/11 02:35 PM




The irony Mightymoe is it was the women that pissed me off and set me off. I should know better than to listen to civilians. If I did say anything to offend men; I do apologize. I was just so upset to hear about this topic as its dear to my heart. I always got along well with the men I served with and I was one of the boys. My only real anger is with relationships in which I was physically abused. I love my male friends in the military as they are truly my brothers who have treated me as a fellow soldier/sailor. :smile:

i'm not offended by anyone, i just wish people would look at the article from a logical viewpoint and see that it is slanted and a bit misleading.. seems like your one of the few that did see it logically and not emotionally. i think we all agree rape is wrong, and if has been proven to be rape, then they should help the woman out. But the military is not a free clinic for every woman to give birth in, they all have a job to do, and getting pregnant is not part of that job.


Again I have to agree with you. When we first started taking women on combat ships, they would get pregnant to get off ship which left women like me to do their jobs. I guess this is why again I got on well with the guys as I didn't play the pregnancy card. Thanks mightymoe for making me feel better. :smile:


I forgot about that. We knew we were going to deploy to Bosnia with our support unit about 8 months before we actually left. There were a lot of women that were trying to get pregnant by any man to get out of the military then... Think there was something like 20 pregnancies out of 50 women that were going to be deployed.


Its women like that who make my job much harder. I find that as disgusting as rape personally. When you sign that contract; you better be able to honour it.

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Thu 05/26/11 03:34 AM



Why is the percentage of rapes in the military higher than the national average?



who says it is??? what are the percentages in the military as opposed to the national average???


When I was in it was a shameful fact that was brought up in all the sexual harassment classes I had to attend. Attendance of this class is mandatory for all military personnel. Can't remember the rate. At least twice a year. May have been once a quarter. In my unit, referring to a woman in a derogatory manner was punished with an Article 15. Then I transferred to a new unit and my first day there witnessed sexual harassment in a squad meeting and none of the sergeants in charge did anything about it. It was a private that did it.

The difference being - my first unit was all male. The second was mixed.



k. if you can't remember the rate in the military then what is the rate in civilian america? you claim that rape is a bigger problem in the military. if that's true you must have some numbers. my point being, i don't think that rape is any worse in the military than in civilian life.

a soldier cannot be "punished with an art. 15" unless he accepts the punishment. art. 15 is a nonjudicial statute that a soldier, not his commander, can choose to submit to in lieu of a court martial. a unit commander has no authority whatsoever to decide what is a punishable offence and what is not. me thinks you listened waaaaaay to much to that proverbial "scuttlebut" that roam the barracks and ships of every military.

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Thu 05/26/11 05:56 AM
Edited by Ruth34611 on Thu 05/26/11 05:57 AM
Here is an article in Time magazine that claims the rate of sexual assault in the military is twice as high as in civilian population.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1968110,00.html

The Pentagon's latest figures show that nearly 3,000 women were sexually assaulted in fiscal year 2008, up 9% from the year before; among women serving in Iraq and Afghanistan, the number rose 25%. When you look at the entire universe of female veterans, close to a third say they were victims of rape or assault while they were serving — twice the rate in the civilian population.




I have no idea if it's true or not, but I'm assuming Time is as good a source of information as any other.

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 05/26/11 06:00 AM
If Mighymoe is right and most are falsely claiming rape or sexual assault, I wonder why? Why are they claiming sexual assault? What is the benefit to the female soldier to do that? Maybe that's a whole other thread.

navygirl's photo
Thu 05/26/11 07:52 AM

If Mighymoe is right and most are falsely claiming rape or sexual assault, I wonder why? Why are they claiming sexual assault? What is the benefit to the female soldier to do that? Maybe that's a whole other thread.


Sadly; some women will claim rape if caught with a guy because fraternization charges are harsh and could really damage your career I think this is the point that Mightymoe may be making that not all rape cases are clear cut.

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Thu 05/26/11 09:20 AM

If Mighymoe is right and most are falsely claiming rape or sexual assault, I wonder why? Why are they claiming sexual assault? What is the benefit to the female soldier to do that? Maybe that's a whole other thread.


i never said or meant most, i was just pointing out that the article itself was unclear on what it was saying... reports and convictions are two separate issues... if a woman has sex and feels like she might be pregnant, it could ruin her career in the service...

