I've realised how stupid it really is. Why should i bother being a guy's 2nd choice, while he has his eye on another lady at the same time? Why don't i do the same back to him? Maybe i will. Lol. It seems pointless being in this situation. It's a load of.........you know ;)

The same has happened to me with women. Simply move on, they're not worth it.

Some times, you grab for whatever you can get, but it pays a terrible price on your self-worth. I've certainly been there. Your picture shows you to be a pretty desirable pick. (It's a pretty crappy picture). I think you should be able to find the right guy to be #1 with. There really is somebody for everybody.

Thats a terrible feeling to have, it puts walls up around you for fear of being hurt again. Don't let that happen to you, you seem like a good catch. Chin up doll, good luck to you.

I don't think i should bother speakin to him ever again. He's betrayed my trust. I thought he seemed too good to be true. I was right. Think i'll look for someone who actually cares.

Wait a minute....some dude is trying to woo you with carrots?

...dump the cheap bastard.

:)

Everyone, including you, is dangling their
carrots in the same market here.

Why would anyone settle for being #2?
People who are not used to attention,
tend to go a little nuts in here, where
there is always someone around
to stroke you.

So they play the 'collector' game and
collect whomever they can, with not the
purest of intentions.

Weeding for sincerity can
take some time.

Maybe they want me to feel hurt. It's disgusted me a bit. I'm logging out. Be back soon. Thanks.

Some people are addicted to the thought of having more than one person taken with them. Though more often than not, the enamored parties have no idea they are being duped and that the object of their affection actually has several people dangling from her (or his) little finger. So one has to be careful, because there are women (or men) like that here.

Thats what I've done...(though hey I'm always second best so it doesn't help with me)

But hell yeah, go find someone who cares! Ya know ya deserve it.

This is where my father's voice overpowers me... "Why are you killing yourself over someone who doesn't break a sweat over you? " ..this has gotten me through a lot in my life. It is true. Value yourself.

Yeah...def ditch the d-bag.

well put! or here is another one for ya "why you crying over him? I can bring you a truckload of those losers" ... always made me feel great!!

You shouldn't. It's a no-win proposition.



Because then you're no better than he is.



It truly IS pointless, and you'll be much better off to extricate yourself from it as soon as possible.

Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't put you first.

Lex is right..

You know love is not about settling for someone.
Its about finding the person who you can spend the rest of your life with.
It's about knowing that he will be there with you, when you grow older. Gosh this man cant even decide if he wants you. Get rid of him now as it is only going to end up hurting more later.
Loving is finding that one person who makes you complete, who you can be yourself with, who can be a part of you yet let you be your own person. This is rare but well worth the wait dont settle for anything less.

This is definitely right.

yes it is,,I almost got married that way,,,as she dangled THAT carrot before me.....as she wasn't real with her truth..

Kick him in the nuts and move on.

That is why I just opt for friendships. That way I can see if I can be a friend to them and by the same token see if they can be a friend to me. If you put them on a pedestal or if they put you on a pedestal then you are both on different levels. Too much ego or too little ego can be bad for a person.

Kick this boy to the curb!!Enough said!