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Topic: Would you be friends with a prostitute
Totage's photo
Sun 05/15/11 12:12 PM

Hmmm just curious,
Since I work in a motel I have a huge variety of people come through who I am friends with,
Now we have had a husband and wife come through who work here at times, which to me although I cant see how or why they do it, it really doesnt make any difference to how I think of them..

So if you had a husband and wife who the wife was a prostitute, would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..

Hmmm and if you didnt want to be their friends , Why..

It just a question as some people seem to have a problem with it so I was just seeing if I am the only one who doesnt see the problem..


Of course, I can be friends with anyone. I don't judge people like that.

josie68's photo
Sun 05/15/11 02:40 PM


Thats a moral question with no right or wrong answer.
My question to you is (Would you date me if you were a prostitute, and would you date me if you were not a prostitute) simply put, would you date me?
I wouldn't mind either way and I would treat you just the same because of the fact that if you wanted to be one... you could


How does dating play into this?

Josie...ask yourself one question...do you trust her as a friend? If so, then love/treat her as a friend! Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.


No she is really nice, I dont care what anyone else thinks, never have. But I was just wondering what others reactions where as I had a couple of people question me,
But its legal here so that could be the diffence.

josie68's photo
Sun 05/15/11 02:41 PM


Nope.

I much prefer not having any connection to the underworld. If you are friends with a prostitute, a friend of a friend is a pimp, a drug dealer, or something even worse.




I tend to agree. To me this is the difference between friends and friendly. I would be friendly and polite. It is possible though that it is not an underworld activity in Josie's country - maybe it's legal in Australia because she seems to not see any problems legally with it, unless I have misunderstood somethng


No it's not illegal where I live.
flowerforyou

vivian2981's photo
Sun 05/15/11 02:44 PM

Hmmm just curious,
Since I work in a motel I have a huge variety of people come through who I am friends with,
Now we have had a husband and wife come through who work here at times, which to me although I cant see how or why they do it, it really doesnt make any difference to how I think of them..

So if you had a husband and wife who the wife was a prostitute, would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..

Hmmm and if you didnt want to be their friends , Why..

It just a question as some people seem to have a problem with it so I was just seeing if I am the only one who doesnt see the problem..



I can see no problem with it...it's just their type of work...I've never known work to interfer with a friendship.

josie68's photo
Sun 05/15/11 02:48 PM


So the question is why do some people have a problem with them,


my question would be more, how do they look each other in the eye. what man pimps his wife out? what wife is okay with being pimped out? they certainly have a skewed view of what marriage is all about and i find this a very sad statement to love and pride and personal responsibility. i get that prostitution is the oldest profession, and they are lovely people, and if they're okay with it, so should we be, and who are we to judge, but this is by far any semblance of the honor a man and woman, who love and respect each other, should have. they have no other options? it doesn't suprise me at all that people raise an eyebrow.


Yep I dont't understand it never will, but then their are people who have affairs and people who have open relationships which I dont agree with.
I just dont think about what she does for a living..

josie68's photo
Sun 05/15/11 02:51 PM



How far would your friendship go? Would you tip them off if cops
came around? Would you hold some cash for them? Would you go to their
room and hang with them or party with them after they've left?

Would you set them up in a room under fake names and in a location
that was easy to vacate at a moments notice?

Would you recommend them to others looking for sex?
Would you try her yourself as a personal sexual toy?
How about if she offered you a freebie?

laugh


Ummmm why would I need to tip them off if police where here,
Why would I need to hold their money,
I dont go to anyones room but I would invite them to my home,
I dont party or drink but they would be welcome to eat with us..
Why would they need fake names, they have real ones.
Why would I use a friend as a sexual toy, my friends are not my toys, Anaconda is my toy..

And why would I expect her to offer me anything it is her job,

What I was asking was do people have a problem with it.

I have known them for 5 years, they are great people, but it seems that people are shocked.

They dont hide it or lie about what they do, they are honest and caring people with good hearts.

Her husband is someone that I would call on if I needed help and know that he would be here in a sec and that he would put an end to any trouble that I had..
So the question is why do some people have a problem with them,


If they are friends and the police are there to investigate and
or arrest them then why wouldn't you let them know so they could
avoid arrest?

You might be asked to hold their money so they don't get caught
with it.

If they are friends why would you not go to their room and spend
time with them (when you are off). I have no friends that I would
not visit at their place at their home or at their work.

They might not want to have their real names on the hotel room
bill if they were doing illegal stuff in the room. That's why
they might have fake names for example.

Don't get me wrong. I have no problem with prostitution in
particular - I just think that it might be difficult to be close
friends with them because of the legal implications.







Ok I've got it now didnt realise it was illegal everywhere over there.

