Ok, I am really confused, I cannot read men!!! Ok, first, I met this guy. He never really asked me out on a date, we just hung out, and eventually, had sex. We discussed a relationship, but he didn't want that, Like I said, we never even went on a real date. So, last weekend, we were suppose to go out, and he totally stood me up. I went out with my friends, and ended up hooking up with my ex, so it wasn't like a stranger... anyway, now he is really pi**ed off at me, and pretty much called me a who**re. But now, just some fyi... he would tell me about how he tries to hook up with chicks at the bar, but got rejected, and would want me to come have sex with him... I didn't do it. But done this through out the entire... friendship, or whatever you would call it.

So anyway, he continues to call me, and stop by my job... and now he wants me to come over tomorrow... What is his deal? I told him to lose my number when all of this first happen. But one minute he acts like he really wants something with me, then the next.. he is unsure. I don't know what to think.... Any advise?

Honestly, sounds like a player to me..or wants it when it is convenient for him.

Been there, done that, got the shirt.

you know, that's funny, because I told him from the beginning that he was a player. Then he tried to do everything he could to convince me otherwise, he even told me he wasn't talking to anyone else, and tonight, he told me he swore on a stack of bibles, and his kids lives (which I think is totally wrong), that he hasn't been with anyone since me. I don't know what to believe, and why he won't just leave me alone if he doesn't want me. One minute he calls me just to be a jerk, then gets upset when I'm a bit&& to him. HE even called me this morning, and I was at work, and he said he was returning my call, I was like, I didn't call you, then his response was..."my bad, wrong one".. ugh!!! I don't get it.

sounds like to me he didnt want to date you but you were his personal booty call,he if wanted to actually date you he would have asked you out!sorry hun!move on

He's a POS and has a different set of rules for you and another for himself... Don't waste your time with him NEXT!!!

That's kinda what I thought... but I have turned him down soooo many times. What really sucks, is, we had actually started getting really close, talking about very personal issues. When he called me just a little while ago, he called because he said he needed to talk, and it was about some serious things going on in his life.

thanks, that's what I needed to hear.

anytime glad WE all could help you out..

Darlin' "flags are flags" don't question your gut instinct b/c in the end you'll be saying "I should have listened to my gut and saved myself a lot of hassle/heartache"... Every time I haven't listened to my gut I wanted to kick myself...

yeah i know,if i would have listen i wouldnt have wasted 4 months

you are exactly right... I just always give the benefit of the doubt.. boy was I stupid.. Not this time... I'm gonna move on!!!

He got you mixed up with someone else he was playing the same mind game with but gets confused with which one he is playing and which mind game with at the time. Otherwise why would he say, "my bad, wrong one"?

he is a straight up manipulative DOG breathed two faced liar.

Time to dismiss him and move on. You are a convenience to him and now that you pursued other avenues becasue of his actions he dares get pissed especially when he admitted to trying to score elsewhere...

PUHLEASE! PLAYER ALEERT PLAYER ALERT!!! DANGER DANGER!!!

That is my take on this...

he's perfect for you!

perhaps that marriage bells i hear a ringin.

off in the distance somewhere...

na, give the dude a chance.

have a little mercy.

why, he's only doin what your doin?

how's that so bad?

i am sure be has been betrayed many times, and just needs someone to look out for him, and love him with REAL LOVE, to cure him from treatin other's like ****...

he's stared at his own pain for a long time, then decided it was his turn to take instead of being the abused and without, lol...

don't worry about it...

you'll straitin' him out, as two birds of a feather have a way of defeatherin' each other.

works everytime.

the benefit of doubt is fine for friends and family but when it comes to giving your heart it's not...


You're beautiful, give yourself the credit you deserve and don't settle for less than you deserve WHICH is everything you want and need in a relationship...

- Sounds like he doesn't want anything from you except for sex.
- Your emotions are following the attention that he is giving you. That's fine if you just want to hook up too.
It sounds like your head is telling you something different than your emotions. Since it's hard to see things when your involved, I'll spell it out for you... Your head is telling you that you need to move on.

Read your post and listen to what you are saying... then ask yourself why are you persuing him?? I bet your answer is that he spends time with you and he seems nice sometimes or he is really good in bed. Then ask yourself if he really wanted a "relationship", wouldn't he treat you with more respect. Then tell yourself he's not worth it. Then let him know that what ever you have together is over. Make it short and to the point... no sense in draging it out.

It's hard as hell, but you need to cut the cord and move on.

That is just my little opinion.

PS. I can't read women if that helps you at all :)

I didn't play him, I was straight up honest with him.... He stood me up, so I went out.... He couldn't even call me and tell me something came up or whatever... he left me alone. You can't honestly say that you would have sat by the phone... knowing he wouldn't call.

OMG SERIOUSLY??? You really, really, REALLY need a clue.. They're selling them for .50 buy one...

I know right?!

let a playa play