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love is a serious word, it's not a toy, I believe a person should say "I love u" only if they mean it bcuz love means: u will die for that person, you would be faithful and marry them in a heart beat(in relationship terms), just basically surrender ur life to them and drop all costs, u love to see them happy.....see love is serious and if u aren't ready 4 it then don't say it..
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i gotta agree with this!! and wow how many times i have hear people saying this to each other after only spending two days together.. are you kidding me? geesh!
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Edited by
msharmony
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Sat 03/05/11 01:51 PM
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I gotta disagree, love comes in many forms and in varying degrees
I have a christian love for all people(Wanting to see them be healthy in their life as much as I want it for myself) I have a biological love for family(feeling a lifetime bond and desire to see them healthy in their life as much as I want for myself) I also have romantic love for others , on times(that feeling of wanting to be one in all things for a lifetime) I think the notion of 'dying for someone' is very romantic and overplayed in the movies in real life,.,there is noone I would DIE for, unconditionally, but my children, because death by itself is nothing noble and my children will need me too much for me to go putting my life as less valuable than anyone else situations where I would lay down my life for someone else are very random and conditional and yet there are MANY that I love... |
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I love this thread
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There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them.
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I agree,
The word love is often used before we even know what we feel, but we say it anyway, I have often done it and have no idea why. Well yes I do, I thought i was in love, all those nice feeling, how are you supposed to know that that isnt what love is until you find something else. but then maybe all those nice feeling are just another type of love anyway.,\ I guess sometimesyou just say it cause you know someone wants to hear it.  I also say I Luv my friends, which I do,and of course family but that is a different love.. |
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I love this thread i love you for loving this thread 
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Edited by
esebulldog
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Sat 03/05/11 03:00 PM
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I love this thread i love you for loving this thread that's what she said  |
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I gotta disagree, love comes in many forms and in varying degrees I have a christian love for all people(Wanting to see them be healthy in their life as much as I want it for myself) I have a biological love for family(feeling a lifetime bond and desire to see them healthy in their life as much as I want for myself) I also have romantic love for others , on times(that feeling of wanting to be one in all things for a lifetime) I think the notion of 'dying for someone' is very romantic and overplayed in the movies in real life,.,there is noone I would DIE for, unconditionally, but my children, because death by itself is nothing noble and my children will need me too much for me to go putting my life as less valuable than anyone else situations where I would lay down my life for someone else are very random and conditional and yet there are MANY that I love... your right in a sense, but the part with the children, if I had kids, I would die for them, if I don't then they will....and yes I also have a "love" for everyone meaning you care subconscieously because of what was stated in the Bible (paraphrasing) "we are all brothers and sisters..also do unto ur neighbors as u would want done to you" so u do have a choice in "loving" them or not but if ur a true follower then u would automatically care for or love everyone, basically in a way, u kind don't have a choice.....I'm talking about the love that comes from inside you, to where you could just go upto that person and hug them without any doubt of akwardness, more like someone you actually know or had multiple incounters with....I hope I made sense |
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your right in a sense, but the part with the children, if I had kids, I would die for them, if I don't then they will....and yes I also have a "love" for everyone meaning you care subconscieously because of what was stated in the Bible (paraphrasing) "we are all brothers and sisters..also do unto ur neighbors as u would want done to you" so u do have a choice in "loving" them or not but if ur a true follower then u would automatically care for or love everyone, basically in a way, u kind don't have a choice.....I'm talking about the love that comes from inside you, to where you could just go upto that person and hug them without any doubt of akwardness, more like someone you actually know or had multiple incounters with....I hope I made sense Makes perfect sense 7MR
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your right in a sense, but the part with the children, if I had kids, I would die for them, if I don't then they will....and yes I also have a "love" for everyone meaning you care subconscieously because of what was stated in the Bible (paraphrasing) "we are all brothers and sisters..also do unto ur neighbors as u would want done to you" so u do have a choice in "loving" them or not but if ur a true follower then u would automatically care for or love everyone, basically in a way, u kind don't have a choice.....I'm talking about the love that comes from inside you, to where you could just go upto that person and hug them without any doubt of akwardness, more like someone you actually know or had multiple incounters with....I hope I made sense Makes perfect sense 7MR yay! thanXx lol |
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According to this thread I can't love my friends or family because I dont want to marry them. Are you kidding me?