I just dont go to peoples rooms as they are upstairs and I rarely have time off work and when I do my children are all downstairs, so everyone comes down to our home, we just dont go up, can you imagine taking 4 to 6 children up to someones room and visiting at 9.30 at night, nope I dont think it would be fun..laugh

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 05/15/11 03:22 PM
Hookers are people too.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 05/15/11 03:37 PM
As long as one can separate themselves from their work and the people they want to be friends with then it should not be a problem.

It is their body and if they choose that lifestyle it is not me to judge them...


I just would not want to listen to what goes on ect...

soufiehere's photo
Sun 05/15/11 03:48 PM

..
I just would not want to listen to
what goes on ect...

Crikey, that's the best part.

wux's photo
Sun 05/15/11 03:55 PM
Edited by wux on Sun 05/15/11 04:23 PM

Hmmm just curious,
Since I work in a motel I have a huge variety of people come through who I am friends with,
Now we have had a husband and wife come through who work here at times, which to me although I cant see how or why they do it, it really doesnt make any difference to how I think of them..

So if you had a husband and wife who the wife was a prostitute, would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..

Hmmm and if you didnt want to be their friends , Why..

It just a question as some people seem to have a problem with it so I was just seeing if I am the only one who doesnt see the problem..


would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..
The best I could do is play ping pong with them, or pluck the gray hairs out of their backs. Nothing more.

Why people have a problem with people who have prostitutes for friends? Coz people tend to think "birds of a feather." A lot of people are vewy unfortunately set in their ways of thinking and evaluating others for their character based on their behaviour.

For instance, I am in a new town; 400 thousand denizens. I am constantly presupposed to be a thief. Everyone who hears me swearing in anger or walking down the street or getting off my bike, immediately thinks I am a thief. Bus drivers don't take off and leave the stop until I put my fare in the little box.

If people are friendly with me, then very obviously their own friends look at them funny. Their looks say, "WTF? Why do you even talk to this guy?" There is a lot of eyebrow-raising and eyeball-rolling whereever I pass through in this town. (London, Ontario.)

Once a girl called the cops, to arrest me, and when they said no, he showed the receit for this bicycle, she said, "well, he looked like a thief."

no photo
Sun 05/15/11 04:09 PM
If I can be friends with a slut (which by definition does it for free), why can't I be friends with a prostitute?

Dolla dolla bill, no?

wux's photo
Sun 05/15/11 04:10 PM
Edited by wux on Sun 05/15/11 04:15 PM
There was too much information in my post.

Why people treat you funny for being friends or friendly with a prostitute and her hubby? Well, because prostitution is legal, but it's a sin. It is also frowned upon by non-relgious people because prostitution is an avocation pursued by fringe members of society.

So would you date or marry a sinner, a person who does not-so-mainstream activities in society? Or would you be friends with a person and her dater, when that person does not-so-mainstram activities in society?

I never lived in a coutnry where prostitution was legal, so I don't know the social acceptance of prostitutes in Australiacountry. Maybe they are not so cool as friends, by the potential friends' evaluation. Maybe people look at prostitutes as acceptable but not mainstream, but a bit like fringe, like punk rockers or goths or minibike-riders.

People don't point fingers at people who are friendly with executioners and with civic employees who work as official physical torturers, but they do behave differently around them. Even priests in catholic communities get a different treatment. That's the other way around from prostitutes.

I don't know if I made myself clear. It's the same as being friends with ex-ax-murderers who had served their entire time, or with traitors against the nation. A liberal-minded person will be openly friendly and showing too much acceptance, which would reveal no acceptance deep down inside.

However, it takes a natural chile of nature, a butterfly in the sky, a blue-eyed wallaby happily hopping around the meadow, such as you are in life, to never even think that people are different because of their past. You are a little treasure, chile, more than rubies. You are the last of the innocents, the angel devine that has not been made dirty by getting millions of years' worth of accumulated taboos smeared on your soul, unlike all the rest of us.

BettyB's photo
Sun 05/15/11 04:15 PM

Hookers are people too.

Really? I thought they were dogs.laugh

wux's photo
Sun 05/15/11 04:20 PM
Edited by wux on Sun 05/15/11 04:22 PM


I have dated a couple of prostitutes. It's funny how they seem to crave a pimp. They never used that word, but they were always trying to give me money. I suppose they want someone that takes care of them the way they take care of other men. It's not just sex you know.


Dont we all just want someone to look after us,
I want my man to take care of me and make sure I am not hurt, hmmm but I have never thought of him as my pimp..:wink:


I used to know a pimp in Toronto. He had come from Australia, and he pimped female crocodiles out to rabbit-tamers. The entire school of rabbits watched in horror every Monday, as the crocodile first had mind-blowing sex with, then devoured the student amongsts them who got the worst mark on the last test on American presidents or in Geography.

