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love is a serious word, it's not a toy, I believe a person should say "I love u" only if they mean it bcuz love means: u will die for that person, you would be faithful and marry them in a heart beat(in relationship terms), just basically surrender ur life to them and drop all costs, u love to see them happy.....see love is serious and if u aren't ready 4 it then don't say it.. That kind of thinking is why people are afraid to say "I love you." If you say it to someone you are dating, it can be misunderstood to be a serious proposal of marriage. That's how people's feelings get hurt. There are different levels of Love. I can love a member of the opposite sex but that does not mean that I would die for them or marry them. Loosen up a bit and try on a few different kinds of love. |
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ok I understand, I guess it depends on the person and their belief about it because personally I can not tell another that I love them until I get 2 kno them, even family I never knew, if they died I wouldn't feel anything but its one exception I have with my own issue, well in the belief of not knowing someone and not being able to tell them I love them, I contridicted myself bcuz of the phrase "love at 1st sight", I didn't believe that at first until my first semester of college which was in the august that just passed and this boy and I became attracted 2 eachother the 3rd day of class and we fouund out we had 3 classes 2gether...im not going in2 detail but he is perfect and I feel like I fell in love with him without even knowing him but those couple months we stared at one another and talked a little bit but just looking in his eyes told me everything about him, we are both extremely shy when it comes 2 liking ppl so nothing happened, except he gave me his # and he told me he didn't want my # bcuz he wanted me to call him and I thot he didn't want 2 talk 2 me bcuz his # never worked...so on sumthing told me yesturday 2 try again and if not then delete his # and 4get about him and low n behold, he answered and still is as sweet as ever...so I never gave up and he wasn't lying 2 me about his # and I always wished that I could talk 2 him @ least near his birthday and vuwala I formed a plan 2 txt him again in 3 weeks and that's somewhere near his birthday...so I guess I agree...love comes in many forms and different times..as long as u believe it and never give up on it then one day at the perfect time, it will reveal itself
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ok I understand, I guess it depends on the person and their belief about it because personally I can not tell another that I love them until I get 2 kno them, even family I never knew, if they died I wouldn't feel anything but its one exception I have with my own issue, well in the belief of not knowing someone and not being able to tell them I love them, I contridicted myself bcuz of the phrase "love at 1st sight", I didn't believe that at first until my first semester of college which was in the august that just passed and this boy and I became attracted 2 eachother the 3rd day of class and we fouund out we had 3 classes 2gether...im not going in2 detail but he is perfect and I feel like I fell in love with him without even knowing him but those couple months we stared at one another and talked a little bit but just looking in his eyes told me everything about him, we are both extremely shy when it comes 2 liking ppl so nothing happened, except he gave me his # and he told me he didn't want my # bcuz he wanted me to call him and I thot he didn't want 2 talk 2 me bcuz his # never worked...so on sumthing told me yesturday 2 try again and if not then delete his # and 4get about him and low n behold, he answered and still is as sweet as ever...so I never gave up and he wasn't lying 2 me about his # and I always wished that I could talk 2 him @ least near his birthday and vuwala I formed a plan 2 txt him again in 3 weeks and that's somewhere near his birthday...so I guess I agree...love comes in many forms and different times..as long as u believe it and never give up on it then one day at the perfect time, it will reveal itself Just as you understand that even though I am having trouble deciphering your last 342 word running sentence, I do however, know that you are talking about love. In a way, you completely show how hard it can be to truly understand how another person feels about love. Can you really expect another person be so accurate to you about their feelings while the ideas that you share seem to bleed together themselves? Food for thought. |
