on the SLIGHT chance an attorney may be trolling these threads,,lol

I have a pickle. I REALLy really want to get divorced. I dont have the thousands I would need to hire an attorney for my situation but I dont have the information I would need to file myself.

My (husband) is a non resident alien/UK citizen. I have not spent time with him since may of 2009(one week) and prior to that had not seen him for a year. HE also does not send any support. Since the holidays of 2008, he has sent a grand total of 800 dollars, and some gifts.

Hence to say, we have LITTLE real life contact or interactions so that I am essentially a single mom to our toddler daughter. ,,anyway,,,,I have been WAITING for the time when I had the funds to hire an attorney but the present economy has made that wait longer than I ever anticipated so I want to do the divorce myself. The problem is, my (husband) is being less than cooperative, does not want to give me his address, threatening he wont sign if he gets papers,,etc,,,

IM really stuck cause I really want to document that we are no longer 'married'. ,,,,,,any suggestions at all of how I can do this without coming out of pocket quite as much?

annulment, maybe? he is overseas...

do you think it meets anullment requirements? I will have to look that up.

Can you manage $100? That's what it cost me for an hour of a lawyers' time to draw out my otions and tell me everything I needed to know. The laws are different in different states, but I think they're pretty boiler-plate where ever you are unless there are children of property disputes.

I also found quite a bit of stuff on the web.

i have no clue, it is just the 1st thing that popped in my mind when i read this

I see that your are in Nevada. For instance, this article has something to tell you that I think you will find very interesting.
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/nevada.htm

You would be the plaintiff and he would be the defendant. In many cases, I believe, if a defendant fails to respond, he automatically loses. I'm certainly no lawyer, But I wouldn't be surprised if this could be handled by you yourself very cheaply and easily.

thanx art, I will check it out now

You will not get a annulment sience the marriage was consumed and have a child together. Every State having they own law so here we go : In the state of Illinois you can fille for a divorce where you reside for at lease one year with your husband. In your case by not
Knowing his current address , the court will post a add in a newspaper and if your husband doesnt relply within 30 days your divorce start being process by court. Simple and easy. By the way, many lawyers are taking monthly payments if you can't afford to pay up on front. Best luck.

I would strongly suggest talking to a lawyer, but I think after a certain amount of time seperated, a marriage can be considered disolved or something, like if he abandoned the family for a certain amount of time or something, then you two would be considered divorced, but I'm not exactly sure about that. You may be able get some kind of legal aide for free or cheap, not sure though, something maybe worth looking into though.

Hi,

I'm not a qualified lawyer, but I am studying to be a solicitor and have worked for a few law firms.

An annulment is not the appropriate avenue, my understanding is that annulment is for short lived 'mistake' marriages, to make it as if it never happened. Where a marriage has happened, it needs to be brought to an end by divorce.

If you don't want to spend money, and if finances are tight, there are several options available. Husband's consent is easiest but that looks unlikely from what you said. Try pro-bono centers and law school/university law groups, they often do free legal work for those without the financial means to access legal advice.

Great idea! I never would have thought of that.

Just a suggestion for the future...

Don't marry A DIK.

I know you seem to value men of christian morals....

Christians are the absolute worst people.

I know that your bag is good people of upstanding morality....

Try Budhism...at least they tell thier men to be good.

Rats wish you could have given me that advice Krupa

Go to a women shelter, give them a donation. Ask their Advice. I bet it they know a way, or someone on the Cheap who does.

we have a daughter, and I cant even retain a decent lawyer here for under 700 dollars(las vegas, nv)

lol, I actually compromised on the 'christian' part with him,,,lol

womens shelters and law schools seem like great places to start,,,,thanx guys

File yourself. Post the notice in a local paper for service. It may still go through without his signature.

Its a shame women can't get a divorce without paying to file in a lot of states anymore. I divorced two husbands myself, filed myself, etc.

Of course I had no children. Look into some kind of legal aid. You can't get an annulment.

Life is really very strange. Take the challenge bravely and hope everything will be all right. May God bless you!
(This is not an advice, just a moral support.)

duly noted,, thank you