Hey Guys..............

Ok.. SO i just had the biggest argument wuth my partner..

He is away with the army at the moment and cant call me everynight as he sometimes has no recweption.... So yesterday he said he would have no reception.. so that was fine... But then we realised my friends partner would be with him and he would have reception.. so when Kane (my friends partner) called Margeet (my friend) she said for chad to call on kanes phone if he wanted...

So about and hour later i get a call from chad.. He yells at me and says he cant always call me and he doesnt have reception on his phone...

So i calmly told him it was just if he had time and if he wanted to call me.....I then hung up...

I feel sooooooooooooooooooooooo hurt that he would just blast me on the phone.. It wasnt even my idea.... He got so upset and i dont even understand why.

So in the past half hour he has tried calling and my friend has said for him to call me tomorrow...

So im thinking does this mean i like talking to him more then he likes talking to me????????????????



your thoughts would be much appreciated

Ok , well this is such a bummer,

Well I will start with this
, I love you I love you i love you. Did that help.

Chadly just needs his butt kicked.

lets think about it

Why doesnt he want to talk to you,,,
is he stressed..
is he just too busy
is he being a bum head
Is he allowed to call
Is he worried about what is happening
Are you over reacting
Are you sure that you are not putting more pressure on him.
Are you being unreasonable
Why does somene else want to talk to theeir partner but your man doesnt
do you want to borrow my man

Do you love him.
does he love you.
How much do youlove him.
How much does he love you.

sounds like he is being a dick, he should understand you want to talk and not scream at you. If he really is that busy then he should be able to tell you this ( with out the yelling).
You need to closly look at this and be thinking ahead, is this going to be a preveiw of life with him if the 2 of you were married. Would this be his reaction coming home from a bad day at work.

thats to bad i hope one day you will find someone how can appreciate what he have
wally

Sounds like he overreacted. There's lots of reason's for it and he probably has a lot sh8t going on, but that's no reason to take it out on you. Let him explain, but there better be an 'I'm sorry' in the conversation.

Hugs

OK first of all your still young so try not to get worked up about it.
My EX use to do the same thing when we were dating, she would want me to call her as soon as I got home, never mind the fact that I just spent a few hours with her. In short I didn't have a lot to say so sit back relax and have a TimTam for me. Oh and listen to your friend josie.
I am surprised that the military will even let them have a mobile phone
Good luck Amy

gee how would you feel if you woke up this morning from your dreams and you were in the army...................duh

Everybody CAN have a bad day,,maybe HE WAS HAVING ONE?
You said HE told you HE had no reception,,and MAYBE THAT was HIS HINT,,that he wasn't in the mood to talk with you tonight?
Is he in training to go over sea's to war,,THAT might be an issue to. He could be feeling the 'DUDE SHE'S GOT YOU P****** WHIPPED'!??
And HE'S trying to show them he's NOT?
YOUR the one who went around HIS THOUGHTS,,by ASKING him to use your friends, friends Phone?
And IF this is your FIRST time having THIS issue,,my question would be WHY,,IF YOU TWO ARE,,"ALL THAT" (in love) THEN
why would you run onto a Single SITE and ask THIS question?
THIS would be time for only a few close friends,,not a broadcast to strangers for replies? Just saying?
I'm NOT sticking up for HIM,,,,But see,,WE DON'T KNOW EITHER OF YOU,,REALLY,,and many things can be on his mind,,that WE have NO-IDEA about? BUT,,THIS IS A FACT,,,YOU know where he is and what HE can't be doing? CORRECT? So he's with a bunch of dudes doing his job.. However,,your on here showing a dissatisfaction in your relationship with him.
IF you felt secure about you and him,,then YOU would have just took his word for HIM not having reception and leave THAT alone,,no-biggie,,,and it would have NEVER become an ISSUE,,inside your heart.
Sometimes we THINK to much,,into,,not whats really there,,but more of what we kind-of USE,,to MAKE AN ISSUE OUT OF?
I'll say THIS,,IF HE ACTS LIKE A JERK over the phone again,,or gives you a bunch of static, over this,,THEN,,,you might have a problem? But ONE TIME,,,can NEVER be a true test of feelings?
well,,in words,,,wink,,one smack can be ONE TO MANY..
Just make sure your NOT trying to control him,,in your actions,,I mean FOR HIM TO FEEL, YOU ARE! Because many will run if they feel that..Good luck and I hope you both get past this..

The dude is away in the Army right now?

Is he in Iraq or Afghanistan, or undergoing some kind of training here in the states?

He may have more things to worry about than calling you every night to reassure your insecurities about your relationship.

Either support him, or tell him to take a hike.

When you are in the military, your life is
very ordered, accounted for, planned.
You broke the chain.
Let it go.
Mo said it right, he has other things to
worry about, you don't seem to.

Mine is just advice when he returns keep it kool wit him

kane should not have listened to margeet. my guess is margeet told kane to get chad to call. since kane wants to sex margeet up when he gets back, he's loyalty to chad went out the door so he makes sure chad calls you. chad is upset because kane turned on him over a piece of azz and you are easier to confront than kane. after he biotched you out he realizes that kane is one he's mad at and tried to call you back. it's not that he doesn't like to talk to you, it's that he doesn't like comparing you and him to kane and margeet.
either that or he's just not that into you

hahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Agreed!

To the OP: Military life isn't an easy one and it is hard on relationships... particularly for the ones left behind to worry and wonder. It can't always be about you and your needs. He may have overreacted but I don't know his circumstance. Based upon the bit you have shared, it seems that perhaps you are overreacting too.

Try not to take it so personally

Don't forget to give him a chance to miss you a little :)

Please make sure your responses are not directed at the OP but at the Topic instead.

I have deleted some responses please stick to the subject in hand.


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Kristi

THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!

Definitely what i needed to hear.... This was a HUGE help

You have got to let this one go..its a different place in the service

If you want him to call you don't make him feel like its one more obligation he is required to fill when you complain about not getting a call its a huge turn off he needs the time to himself and the job, which does take more than eight hours out of your day.. on this one let it go and focus on you and what makes you happy, that doesn't mean shut him out.. it means give him his space and you focus on your space...

LOL oh gosh you have chad picked to a Tee, yep he wouldnt have meant to hurt, and yep amy is really emotional..

She has only joined this site, not to look for men, but because i told her she might make some friends as she gets emotional while cahd is away./

Hey there Kiddo. dont worry, life is good.

Hey he will be home tomorrow, all going well.