why is it so hard to find a guy who isn't into looks, i need a guy who will accept and adore me even when i don't get all dressed up... not that i mind getting all dolled up for dates and stuff but sometimes you want them to see you for you and not just for when you get all sexy. Im a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl and i want the guy to be ok with that, i wouldn't tell him what to wear.

If you know what superficial means then it's pretty easy to figure out what to do about it.
You don't have to look glam all the time and don't ever rock the homeless look either.
Just be happy with how you present yourself to the world and the right guy will be happy with that.

so sad that every guys are always after the looks. If you are not that pretty you will just stay in one corner like a poor kitten wanted to be rescued. But you are lucky cause for me you are so lovely, pretty. Some guys never preferred Asian looks. They are after blue eyed ladies and blonde hair.

thank you, your gorgeous and Asians are hot! so you don't have anything to be worried about!

my thing is that i had a bf who told me that i wasn't allowed to wear anything but a dress and heels period and for awhile i went with it because i liked him, but now with going through that i want to find someone who appreciates when i get dolled up but doesn't expect it... not saying that im going to be wearing sweat pants all the time but like i said jeans and a tee

It sounds like the reverse of Los Angeles. People are superficial and it is worst in your age bracket. You have to have this look or that look to fit in.


Some women don't need to or want to wear makeup. Frankly there is nothing wrong with hints and highlights but a lot of women go over board to meet some aesthetic ideal nature didn't allow them. Personally I am tired of blonds myself. Been there (a few times) and I can say they are no more fun than any other woman.

A lot of disturbing messages have been sent to our kids about how to conduct ones self in a relationship via media and society at large. People are in such a rush to get married but then they divorce becasue someone new and more fulfilling comes along. it is a sick and sad reality humans in general are just mercurial.

I looked at your profile and don't see nothing wrong with you. The pictures seem homogeneous but look who's talking. I have been meaning to tweak my profile myself.

You have yet to get emails from perverts wanting to know personal and intimate information right from the get go so they can fulfill their sick habits behind the privacy of closed doors and the computer screen. I would ask you out if the age difference would not make eyebrows snap to the upward position.

Just be careful and observe the rules of internet dating and don't expect instant gratification and you should be fine as high dollar wine!

BTW there was one chick on this site who flat out says she drinks way too much and doesn't care. That is so classy! I mean, nasty street trash nasty! Her repulsion field was on full power!

Life is a messy game and people go by appearances a lot. Predisposed notions too. You can't take it personally. All you can do is just roll with the punches and know your aesthetic is appreciated. At least you are not some over compensating blimp who advertises "Easy Times!" That is a very good thing! there is nothing wrong with average. Its what you do with what you got that makes you above average!




Shake it like there is a party in your pants!

dang double post!

thank you for taking the time to read my profile and respond, you have excellent points

Personally I think you'd look good in a potato sack. I don't think it'll matter what you wear, you're gonna look good in it.

haha thank you thats really sweet!

I would say, IMO, that these guys are just looking for live dolls, dress em up, take em out and put them away til next time. I have had that happen more than once and its quite annoying. I am honest with guys and explain that this is who I am, jeans and tanks, shorts and shirts. I will dress up sometimes but its not something I want to do all the time, those that care wont mind and those that do don't matter

perhaps a guy that is blind is what you seek ...but then again you may try to tell him what to wear

hmmmmmmmmm IMHO: seems to me you were living a lie to get what you wanted... why blame the guy? At least he was being "honest" with you...

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She was living a lie, yet he was being honest by trying to tell her what she had to wear? Sounds more like he was controlling and she just put up with it for a while because she liked him. At least she figured out not to put up with that kind of thing.

Honey; you do NOT date someone who tells you what to wear!!! You aren't his 3 yr old child. Much control issues??

He can suggest that you wear something for a special occasion, but not tell you what you can/cannot wear.

I love my dresses/heels and the whole nine, but there is attire for all types of venues/events. At times, you just want to chill in jeans/t's or sweats!

Unless his name is Calvin Klein, Issey Miyaki, Giorgio Armani or any well known male designer you should dress yourself!

I prefer men that want me naked!!!

Exactly. Your issue is not with "men who are only into looks". Your issue here is that you are dating a control freak and you need to run as fast as you can!

I am not saying he is "right" I am saying, at least he was honest. She should have told him from the beginning... but she didn't becuase she wanted to be with him...

what would be next, she expects him to change? People should be true to themselves, realize when a situation is wrong and leave...

I am not condoning his behavior - but she can only change herself and not do this next time...

he was being honest by telling her what he really wanted, she was pleasing him and not being true to herself - ergo living a lie.

*sigh*

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You say you're not condoning his behavior, but you also seem fine with him wanting her to change for him. Instead, you tell her she's wrong for trying to change him. Why?

hair tied chillan with no make up that's when you the prettiest

well, you assume he knew she was chainging for him (may or may not be true)... no, I don't think that it's fine for him to be "controlling" in any way, but she should not accept his behavior... seems a bit dependant to me... he was wrong to ask, she is just as wrong to change and/or stay...

bottom line, it's not all his fault, she made the decision to change who she was and it did not work out, so I don't see how it's all the guys fault (all be it what it was)...

then again, I am more a believer of personal responsibility... so my position is likely predictable...

If a woman tried to control or change me, I would let her know that it is not acceptable to me, and if that is what she wanted then we are not compatible...

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