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| Topic: Do you want to know WHY you're single? | |
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Good point Dodo David. Moving on from a stable relationship where they have broke you in and you have broke them in so to speak one can wonder if they could ever get used to the instability of dating. Especially if one never was successful at dating to begin with. Some people date all through their life and it like second nature. And then there are the wallflowers like me who some freaky accident wind up married. Not really sure except they found someone who liked a lost stray like they were and the companionship seemed more bearable than being alone. After a while being with this other person seemed natural even though being single before that seemed natural, too. Then you meet this person that you just click with and you have a wonderful life together. It seems you are both happy together but then they pass away. And you are just left hanging there and you wonder why you were left behind. You might even wonder if they were the lucky one because their problems seem to be over while your problem is that they aren't there any more. After years of this you might even adapt to being single and wonder what you ever saw in marriage or being in a relationship to begin with. You wonder if it is even worth it to try again. You might even wonder why do I think someone else when I am doing quite well being by myself.
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. 
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Do you why you are single:
Well there could be several reasons for being single. one: by choice Two: they don't want the drama and bad things that come with being with a person. Three: or they just like there like there own freedom and have nobody to answer to. Four: The just don't know how to handle to open up to anyone, they like being alone. Five: People like being single, because they of the distance or the drive they don't want drive or walk. Six: People are single because they are scared trying other people happy Seven: Someone people just like the chase but not the metal of someone heart and soul Eight: Some people just want the sex and without the any kind of strings. |
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. Can you write me a self help book? |
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My next masterpiece will be entitled "Why marriage is a crock of shlt"
Oh no I'm no writer just a keen observer of life. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 09/02/10 02:48 PM
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. Well said, Myka! I wish more people would learn to be happy with themselves, rather than assuming they have to be with someone to be happy. Those people assume their happiness is going to automatically appear anytime they're dating someone, yet they end up in a relationship that doesn't make them happy and continue to repeat the same thing over and over because they're too worried about not wanting to be alone. |
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Myka you are amazing. I will be running to Borders to get a copy of the next Best Seller. I would follow up the marriage book with "Boys have penis's, Girls have vagina's". It might help clarify a few things.
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Good thinking Chrissy, lord knows I have a lot to say on the subject of penises and vaginas.
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But i am the one  ^^^ I'll just take one of those  Seriously though, post on point girl!! 
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. And they will come along when I hit the lotto and have millions! And that is when the Goof will realize he's loved the Myka all along...
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I left my ex...Although my ex was happy with the way things were, I was not. We tried to work it out for two years and come to compromises but some things just aren't meant to be, we were too different and growing in different directions. I felt it was better to be single than to be lonely and miserable in a relationship. It was the right choice and now we're good friends.
I haven't been this happy in a long time. When I was in a relationship, I got stuck in such monotony that I'd almost forgotten who I was. It's been a blast getting to know ME again and I am just starting to be open myself up to the idea of sharing my life with someone new. I've met a few cool people, some of which have wanted to pursue a relationship with me. I however, haven't felt enough of a connection with any of them to do so... so yeah, still single but there's nothing wrong with that! |
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. I agree. I am making friends. If something more happens great, but I will never try to change myself for someone again and if they don't like me F em. Their loss, they are the one's missing out not me. |
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I know why I am single. My wife passed away. 
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Some of us are ok with being single and some of us are on a perpetual hunt for "the one". I think those of us who are ok with being single can continue on with our lives being ourselves, doing what we do and IF someone great comes along, we're ready. If you spend your whole life searching for someone you will continually fool yourself into thinking you MAY have found them, inevitably ending in heartbreak. You beat yourself up over and over again trying to figure out what went wrong. Eventually you become so jaded that you stop being yourself and start trying to be what you think they want you to be to prove you aren't going mad. And when they still don't want you, you convince yourself they are the ones who made you mad in the first place. Please people, be happy with who you are and someone, someday will come along to be happy with you. well said and thank you for saying it
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well i hate being single and I love seeing all the different types of guys there are out there. i dont have relationships with all them but I am not afraid to put myself out there. I am not waiting around for mr right. I agree he will come when it's time (after me-hidden double meaning) but in the mean time. . . . .
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Does this thread mean that somebody is going to give me an explanation as to why i am single?
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well i hate being single and I love seeing all the different types of guys there are out there. i dont have relationships with all them but I am not afraid to put myself out there. I am not waiting around for mr right. I agree he will come when it's time (after me-hidden double meaning) but in the mean time. . . . . Why do you hate being single? |
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Nice Myka!!! I completely agree
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Single? Yep I am, partly by chance, partly by other reasons.
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I'm single because I am comfortable with myself, and enjoy my current life. Not that I wouldn't mind someday sharing it with someone, but those I have met so far are not the ones for me. I hate it that a lot of women out there seem so desperate to be with someone that they take anyone! Most of the female posters on here don't appear to be that way, though. I like this site.
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