Well, that's a whole different set of guys looking for cougar thing. I'm talking about men in their 40's and 50's. You know...my age.

And, please realize, I KNOW that not all guys prefer this. I'm just stating a fact about the majority of guys that I know.

yep not all men do that .....get your point ruth ...

it does seem very difficult to meet men my age, and what you're saying may be part of that - as well as the fact that most of them are married - the ones that aren't are looking for really young ladies. Almost makes our pool of guys younger by default

It really does.

I donno....

I am in my 40's and I apprecieate a wide range of women. Most are less than perfect. All have a sexiness about them. But, real chemistry isn't bound to age groups. There is fire in the kiss or there is not.

if anything, femininity is a learning proccess, so one would become more feminine and sexy over time. just a fact. one may or may not be able to use it the way they like, but they would certainly feel it deeply at times....
you were talking to someone who's quite shallow, and in the physical, and has no value for anything deep, like communication or deep conversation, to keep a relationship, or even friendship together, for, when beauty fades, he's gone.... and furthermore, is not worth most people's time, especially the ones he craves, because they will be mis-led the most, as he will fill them with lies.

Oh my gosh no way, I was not interested and have had heaps of offers from younger men and older, but ZI have a wonderful man, it was just that I wondered what everyone else would think, I am actually way more feminine then I was when I was younger, then I worked in shearing sheds and drove trucks, rode motorbikes, and went shooting for fun, the word dress and makeup was completely forbidden, now I work in an office and look pretty and neat. So it was just a general question

I actually got more "girlie" during my 40s. Go figure...

I am more feminine now than I was in my 20s.

However, I think some men--and some women--define "feminine" in a very narrow scope.

Does femininity have to do with the way we dress and fix our hair? Our ability to bear children? Showing obeisance to men? Staying in the kitchen baking pies?

Or is femininity reveling in being a woman?

As to having problems attracting men as one ages--I do not find that my ability to attract men of all ages has diminished since I began dating over five years ago.

It is in the presentation.

I have always been a girly-girl, and I don't see that changing as I age. If anything, I think I am becoming more feminine as I become more confident.

It sounds like someone does not know what "femininity" really is, they are getting confused with the innocents or ignorance of a child. They want someone that they can control to fit into the role that they think is correct and can not handle a woman who is experienced enough to be independent from falling victim to be stuck in such a role. But I do not think it is an age thing because there are older people, male and female, who seem to never "grow up" even though their body is older.

Frankly some people do not age gracefully. Worst is they will not age WITH grace. There is a profound and deep difference. With grace comes class. Now femininity has a style and some people have poor style like fashion. Trying to be sexy at 300 lbs of corpulence... That goes for guys too. Nothing is worst than looking like Jabba the Hut in a Thong. Or worst looking like a Wookie fresh from a shower. Some women try way to hard to come off as Feminine and come off like Femarxists or Sluts. It isn't age and looks per say, it is more the image presented and how it is presented.


When most people look at a painting they see a picture. I see brush strokes, how colors meet, texture, lighting within, and a lot more when I look at a painting.

So am I loosing ya or are you with me?

I really don't know. Some women are born more feminine than others and some are more masculine. As for me I'm not saying.

not unless they get more manly

It's just my 2 cent opinion but in my mind, it's not that some women lose their femininity as much as they give up their femininity.

I don't claim to understand the female mind (if only) but it seems to me that in today's society where there's very little, if any, stigma attached to being an older single female, some women decide, consciously or not, to become bolder, harder, tougher, less sensitive to men and less willing to compromise. (All masculine traits no?)

Personally, I can't see myself with anyone too young to remember the Beatles or Monty Python because we'd not have much to relate to each other, but it IS occasionally frustrating to be consistently faced with ladies who seem to view men as basically cavemen that deserve the wrath they wish they could bestow on their ex's. Ex's who perhaps deserve this rational because they themselves didn't cherish those feminine qualities.

I've heard it said that "Women want to be wanted,and men need to be needed".

Sometimes it seems older women don't need men and men don't want women who don't need them.

Being hard, bold, tough, insensitive, and uncompromising is fine if that's what gets you through the night, but as a man, it doesn't make me want to be there with you.

jmo

well I would say that a woman who is feminine will probably always be that way. I don't necessarily disagree with kissable, but I do not completely agree either. As I have aged, I have found ways to spend much more time on my femininity - so it takes on a different quality. And femininity requires a certain confidence that one often acquires with age. But if a woman "let's herself go" and decides to be an old tub- well that is that then. But a young woman can also be too butchy. So femininity has more to do with the individual rather than their age. And tomboys who are athletic, like our friend kissable, for example, can be quite feminine once the hightops come off

and some women do not care to be thought of as feminine and may quite intentionally act otherwise - life is full of choices Forrest.

I don't "need" my boyfriend, but I want him. When we (men and women) place ourselves in "need," then we place ourselves in situations of dependency.

Being a strong woman or not "needing" men does not equate with being hard, insensitive, or uncompromising. As far as being bold and tough, I see no negatives with those. Life is hard, and people who are not bold and tough get beaten down.

No one on this forum has yet defined "feminine," but I am feminine--yet I am also bold and tough. I am also sensitive and tender. People are multifaceted; those who choose to be simplistic are boring.

Of course we don't lose our femininity. Any guy says that will get his behind kicked with my high heels. I think actually as we get older we probably gain some of it back. I am wearing dresses and heels alot more now than when I was younger. I also behave and like being treated like a lady. I guess it depends on how one perceives being feminine.

those are not traits lacking in feminine women. shows how little you know about women. some of the toughest among us are the most feminine. Think Monroe, Bacall, Hepburn (both), Griffith, Bovier/Kennedy

and no, we do not need men, not in a dependency sense, but we want men, at least I do and I want a man who loves the idea of me wanting him - his very last breath!! But need? well we need each other I suppose.

and I would not say that women are uncompromising (feminine or not) but you will most definitely need to compromise. I really think it's a much better male-female partnership as equals rather than she does whatever is your bidding because she is dependent - yuck