got a call today from my ex of 4 years saying he's getting married next month.

feels very very weird and draining i guess i could say.

i want to be happy for him but im not sure i am though.

Thats a tough one. However, just think that at least you aren't stupid enough to do that again.......

just natural to feel that way, subconsciously you are feeling left behind all of a sudden. he has moved to a point where you might have wanted to be at this time in your life also. lots of feeling to deal with right now, so hang tough and all will be fine. you will be happy for him before too long.

I know how you feel. It seems all my ex's meet their wives after we break up.
Their first wives anyways.

Be happy for him and move on. Dwelling in drama, dreck and negativity is not healthy. He moved on, right?

Perhaps you should send the bride-to-be a sympathy card.

Lol sympathy card.

we've been broken up for over a year so no feelings there. its just such a weird feeling is all. plus i feel like he called to rub it in my face after over a year of no contact ya kno??

He sounds immature. Why have distress over him? Again, more drama. Be glad you dodged a bullet.

LOL...I was invited to my exhusband's wedding. Had a great time seeing him go!!

I went to the church when my ex got married because our daughters were the flower girls....I was talking to his aunt's sister (uncle was his mom's brother, so his wife's sister) who was a good friend to me. Just as the priest asked "Anyone here have any objection to this marriage?" she was asking me what he did for a living now. I told her....he managed a porn shop at the time....she burst out laughing right when the priest finished the question.


You could hear her laughing on the video

it seems that way,especially after having no contact for over a year.

you should go, i'll be your date. then we'll see if he has anything to say

lol good idea. bring an awesome date too the wedding haha.

his fiance is very pretty tho i dont want to ruin her big day.

ya - gotcha - dont let the door hitcha where the greyhounds bitchya

It's always fun to poke at something that someone did...

The sentiment that your ex called to rub it in your face, after a year of no contact, was right on. And that should tell you a lot about him.
It's his immaturity that probably broke you up... So, if anything, you now have confirmation of your not being with him...

Never drop down to someone's lower level, always use that energy to climb another rung up that ladder of development...

Interesting thread...

Have fun everybody...

Kodak moment!

whatever right...your beautiful i wouldn't even worry about it ...should said something bogus ..like you went to a cavs game the other night and you got rajon rondo number

It took being happy for my ex getting married to realize that I was finally over her. It meant that she moved on and that I did, too. I think one thing that helped was when my ex mother-in-law thought that my new wife and I were were a good couple. She never really thought I was right for her daughter anyway and it got where she couldn't tolerate me even though my ex had chosen me at one time. I based this on the fact that she willing paid for our divorce. Of course, I married her again which was dumb because the second time I had to pay for the divorce. Of course, in literature we call this foreshadowing because the author of a work already knows how a book will end but we either have to read it to the end or if we are real curious skip to the end to find out. It could be that if you are not happy for him that you may not done with the relationship or even maybe so jaded that you really don't care one way or the other. Divorce can make a person jaded in my opinion.

Ya know the way I see it is just because some don't get along, and at times things don't go the way we wanted them to. Does not mean they can not be happy with someone else.

It was not meant to be only a mere stepping stone to the one you were meant to be with...... time to move on and wish him the best in life.......

he sounds like hes being very immature. its hard for me to believe that he could have found someone more beutiful than you. you should go,looking your very best and have a wonderful time,wish them the best of luck just to show how much his childish head games have not affected you. who knows you might even get back at him a bit by makin him realize what an obvious mistake he made. plus it shows you are the better/more mature person. he has called to convince you that hes moved on but really hes prob tryin to convince himself