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hello :-),you can inbox people, or they can inbox you.
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Sex is definitely not overrated. I get the feeling that those who think it is aren't getting it enough.  could be lol im a virgin |
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Sex is definitely not overrated. I get the feeling that those who think it is aren't getting it enough. could be lol im a virgin |
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Virginity is only as important as you make it out to be. Personally, I was 20: a little pain, a little blood, no big deal. However, I was also the victim of a 'Virgin Killer'. He dumped me not long after. He made it a point of getting chicks who hadn't had much experience or no experience-- he likes being first. A lot of guys out there chase the girl 'who never gives', just to get it, not b/c they care about the girl. Also, a lot of virgins are very clingy to their firsts, and that can get old quick for a guy. They end up cheating or dumping, either way the girl smothers them til they find someone more realistic. One thing I do know for sure, it almost always hurts a little the first time. And with the right partner, all the other times can be awesome. why don't guys get clingy with their first? and I see that you answered my question. I asked if people should wait for marriage to have sex, but that's only if you want to save yourself from being crushed, by the guy leaving you after you fell in love with him or became clingy right? also, it's all about the male ego when they try to get the girl that never gives...for them it's like cracking a code, if they end up cracking it and getting inside, then they will feel accomplished, tell their friends, then go try to crack another code.... Thank you, you were helpful! |
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ok, lets speak virgin wise. All my friends told me that when they lost their virginity 2 the guys they thot loved them, ended up dumping my friends and they were hurt 4 a while, feeling stupid....I guess after a couple times you have sex, you end up having an "idc" attitude....this doesn't apply 2 married couples, but um if more girls give themselves up, then how would sex be special? just like currency, the 100 dollar bill currency is limited because if it was thousands more 100 dollar bills than currently circulated, it would lose its value and become like a penny, basically useless, because everyone would have it...so, if a girl didn't want 2 have sex because she feels, "why have sex now because on our honey moon (if we get married) sex would lose its value because he already knows what it is like 2 have sex with her, and might just move on to the next girl....relationships are not just based on sex anyway but, if all girls put out then what really is the point of marriage? most guys tell me they like a challenge and just use the girls that would "put out" after like 2 weeks, and I heard my bros friend say that the girls that do that have a low self esteem problem or whatever so they try to keep the guy by giving him whatever he wants but that doesn't work, so the marrying type are the ones that treat themselves as a prize and let the guy chase them......wait! im totally off topic (-_-) lol oh well Ok here's my view. Sigh..  After you have sex for the first time, you wont see it the same anymore. You will see that he loves you and you love him and that will be enough for you to feel the comfort to continue to have sex, plus you will crave it now. Sex will become something you do on the normal, like drinking water, and you wont have second thoughts to continue the act with him. After you break up or divorce. You no longer have his love. You no longer trust him. That comfort is gone. But you will begin to crave that comfort, affection, companionship and sex that you once had. You can take different routes at this point. As you said, have the "IDC" attitude and fck around to fill that void. I can tell you though, this usually doesn't end well. You will probably end up hurt. And yeah, we've all heard guys like the chase blah blah. But here's the thing. If the guy you really like isn't looking for a relationship/marriage, he's not going to stick around whether you do him or not. The difference is that when he leaves, you can either be left hurt because you got attached after you did him, or have no regrets and move on.  There's too much to type. But yeah. wow, you made the most sense! you are so right.....well, I'm a virgin believe it or not and this boy and I used 2 stare @ eachother everyday and it got so intense, like we could feel the regular love attraction but the sexual attraction took over, so I wanted 2 have sex with him but I'm scared he would leave but I can see that he is a sweet guy. I also read about virgo/aries relationships and that's what I want, thatz how my heart feels it will happen. The reason I know this is because during our college break for christmas n stuff, I drempt about him every night and I went through this whole phase and I thot he didn't actually like me so he gave me the wrong number because evertime I txt'd him or called, it didn't work, so my best friend told me 2 4get about him but my heart told me to not give up on him, so I stopped tryna call but never gave up, and what just so happened was, last week sumthin told me 2 try 1 more time and if nothing happened then delete the number, and so I txt'd him 1 last time and he answered....all I'm saying is, if things are going like this, if we got 2gether, does it sound like it would be a good idea to have sex with him?...I would try 2 hold out until I really get 2 know him but the sexual tension is always sitting right in front of our faces, so idk if it would be that long... |