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ok I understand, I guess it depends on the person and their belief about it because personally I can not tell another that I love them until I get 2 kno them, even family I never knew, if they died I wouldn't feel anything but its one exception I have with my own issue, well in the belief of not knowing someone and not being able to tell them I love them, I contridicted myself bcuz of the phrase "love at 1st sight", I didn't believe that at first until my first semester of college which was in the august that just passed and this boy and I became attracted 2 eachother the 3rd day of class and we fouund out we had 3 classes 2gether...im not going in2 detail but he is perfect and I feel like I fell in love with him without even knowing him but those couple months we stared at one another and talked a little bit but just looking in his eyes told me everything about him, we are both extremely shy when it comes 2 liking ppl so nothing happened, except he gave me his # and he told me he didn't want my # bcuz he wanted me to call him and I thot he didn't want 2 talk 2 me bcuz his # never worked...so on sumthing told me yesturday 2 try again and if not then delete his # and 4get about him and low n behold, he answered and still is as sweet as ever...so I never gave up and he wasn't lying 2 me about his # and I always wished that I could talk 2 him @ least near his birthday and vuwala I formed a plan 2 txt him again in 3 weeks and that's somewhere near his birthday...so I guess I agree...love comes in many forms and different times..as long as u believe it and never give up on it then one day at the perfect time, it will reveal itself Just as you understand that even though I am having trouble deciphering your last 342 word running sentence, I do however, know that you are talking about love. In a way, you completely show how hard it can be to truly understand how another person feels about love. Can you really expect another person be so accurate to you about their feelings while the ideas that you share seem to bleed together themselves? Food for thought. well gee golly! im sorry about my run on mr. english teacher lol just joking, but um, actually I can't expect a person to be accurately right because everyone has their own opinions, although many people may side with one person...but sometimes people believe in "majority rules" so they just make that the main (oh gosh I can't think of the word, I think maybe: concept). |
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Edited by
Shayna1978
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Mon 03/07/11 07:31 PM
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I would LOVE to beat the living hell out of my ex for the last five years, but I am definitely never using the word around that idiot again b/c he didn't know what it meant.
MORE ON TOPIC: I think 'love' is used far too loosely. I think my 16 year old neice has been in 'love' five times in 2010 alone. I'm not saying it again until whoever I'm with says it first. Hell may freeze over, I'll keep you posted... |
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M-E-T-H-O-D-O-F-L-O-V-E....it's the method of modern love.
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I guess that's why some people are not compatible with others. In my opinion using those words represents a very deep commitment to the person they are being said to, and so yes, I'm very hesitant to use them unless I really mean it on that level.
I can understand the other commitments part with parental responsibilities, but still, it seems to me that when you are in love with a person you are ready and willing to do anything for them, including sacrificing your own happiness or life for theirs. If I were in love with someone, that would mean that I would push them out of the way and get run over by a bus in order to save their lives, for instance. |
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hmmmmm... i wouldn't equate love with being willing to do anything for them or sacrificing my own happiness or life (would their grief not be as painful?). love should mean you are committed to working together in happiness. love, even in its grandest sense, can hit obstacles that make you realize you do love each other ...beyond words, but, being together, is not meant to be. in its truest sense, love is mutual in its respect for each other and words like sacrifices become non-existant. jmho.
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i use "im besoted with you" till i know the person
"i love you" pops up when i do love them and as the OP put die for them and spend the rest of my life with them |
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I gotta disagree, love comes in many forms and in varying degrees I have a christian love for all people(Wanting to see them be healthy in their life as much as I want it for myself) I have a biological love for family(feeling a lifetime bond and desire to see them healthy in their life as much as I want for myself) I also have romantic love for others , on times(that feeling of wanting to be one in all things for a lifetime)   
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I gotta disagree, love comes in many forms and in varying degrees I have a christian love for all people(Wanting to see them be healthy in their life as much as I want it for myself) I have a biological love for family(feeling a lifetime bond and desire to see them healthy in their life as much as I want for myself) I also have romantic love for others , on times(that feeling of wanting to be one in all things for a lifetime) I think the notion of 'dying for someone' is very romantic and overplayed in the movies in real life,.,there is noone I would DIE for, unconditionally, but my children, because death by itself is nothing noble and my children will need me too much for me to go putting my life as less valuable than anyone else situations where I would lay down my life for someone else are very random and conditional and yet there are MANY that I love... Very nicely said.
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blah blah blah. If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.
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