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Thu 05/26/11 09:54 AM
rape is a terrible thing...

with that out the way, the numbers arent really as surprising to me, in fact they are kind of low




assuming that one in six of the general population are raped, at a ratio of 1 man to 1 woman(approximately)
{there are approximately 160 million women, slightly more than half the population)


I would expect a bit of a higher rate in an environment where there are five men to every one woman
(women make up approximately 15 percent of enlisted)


..perhaps up to five times more, since there are at least five times as many one on one situations in which a man coult take advangage of a woman


add to that the very specific ADULT Demographics of the military compared to a very general and broad age range of 'civilian' females, and that would further cause an expected increase

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Thu 05/26/11 10:05 AM

Here is an article in Time magazine that claims the rate of sexual assault in the military is twice as high as in civilian population.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1968110,00.html

The Pentagon's latest figures show that nearly 3,000 women were sexually assaulted in fiscal year 2008, up 9% from the year before; among women serving in Iraq and Afghanistan, the number rose 25%. When you look at the entire universe of female veterans, close to a third say they were victims of rape or assault while they were serving — twice the rate in the civilian population.




I have no idea if it's true or not, but I'm assuming Time is as good a source of information as any other.


it's not always about true or false, it sometimes about meaning, or what the reality of the article is. i have no doubt that 3000 women reported abuse or assault, but what defines abuse or assault? was it verbal, did someone touch them the wrong way, did someone spit on them? the way some articles are worded can mean several different things... abuse can be as little as a guy saying "hey sweetcakes, whats up", or him slapping her around. and might not always be a male doing the abuse or assault.

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Thu 05/26/11 11:03 AM
Edited by msharmony on Thu 05/26/11 11:05 AM


If Mighymoe is right and most are falsely claiming rape or sexual assault, I wonder why? Why are they claiming sexual assault? What is the benefit to the female soldier to do that? Maybe that's a whole other thread.


Sadly; some women will claim rape if caught with a guy because fraternization charges are harsh and could really damage your career I think this is the point that Mightymoe may be making that not all rape cases are clear cut.



its one of those things its best to be safe than sorry

except in cases of brutal force, rape is one of those very broadly defined crimes that pretty much screws alot of men over,,that and their inability to turn down even the CHANCE of getting laid,,,


better make sure guys, have a yes policy , make sure she says yes,,often

stop at no, ,even if its just a tease, better safe than sorry

it helps to ask often if she wants you to stop/keep going too,, so there can be no confusion,,,

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 05/26/11 11:13 AM

rape is a terrible thing...

with that out the way, the numbers arent really as surprising to me, in fact they are kind of low




assuming that one in six of the general population are raped, at a ratio of 1 man to 1 woman(approximately)
{there are approximately 160 million women, slightly more than half the population)


I would expect a bit of a higher rate in an environment where there are five men to every one woman
(women make up approximately 15 percent of enlisted)


..perhaps up to five times more, since there are at least five times as many one on one situations in which a man coult take advangage of a woman


add to that the very specific ADULT Demographics of the military compared to a very general and broad age range of 'civilian' females, and that would further cause an expected increase


Those are very good points.

I'm sure there are a percentage who make false allegations for various reasons because I saw that happen as a police officer. It was not a rare occurrence to have a girl make a rape allegation to cover up an illicit sexual relationship.

msharmony's photo
Thu 05/26/11 11:23 AM


rape is a terrible thing...

with that out the way, the numbers arent really as surprising to me, in fact they are kind of low




assuming that one in six of the general population are raped, at a ratio of 1 man to 1 woman(approximately)
{there are approximately 160 million women, slightly more than half the population)


I would expect a bit of a higher rate in an environment where there are five men to every one woman
(women make up approximately 15 percent of enlisted)


..perhaps up to five times more, since there are at least five times as many one on one situations in which a man coult take advangage of a woman


add to that the very specific ADULT Demographics of the military compared to a very general and broad age range of 'civilian' females, and that would further cause an expected increase


Those are very good points.

I'm sure there are a percentage who make false allegations for various reasons because I saw that happen as a police officer. It was not a rare occurrence to have a girl make a rape allegation to cover up an illicit sexual relationship.