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ok, lets speak virgin wise. All my friends told me that when they lost their virginity 2 the guys they thot loved them, ended up dumping my friends and they were hurt 4 a while, feeling stupid....I guess after a couple times you have sex, you end up having an "idc" attitude....this doesn't apply 2 married couples, but um if more girls give themselves up, then how would sex be special? just like currency, the 100 dollar bill currency is limited because if it was thousands more 100 dollar bills than currently circulated, it would lose its value and become like a penny, basically useless, because everyone would have it...so, if a girl didn't want 2 have sex because she feels, "why have sex now because on our honey moon (if we get married) sex would lose its value because he already knows what it is like 2 have sex with her, and might just move on to the next girl....relationships are not just based on sex anyway but, if all girls put out then what really is the point of marriage? most guys tell me they like a challenge and just use the girls that would "put out" after like 2 weeks, and I heard my bros friend say that the girls that do that have a low self esteem problem or whatever so they try to keep the guy by giving him whatever he wants but that doesn't work, so the marrying type are the ones that treat themselves as a prize and let the guy chase them......wait! im totally off topic (-_-) lol oh well
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I mean, it was actually ment for reproduction, which is one of God's favorite things he gave 2 humans, so he also made it pleasurable...BUT humans also have sexual cravings that is hard 2 cope with, so we do "the deed" 2 satisfy our bodys way of telling us it is ready 2 make babies. So, is it really over rated? or is it just apart of human nature, even though God says to not do it out of wedlock?....the reason why God said don't do it out of wedlock is a totally different subject.
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ok I understand, I guess it depends on the person and their belief about it because personally I can not tell another that I love them until I get 2 kno them, even family I never knew, if they died I wouldn't feel anything but its one exception I have with my own issue, well in the belief of not knowing someone and not being able to tell them I love them, I contridicted myself bcuz of the phrase "love at 1st sight", I didn't believe that at first until my first semester of college which was in the august that just passed and this boy and I became attracted 2 eachother the 3rd day of class and we fouund out we had 3 classes 2gether...im not going in2 detail but he is perfect and I feel like I fell in love with him without even knowing him but those couple months we stared at one another and talked a little bit but just looking in his eyes told me everything about him, we are both extremely shy when it comes 2 liking ppl so nothing happened, except he gave me his # and he told me he didn't want my # bcuz he wanted me to call him and I thot he didn't want 2 talk 2 me bcuz his # never worked...so on sumthing told me yesturday 2 try again and if not then delete his # and 4get about him and low n behold, he answered and still is as sweet as ever...so I never gave up and he wasn't lying 2 me about his # and I always wished that I could talk 2 him @ least near his birthday and vuwala I formed a plan 2 txt him again in 3 weeks and that's somewhere near his birthday...so I guess I agree...love comes in many forms and different times..as long as u believe it and never give up on it then one day at the perfect time, it will reveal itself Just as you understand that even though I am having trouble deciphering your last 342 word running sentence, I do however, know that you are talking about love. In a way, you completely show how hard it can be to truly understand how another person feels about love. Can you really expect another person be so accurate to you about their feelings while the ideas that you share seem to bleed together themselves? Food for thought. well gee golly! im sorry about my run on mr. english teacher lol just joking, but um, actually I can't expect a person to be accurately right because everyone has their own opinions, although many people may side with one person...but sometimes people believe in "majority rules" so they just make that the main (oh gosh I can't think of the word, I think maybe: concept). |
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ok I understand, I guess it depends on the person and their belief about it because personally I can not tell another that I love them until I get 2 kno them, even family I never knew, if they died I wouldn't feel anything but its one exception I have with my own issue, well in the belief of not knowing someone and not being able to tell them I love them, I contridicted myself bcuz of the phrase "love at 1st sight", I didn't believe that at first until my first semester of college which was in the august that just passed and this boy and I became attracted 2 eachother the 3rd day of class and we fouund out we had 3 classes 2gether...im not going in2 detail but he is perfect and I feel like I fell in love with him without even knowing him but those couple months we stared at one another and talked a little bit but just looking in his eyes told me everything about him, we are both extremely shy when it comes 2 liking ppl so nothing happened, except he gave me his # and he told me he didn't want my # bcuz he wanted me to call him and I thot he didn't want 2 talk 2 me bcuz his # never worked...so on sumthing told me yesturday 2 try again and if not then delete his # and 4get about him and low n behold, he answered and still is as sweet as ever...so I never gave up and he wasn't lying 2 me about his # and I always wished that I could talk 2 him @ least near his birthday and vuwala I formed a plan 2 txt him again in 3 weeks and that's somewhere near his birthday...so I guess I agree...love comes in many forms and different times..as long as u believe it and never give up on it then one day at the perfect time, it will reveal itself