That rabbit-trainer was nominated three times to be "the educator of the Year" by McLeans, Canada's leading leisure magazine.

Jess642's photo
Sun 05/15/11 11:01 PM
I love the Who of people not the What...


(hope it answers your question Josie..:wink: )

josie68's photo
Sun 05/15/11 11:10 PM
Edited by josie68 on Sun 05/15/11 11:10 PM

I love the Who of people not the What...


(hope it answers your question Josie..:wink: )


rofl rofl rofl
Jess I didnt doubt your answer at all, I didnt think you would see it any differently then me, and I don't think you would care what others think any more than I wouldflowerforyou

no photo
Sun 05/15/11 11:22 PM
dear...you said the nice and right answer for her problem.....the morality and all rules made by human for human only..it may deference in deferential country's..so..UN fortunately all the rules made by male and for male only...so..the male ego will not allow his wife to do prostitution...but he love to share bed with some other prostitute....but the society never will say he is prostitute...many time the news report will come like this *a man arrested with a prostitute..in.....hotel.....* ....any we all here for make friendship and share love only...not for pros...........hahah.....

msharmony's photo
Sun 05/15/11 11:57 PM

Hmmm just curious,
Since I work in a motel I have a huge variety of people come through who I am friends with,
Now we have had a husband and wife come through who work here at times, which to me although I cant see how or why they do it, it really doesnt make any difference to how I think of them..

So if you had a husband and wife who the wife was a prostitute, would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..

Hmmm and if you didnt want to be their friends , Why..

It just a question as some people seem to have a problem with it so I was just seeing if I am the only one who doesnt see the problem..



too little information for me to confirm or deny a friendship with someone

IF their sexual life were not what DEFINED them and they could be comfortble with not addressing that around me, we would be fine

if their sexual identity did DEFINE them however, and they felt they had to EXPRESS that part of them at all times, it would probably be a big enough difference to bar a true friendship...

josie68's photo
Mon 05/16/11 03:48 AM


Hmmm just curious,
Since I work in a motel I have a huge variety of people come through who I am friends with,
Now we have had a husband and wife come through who work here at times, which to me although I cant see how or why they do it, it really doesnt make any difference to how I think of them..

So if you had a husband and wife who the wife was a prostitute, would you be their friend or would you ignore them or just dodge them..

Hmmm and if you didnt want to be their friends , Why..

It just a question as some people seem to have a problem with it so I was just seeing if I am the only one who doesnt see the problem..



too little information for me to confirm or deny a friendship with someone

IF their sexual life were not what DEFINED them and they could be comfortble with not addressing that around me, we would be fine

if their sexual identity did DEFINE them however, and they felt they had to EXPRESS that part of them at all times, it would probably be a big enough difference to bar a true friendship...


No its not something she talks about randomly, sometimes a customer might pop up in a conversation but not in a horrid way, no different to me talking about the blokes who come in here, we dont talk about what they do..

josie68's photo
Mon 05/16/11 05:41 AM

There was too much information in my post.

Why people treat you funny for being friends or friendly with a prostitute and her hubby? Well, because prostitution is legal, but it's a sin. It is also frowned upon by non-relgious people because prostitution is an avocation pursued by fringe members of society.

So would you date or marry a sinner, a person who does not-so-mainstream activities in society? Or would you be friends with a person and her dater, when that person does not-so-mainstram activities in society?

I never lived in a coutnry where prostitution was legal, so I don't know the social acceptance of prostitutes in Australiacountry. Maybe they are not so cool as friends, by the potential friends' evaluation. Maybe people look at prostitutes as acceptable but not mainstream, but a bit like fringe, like punk rockers or goths or minibike-riders.

People don't point fingers at people who are friendly with executioners and with civic employees who work as official physical torturers, but they do behave differently around them. Even priests in catholic communities get a different treatment. That's the other way around from prostitutes.

I don't know if I made myself clear. It's the same as being friends with ex-ax-murderers who had served their entire time, or with traitors against the nation. A liberal-minded person will be openly friendly and showing too much acceptance, which would reveal no acceptance deep down inside.

However, it takes a natural chile of nature, a butterfly in the sky, a blue-eyed wallaby happily hopping around the meadow, such as you are in life, to never even think that people are different because of their past. You are a little treasure, chile, more than rubies. You are the last of the innocents, the angel devine that has not been made dirty by getting millions of years' worth of accumulated taboos smeared on your soul, unlike all the rest of us.


rofl rofl rofl rofl rofl rofl My parents call me a butterfly and my kids say I am a fairie.laugh laugh laugh just because i flitter around ignoring reality..

Maybe living inthe bush kept away lots of the yuck but I think its more if you put yourself in someone elses shoes you just have to care about them, you cannot help it.

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