Its in the eyes......

I quoted you in my last post but the bottom half of what I wrote got cut off.......Anyway I agree with what you wrote about hard-core "fans" and fanatics...

Well, thank-you... I catch alotta cr*p for that point of view sometimes... oh well.
Good questions GreenEyes!!
GL out there...

Thanks for responding...I prefer friendly emails at first too. It takes time to get to know people. I'm in no rush to get married again. I don't want to feel obligated to play the role of "sex goddess" with a virtual stranger. I'd feel silly....

So I guess that means the 'wild webcam love' thing is a no-no, right ... ? Damn ...

Teditis...Think I will start over fresh...minus all the quotes...Thanks for writing back...i do keep my mouth shut at times and say nothing or very little. I do this when someone seems "head-strong" and bent on proving themselves "right." I try to avoid heated and hard-core debates that basically go nowhere....How do you feel about it? I don't feel that I have to "save" or "convert" the world....Football season is starting. Some people make football their life...I enjoy watching games at times but I've never made football my life...How would you categorize hard-core football fans in the scheme of things? Thanks....

Kings Knight...Well I might like hearing "hi sexy" early on if the right man said it...not sure yet...Maybe a bold "take charge" kind of man might be able to get away with it with me...Time will tell. He'd have to say a lot more than just "hi sexy" though...He'd have to win me over in other ways first and peak my interest.

I'm takin' notes ... I'm trainable, too ... and housebroken ...

Sounds like you have a gentle-spirit kinda way about you...
why argue with a head-strong person??
Seems like a lost cause to begin with.

Aww, I don't get into pro-sports...
I'd rather something a bit more active
that costs less, preferably.

Hobbies and strong interests are one thing...
but when anything consumes your life and becomes
a virtual defining aspect of your life;
when it becomes "hard-core"...
I'd prefer it to a something that
directly impacts a person's friend's
and family's well-being.
Something a bit more "productive".

But to each, their own... their life, their business.
And I do enjoy people who are "specialists"
in any given thing... idk.

By just filtering through the discussion on dates, and revealing extreme obligations and requirements for what she may considers normal and making it feel like I'm about to sign the dotted line, that I agree with the pre-conditions in order to be with her, while accepting all the requirements for the future or get ready for the pink slip and the early termination fee.

Before anyone jumps at me, here are a few examples for such a "contract"

-You gonna have to join me for my early morning runs
-There is no way I would go see a movie, which isn't a comedy
-I am vegetarian, I will never cook meat

A man who cannot commit turns me away.

Actions speak louder than words. Even if he says all of the elements of our relationship are intact but he won't take the next step to either exclusivity or marriage - then I believe he is just not that into me. If he can't commit then we should just move on and stop wasting our time.

getting invited out on a date and finding out its dutch....

hmmm .... wondering on the time frame here ... if its too short then it fits into previous posters complaints of expecting an instant relationship ... and that sure turns me off.

Unless ... as also mentioned ... the eyes say ... go for it ... then there is a chance but so many other things then come into play.

uncompromising being the biggie
biggoted is another biggie
and so much of what Allen posted too.

I had a date on Fri. night. Someone I was really looking forward to meeting. Long story short, it was radio silence...no chemistry no spark. Nada. I spent several hours listening to detailed stories about driving a big truck, and really nothing else...I was fighting to keep my eyes from crossing, even though he was a lovely fellow. I dont think it was about being turned off, I think it was more that I was never turned on...sigh...

I am all about listening to a woman. You know. I want to get to know who she is. And, sometimes, it isn't about what she says, but how she says them.

However.......

When the biatch won't give me the time to say a little about myself, well then I start to look at the wine list and seeing which wine will get me drunk the fastest.

hmmm, let me think

anyone above the age of thirty who still speaks like my teenager,,,

anyone wearing their wasteline around their BEHIND

anyone using vulgarity in casual conversation

anyone who speaks with a condescending tone ( assuming I am not as capable or intelligent as they are)

anyone who focuses on the topic of SEX or BODY parts the first time they talk to me,,,

doesnt SCARE me off so much as TURN me off

I think extreme arrogance is one of the items at the top of my list.

What she said

Bad Hygiene, cheap come ons, when I dont answer my phone and they like freak out, where was I who was I with, oh yeah and always talking about your ex or mine, not being creative, Uncontrolled bodily functions,,being inconsistent, calling me ten times when I dont call you back right away,, when Im at your house and I see that the tops of your bottles (toothpaste dishsoap shampoo etc..) are nasty