Hi all im a little stumped by this one and i need some help before i make a silly desision.

in short i have been "dating" this lovely woman for 9 weeks on wednesday. we have in total seen each other for about a hour and a half but she calls me for 4+hours a day. hears the odd one she lives not even 15 mins drive from me and i would drive over 6 hours to see her but she always has something pop up. the irony i drive past her house 4-14 times a week depending where i am working. she gets me to drop things off on her doorstep, and she leaves things for me on it, but never comes ouside to see me just waves from a window. i know a previous partner caused her a lot of pain but im wondering is she wanting to be with me or am i being a fool cus she phones me all the time but never meets up with me, and she just likes the attention?

please help im confused and i do love her i have pored my heart out to her and her to me but she wont even go to the movies with me. whats this mean please ladies help me im confused

I know you want girls to answer. But I'd say she's either crazy or she's already with someone.

now she must be crazy cus she likes me but the already with someone thing aint a option as i said shes on the phone to me when i wake up every break and lunch break and the moment i finish work 5:30 till 4am everyday.
on my lazy workdays (i have 2 jobs) shes on the phone from 8am till 4am so i think her fella would notice something lol but i see where you were going with that thanks buddy it did cross my mind till i worked out he would get like 25 - 30 mins most 2 days a week and 8 hours 5 days i think i would notice. i did when my last ex cheated like that and she was only chatting 3 hours a day.
once ahain nerdwithtattoos thanks for the pop buddy

Men may have aggression going for them, but women are master conivers, especially when it comes to being selfish.

Trust me, that chick has someone else laying the pipe incorrectly but making the money. Don't be someone's backdoor sweetie.

sorry didnt get the acronime there long day

Damaged goods bro ,

Run like Hell and don't look back ...

Really , life is too short for that stupid $hit.

I would say she's married. Ecspecially the part where she just waves at you from the window. I'd either just cut your losses or enjoy it for what it is and don't expect anything more from it.

know she aint married and there aint anyone else on the sceene unless he works on a oil rig.
we are glued to the phone the thing im asking is:
does she want to be with me but slow to start because of past ex or is she leading me down the garden path.

one thing that has made this harder for me because i heve left others for less is: when i found my daughter had gone missing with her mother (my ex) she was there for me the whole time when she could have just hung up?? this is whats confusing me.
is she just to shy, or just wanting a friend?

How do you know for sure that there isnt someone else?

Something is just not right...find out what it is...camp outside her door and tell her you won't leave till she comes out. (Not in a stalking kind of way.. )
Talk to her about this problem. Let her know it is a problem. For her, this could be normal.

Women can be a lot more private than men.
Perhaps she does not want you to invade
her privacy on a moment-to-moment basis.
Maybe she is waiting to get to know you better.
Maybe she has a dirty house.
Maybe the pets don't like strangers.
So many reasons, here is an idea, why don't
you ask her?

Myself I would have to say something seriously is not right. Not sure if she has issues with going outside or what but there seems to be some issues there and unless your willing to put your foot down and just ask her what is going on you will end up with the situation staying like it is. So guess it all depends on how much you are willing to sit in the dark....

Whatever her real issue is there is no way for us to guess based on the details given. However I think it's safe to say she is not ready for dating or to be in a relationship by any means. Just walk away now, I know it sounds mean but you really have to put yourself first in this situation. If you try to stick it out you will only end up disappointed.

She probably does want to be with you but if she's too jaded by her past relationships to move forward then where does that leave you? (Talking on the phone with your d*ck in your hand) Not a good place to be with someone you love.

Maybe she has that problem alot of people suffer from.....agoraphobic????? She may have issues not wanting to leave her home.....just a thought....

She has a serious confidence problem, perhaps she may be crippled or obese or maybe anorexic. . whatever the reason she doesn't want you to see her in person other than a friendly wave passing by. It is too strange and if she is not willing to let you spend time with her face to face, you should probably continue onto someone else.

if you love and she loves, then i feel that makes it deserving of an explanation. if she isn't willing to give you that, then you should move on. love or not, a person can't be in a relationship and hide in the shadows.

you seem like a really nice guy

Bingo!

Or she has some physical anomaly.

i disagree cause she would not of let him know where she lives.. i mean the part of she is already with someone... however she could have that illness where she does not want to leave her house still.. i would think she would invite you in something is strange..

Sounds kind of strange to me. If she's clearly expressed that she feels the same when your heart out to her, she may just be having problems in her personal life and needs space. You also may be pouring it on too thick for her, which overwhelms her. Give her the gift of missing you a bit more than usual. Hope it works out for the best!