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I think throwing it all under the umbrella of 'love' makes it confusing
I think that basically the op suggests people shouldnt lead each other on, specifically in dating situations on the flip side of that though, I would caution all not to assume that the opposite sex claming to 'love you' means they are 'in love' with you look into their actions to discover which variation of 'love' they refer to, they may not be misleading us, we might just be reading into it what we want it to mean,,, |
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Im comfortable saying 'I love you' to people only when I love them. I am not blind to the fact that we are all different however. If I were the sort of person that needed to hear frequent "I love you"s, then someone who throws it around may be my match. I am not that sort, but I need to hear it on occasion. Therefore, the sort who does not say it, ever, is also not my match. I need the in-between kinda guy. We all need different things I reckon. I agree with msh about the dying bit. I can love someone without consideration of my demise. I have a responsibility to my child to continue, for one. The condition of parenthood, to me, is one of sacrifice. A priority of responsibilities. The condition of love, to me, is one of great happiness and partnership. No death issue there, but it could mean sacrifices. A partnership will mean compromise. I think some people get so passionate about their feelings, they like to throw around words like 'dying' for them. Nothing wrong with passionate. see u said it urself...itz about sacrifice....and yes I kno children need their parents but what about when it's your time to die? then u have no choice but to leave your kids behind...either way, they will be hurt, like say if you and your children were hanging off of a cliff and u had a chance 2 save them by sacrificing your life then they would be hurt emotionally but then will come to realize that u are in a better place and you gave them a life 2 live and your love showed through that....but if you thought not sacrificing your self to give them a life, you all will slip and die, so forensic scientists will look at the scene like " if the mother was right there, why didn't she do this?" and the world would look at you weird because you didn't give your children extra time to live life....but that's only if you had the option, it's different if it was time for all of you to die.....idk if I'm making sense, but I try my best..... |
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Edited by
Monier
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Sun 03/06/11 03:19 PM
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What if's are very vague point makers to say the least.
Thinking about what ifs is a bonafide way to think yourself right out of any relationship. Perhaps the answer lies in understanding ourselves first? I mean, we can't just rationally dictate to others what we think their feelings should mean and when they shoud say certain things in life right? Oh yes we can, if we have selfish and controlling personalities. Love is a special word and what makes it special is that it has a unique meaning to the person using it. How can I convey my love to her? How can I show her how I feel? If it was simply saying 'I love you', why would people ever think those ways? We need to just stop thinking that some single word can ever convey everything that we feel. Don't use it unless you mean it? What does that even mean in itself? it's just a word. |
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in a relationship, love is just a word, wait for it to become a verb, only then do you have something real.
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Well now I just want to hug a tree and get a tatoo of peace sign on my azz...........
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 U...........play,,or friend I LOV U..play or friend I WOV YOU...play or friend.. I LOVE YOU<------------THIS ONE SHOULD WEIGH ON YOUR HEART,SOUL,AND MIND. AS THE "LOVE" MEANS,,,"MORE" THAN JUST A FRIENDSHIP.... IF "YOU" SAY TO ANOTHER THE FACT IS THAT "YOU" love them in a way of HEART,,,long-term, closeness as to HAVE THEM BE BONDING with your HEART in ROMANCE,,,,,,then YES,,,,,,I LOVE YOU,,,is NOT,,just a quote to say,,or a Phrase to USE,,for ANY OTHER REASONS,,than what you feel inside your heart for THEM. I thank and KNOW,,lol SOME on here who had about five women THINKING,,their I LOVE YOU,,,meant that THEY LOVED THEM... When it was JUST WHAT HE SAID TO EVERY WOMAN????? But ,,,HE said THAT,,with every intention for THEM,,to BeliEVE HE REALLY LOVED THEM ONLY.....so by him doing THAT,, He HURT,,many ladies by saying that to them,,with THAT meaning being passed on WITH IT being said...  
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I think throwing it all under the umbrella of 'love' makes it confusing I think that basically the op suggests people shouldnt lead each other on, specifically in dating situations on the flip side of that though, I would caution all not to assume that the opposite sex claming to 'love you' means they are 'in love' with you look into their actions to discover which variation of 'love' they refer to, they may not be misleading us, we might just be reading into it what we want it to mean,,, I agree with msharmony, love has many many levels and very well stated Bastet! Also, if there are no conditions on how much you sacrifice for love you will only hurt yourself by giving more than you are capable of to someone not giving the same in return! also agree with OP that people are too quick to throw that word around when entering relationships |
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