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Im comfortable saying 'I love you' to people only when I love them. I am not blind to the fact that we are all different however. If I were the sort of person that needed to hear frequent "I love you"s, then someone who throws it around may be my match. I am not that sort, but I need to hear it on occasion. Therefore, the sort who does not say it, ever, is also not my match. I need the in-between kinda guy. We all need different things I reckon. I agree with msh about the dying bit. I can love someone without consideration of my demise. I have a responsibility to my child to continue, for one. The condition of parenthood, to me, is one of sacrifice. A priority of responsibilities. The condition of love, to me, is one of great happiness and partnership. No death issue there, but it could mean sacrifices. A partnership will mean compromise. I think some people get so passionate about their feelings, they like to throw around words like 'dying' for them. Nothing wrong with passionate. see u said it urself...itz about sacrifice....and yes I kno children need their parents but what about when it's your time to die? then u have no choice but to leave your kids behind...either way, they will be hurt, like say if you and your children were hanging off of a cliff and u had a chance 2 save them by sacrificing your life then they would be hurt emotionally but then will come to realize that u are in a better place and you gave them a life 2 live and your love showed through that....but if you thought not sacrificing your self to give them a life, you all will slip and die, so forensic scientists will look at the scene like " if the mother was right there, why didn't she do this?" and the world would look at you weird because you didn't give your children extra time to live life....but that's only if you had the option, it's different if it was time for all of you to die.....idk if I'm making sense, but I try my best..... |
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your right in a sense, but the part with the children, if I had kids, I would die for them, if I don't then they will....and yes I also have a "love" for everyone meaning you care subconscieously because of what was stated in the Bible (paraphrasing) "we are all brothers and sisters..also do unto ur neighbors as u would want done to you" so u do have a choice in "loving" them or not but if ur a true follower then u would automatically care for or love everyone, basically in a way, u kind don't have a choice.....I'm talking about the love that comes from inside you, to where you could just go upto that person and hug them without any doubt of akwardness, more like someone you actually know or had multiple incounters with....I hope I made sense Makes perfect sense 7MR  yay! thanXx lol |
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I gotta disagree, love comes in many forms and in varying degrees I have a christian love for all people(Wanting to see them be healthy in their life as much as I want it for myself) I have a biological love for family(feeling a lifetime bond and desire to see them healthy in their life as much as I want for myself) I also have romantic love for others , on times(that feeling of wanting to be one in all things for a lifetime) I think the notion of 'dying for someone' is very romantic and overplayed in the movies in real life,.,there is noone I would DIE for, unconditionally, but my children, because death by itself is nothing noble and my children will need me too much for me to go putting my life as less valuable than anyone else situations where I would lay down my life for someone else are very random and conditional and yet there are MANY that I love... your right in a sense, but the part with the children, if I had kids, I would die for them, if I don't then they will....and yes I also have a "love" for everyone meaning you care subconscieously because of what was stated in the Bible (paraphrasing) "we are all brothers and sisters..also do unto ur neighbors as u would want done to you" so u do have a choice in "loving" them or not but if ur a true follower then u would automatically care for or love everyone, basically in a way, u kind don't have a choice.....I'm talking about the love that comes from inside you, to where you could just go upto that person and hug them without any doubt of akwardness, more like someone you actually know or had multiple incounters with....I hope I made sense |
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love is a serious word, it's not a toy, I believe a person should say "I love u" only if they mean it bcuz love means: u will die for that person, you would be faithful and marry them in a heart beat(in relationship terms), just basically surrender ur life to them and drop all costs, u love to see them happy.....see love is serious and if u aren't ready 4 it then don't say it..
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u gurlz rock! lol
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you are pleased by pleasing? yes I am lol...I love to see that my partner is happy because of me ya know? |
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easily pleased ur right, it doesn't take a lot 2 please me, I actually like 2 do the pleasing :-) s'all in the delivery. yes it is v, yes it is.... |
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She likes to be pleased yeah I like 2 b but more so, the pleasing comming from me... |
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easily pleased ur right, it doesn't take a lot 2 please me, I actually like 2 do the pleasing :-) |
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wale cum lol jk jk..welcome and enjoy (^_^)
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she knows nice hair when she sees it  and she's very nice herself   awww why thank you lol You're welcome! I forgot to mention that she's beautiful and sweet. ^^ and your handsom and a gentleman |
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