Im surprised no lawyers have followed the tradition of the prenup with a preconjugal contract,,lol

no confusion there, just sign on the line that we both do this consentually,,, end of story,,lol

Dragoness's photo
Thu 05/26/11 11:41 AM

rape is a terrible thing...

with that out the way, the numbers arent really as surprising to me, in fact they are kind of low




assuming that one in six of the general population are raped, at a ratio of 1 man to 1 woman(approximately)
{there are approximately 160 million women, slightly more than half the population)


I would expect a bit of a higher rate in an environment where there are five men to every one woman
(women make up approximately 15 percent of enlisted)


..perhaps up to five times more, since there are at least five times as many one on one situations in which a man coult take advangage of a woman


add to that the very specific ADULT Demographics of the military compared to a very general and broad age range of 'civilian' females, and that would further cause an expected increase


Considering that most rapes and molestations go unreported which is a fact. I never reported any of mine nor prosecuted.

The amount showing in the article is sickening if it is one third which is the average of reported.

The abortion funding issue is really not an issue here compared to what we are looking at. The day after pill should be readily available to these women especially if they do not want to report the attack. But for them to wait until it is a full procedure that is needed after an attack is irresponsible at best.

Plus like I said most personal insurances don't cover abortion any way so why should this one?




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Thu 05/26/11 11:49 AM
that was my original point when i chimed in on your post dragon. a woman should have the right to do with her body as she wishes but why should the government pay for a procedure that would deprive a fetus the right to a life? you came accross in your original post title as though a woman in the military has a right to the military paying for an abortion. she simply has no such right nor should she in my view.

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Thu 05/26/11 11:56 AM

that was my original point when i chimed in on your post dragon. a woman should have the right to do with her body as she wishes but why should the government pay for a procedure that would deprive a fetus the right to a life? you came accross in your original post title as though a woman in the military has a right to the military paying for an abortion. she simply has no such right nor should she in my view.


You did not read my commentary on the bottom of the OP?

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Thu 05/26/11 12:06 PM
The article is asking for support of abortion funding for raped women in the military.

My point is that the amount of rapes is horrendous and should be the point of focus. Yes, the day after pill should be available as it is here for women who are raped and go to the clinic or hospital.

But my bill to the congress would be stricter rulings for rape in the military. Obviously the rules there are lax and probably because women weren't in these situations before.

I want to know what the hell is wrong with the military that they are allowing so many rapists in the military to begin with. They have standards because men and women are denied so where is the standard on this one. We do know that men who rape are control freaks, believe all woman to be capable of being whores/sluts, believe woman are objects to use, etc... So why aren't they screening for this?

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Thu 05/26/11 12:15 PM

The article is asking for support of abortion funding for raped women in the military.

My point is that the amount of rapes is horrendous and should be the point of focus. Yes, the day after pill should be available as it is here for women who are raped and go to the clinic or hospital.

But my bill to the congress would be stricter rulings for rape in the military. Obviously the rules there are lax and probably because women weren't in these situations before.

I want to know what the hell is wrong with the military that they are allowing so many rapists in the military to begin with. They have standards because men and women are denied so where is the standard on this one. We do know that men who rape are control freaks, believe all woman to be capable of being whores/sluts, believe woman are objects to use, etc... So why aren't they screening for this?


Because we need soldiers spread out all over the world, especially when we keep finding a new war, a new enemy. Who better to send to kill than those who have violent tendencies to begin with.
Rape victims are just more collateral damage....

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Thu 05/26/11 12:27 PM
i admit i did not read your commentary dragon and i appologize for that. but when folks begin a thread with a long, drawn out copy/paste of an article i'm rarely inclined to read the whole thing. you did, after all, mention defending the women who are defending us in your thread title so i took that to mean that you were behind the congresswomen.

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Thu 05/26/11 12:29 PM

Because we need soldiers spread out all over the world, especially when we keep finding a new war, a new enemy. Who better to send to kill than those who have violent tendencies to begin with.
Rape victims are just more collateral damage....


i've read a ton of absurdities on the forums but this takes the cake.

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Thu 05/26/11 12:39 PM


Because we need soldiers spread out all over the world, especially when we keep finding a new war, a new enemy. Who better to send to kill than those who have violent tendencies to begin with.
Rape victims are just more collateral damage....


i've read a ton of absurdities on the forums but this takes the cake.


not really.. why do think the government is actively recruiting the gang members? why do you think they offer citizenship to gangsters that complete their service duties? who exactly is on the front lines?... it is happening, whether you think it is absurd or not...