i agree with you.. on the confused part you have been "talking to her for 9 weeks" how does that constitute dating? seeing her for 90 min is merely meeting her. i dont see how that constitutes "dating" either? all i see this is.. you have been talking to her , you met her and she has peeked your interest.. however it seems to me this is as far as she wants it to go? seriously you going to drop stuff off and waving at her in the window really seems quite 6ish to me, like what little kids do when they first time liked a boy or a girl and are kinda embarrassed they are liking boy germs or girl germs.
now you are saying you love her? how can you love someone you barely met? she hasnt given you the time of day..

here is what i would do if i were you.. pick 4 days you have open a week away to take her to the movie.. call her say.. what are you doing monday< a week away> if she says she is doing this and that, look at your second day.. ask her about that day get her response if she goes through all 4 days and cant find time for you they why would you want a relationship with this person? or if she agrees and doesnt show up or changes her mind i would no longer bother..

for whatever reason she does not want to spend time with you should not ponder on.. cause it really doesnt matter move on to someone who does want to spend some time with you, that you can learn and decide if you "love them" someone that WILL DATE you. good luck!

that is creepy if you ask me!

I think she is crazy and no matter what the reason you should look else where

but I also agree with the if you want real answers you are going to have to confront her, and let her know its a serious issue that is jeopardizing the relationship

i do wonder .. so you spent an hour and half with her.. do you mean waving at her in the window? or what? was it one time for that hour and a half and where was it at?

Yeah, she has a mutant bunyon that talks to her. Give me a break!

That Oil Rig Job is always a possibility b/c it has all the earmarks of ladies down in Louisiana. Even with the problems in the industry, men still have oil and gas jobs that make bank. They can be from any state too, I know divers who fly home to Michigan for their time off and then head back to work down here.

14 on and 7 off can get a little lonely for a housewife with time to spare and no hobbies.

Well i was in a similar situation , I the days we talk forever we go out and eat dinner after work . But once night fall and he reach home he is a total different person , no phone call and in the morning so silly excuse.
In your case dear she is either married or physically challenge. So stop letting her play with your emotions. As i did in my case.

Run like the wind!

thanks for the input guys. sorry i havent messaged sooner i have only just got out of hospital from somthing rather unplesant.

on another note
i did have a talk with her about this not long after posting this and i did get some answers though and i understand to some degree i think....

but long story short she has had her ex who is a non to plesant person sitting outside her house when he found out about me he had his restraining order renewed. so she is trying to pass me off as a friend of her moms lol. and her imune system is shot to hell after some medical treatment so she is not wanting to get ill. and she moved the whole is the someone else thing out the picture with a outburst off her mom that pointed out that there is noone else fortunatly. having said that her mom is now doing my weekly shopping for me now. why i dont know other than she was concerned about my diet.

once again guys thanks for the info and i did ask a lot of questins and finaly got answers Yay

you should ask her mother out

Damaged goods bro ,

Run like Hell and don't look back ...

Really , life is too short for that stupid $hit.


^this...I've never been one to waste time wondering or playing games with people. If someone isn't sane & smart enough to just tell me like it is then I don't bother with them. I have better things to worry my brain cells with!

hope her crazy ex doesn't figure it out!

so wait... she has a not too pleasant person, an ex, for whom she needs a restraining order, sitting outside of her house, who has been watching you come and go, and she never said anything to you about that.... and you're okay with this????

you seem like a really nice guy, and partaking in such a ridiculous situation just seems like an act of desperation on your part. surely you have more confidence in yourself to attract an open and honest individual? i don't mean to sound rude or dispell any feelings you have come to know with this person, but i think you are getting yourself into something that will not turn out well. i hope i am wrong.

her ex dont bother me if im honest with the things he has done i would relish the chance to show him how to treat (or how not to) a person who is samaller than you.
and she has been a emotional rock for me when i found out my ex has run off with my daughter and there is no way i will find her till shes like 10 or i can afford a private detective. so i owe her that much i think.

as to the dammaged ggods comment off another poster i am dammaged goods more so than her and thats part of the reason as to why i think she acted like she has a little. and as i said in my previouse post things have opened up somewhat with whats going on on her half. she just lacks the confiadence at the moment due to what he did to her and shes just apprehensive of me being like him. having said that im in the same boat from a similar thing from a ex of mine so i understand now whats gone on. i hope

I'm curious as to why so many women were so quick to play the
"dump her she's cheating on you" card.

i can understand both side of this one fom your point of view which is mine also she spends all day everday talking to me on the phone and shes the one calling me.
but from there side its because im so irrisitable and they are all gonna fight over me if im single :P
sorry couldnt help it.
honestly i know where both side are coming from and if it wasnt for the fact im always on the phone to her i would think that myself but honestly as i said i have spent in total over the past 9 weeks over 200 hours on the phone to her so i i was the other guy im sure her fella would have noticed by now. i did when it was just 1 hour a day when my ex was at it