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It depends. If ten people have to call you a taxi, you start to think you are a taxi. Try removing your meter box.. |
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It depends. If ten people have to call you a taxi, you start to think you are a taxi. Try removing your meter box.. 
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Edited by
Peccy
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Tue 05/25/10 08:08 AM
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Do you think someone can lower your ego or self esteem unless you let them? Do you think you have the power to raise or lower it or do others have a hand in it too? |
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The power is yours, take responsibility. this is law You are wise. 
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I was raised by a Kung Fu Disco biker. (Not making that up). I got self-esteem coming out of my @ss. But, at least I work my butt off to earn my respect.
My problem is finding the thin line between self-esteem and ego maniacal narccisist. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Tue 05/25/10 08:26 AM
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I was raised by a Kung Fu Disco biker. (Not making that up). I got self-esteem coming out of my @ss. But, at least I work my butt off to earn my respect. My problem is finding the thin line between self-esteem and ego maniacal narccisist.  Its called balance.  In general, its sometimes hard to really see yourself between your ego and self esteem. My experience with men has been that while I always knew they had over inflated egos, I didn't really realize HOW over inflated. I discovered it was much worse than I thought. Most men are good at hiding their huge egos. While you can never know how inflated they really are, you can get some idea if you worship them as Gods and discover that some actually believe they deserve it. Once I complimented a guy on something and I was being hugely sarcastic, I was not serious, I was making a joke and his ego took it seriously. I realized his ego was a lot more over inflated than I had suspected. Of course this is not directed at you. You are wise enough to recognize yours and wonder about the balance. I'm sure my ego is much more over inflated than I even suspect. Its hard to be humble with you are so wonderful, so I guess we should worry not about it.  Just be happy. |
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I was raised by a Kung Fu Disco biker. (Not making that up). I got self-esteem coming out of my @ss. But, at least I work my butt off to earn my respect. My problem is finding the thin line between self-esteem and ego maniacal narccisist. Its called balance. In general, its sometimes hard to really see yourself between your ego and self esteem. My experience with men has been that while I always knew they had over inflated egos, I didn't really realize HOW over inflated. I discovered it was much worse than I thought. Most men are good at hiding their huge egos. While you can never know how inflated they really are, you can get some idea if you worship them as Gods and discover that some actually believe they deserve it. Once I complimented a guy on something and I was being hugely sarcastic, I was not serious, I was making a joke and his ego took it seriously. I realized his ego was a lot more over inflated than I had suspected. Of course this is not directed at you. You are wise enough to recognize yours and wonder about the balance. I'm sure my ego is much more over inflated than I even suspect. Its hard to be humble with you are so wonderful, so I guess we should worry not about it. Just be happy. Jeannie ... Seriously - have you ever met one of the 'DIVA' types ... ? Talk about huge ... umm ... 'egos' ... yeah, that's the word ... those babes can make the most self-esteemish guy quake in his boots and start weepin' like a little girl who didn't get a date to the prom ... 'course, the ideal outcome would be for a 'diva' type to hook up with an over-testosteroned dude and they could kinda have a 'smackdown' for the 'self-esteem championship' ... Hey! That could be a Jerry Springer moment ... |
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alot of guys get those egos from over compensation they intentionally find guys to demean that have problems with self esteem and seek out women that will boost their ego relentlessly its the same for those diva types just reverse the sexes
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 ... I'm good, far better than required ... No one takes or makes me anything! Locked and loaded and rollin' through the clouds, Roger that ... 
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i can honestly say that i have no self esteem whatsoever ive been through multiple eating disorders fitness disorders anger management sessions and fitness disorders but id much rather have been through that and realise what some people have to deal with on a day to day basis then be so insensitive as to say that a person with low self esteem is the one to blame that its there fault for listening that everyone can block it out can any of you honestly say that in your whole life you've never taken a single insult to heart?
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True the power is yours but in reality one has to realize that at times many have been convinced they are not worthwhile and that power seems to be shoved aside at times.......
So even though the power is yours at times others can take you down. I have seen it happen more then once. I have seen those on here that say they have that power but then let others words get to them...........  The way I see it that can go either way at times words can even take the strongest ones to their knees......... 
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i can honestly say that i have no self esteem whatsoever ive been through multiple eating disorders fitness disorders anger management sessions and fitness disorders but id much rather have been through that and realise what some people have to deal with on a day to day basis then be so insensitive as to say that a person with low self esteem is the one to blame that its there fault for listening that everyone can block it out can any of you honestly say that in your whole life you've never taken a single insult to heart?  ... NOT a question of blame at all, imho ... ... As much as it is "work at hand to be done, conquered" ... Search for YOUR PERSONAL POWER until you find it and it HOLDS! We ALL have our unique challenges, obstacles and areas of required growth! Carry on, stay strong, WIN ... ... In your weaknesses, lie your inherent strengths!!!
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True the power is yours but in reality one has to realize that at times many have been convinced they are not worthwhile and that power seems to be shoved aside at times....... So even though the power is yours at times others can take you down. I have seen it happen more then once. I have seen those on here that say they have that power but then let others words get to them........... The way I see it that can go either way at times words can even take the strongest ones to their knees......... Agree words are mighty powerful, but up to the individual to determine and allow it to cause harm or boost one's self esteem. It's not what is said, nor who says it but how I take it and what I answer to. How ya doing Kristi? 
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because deep inside everyone is afraid of being inferior theres nothing worse to me then psychological taunting and harrassment id much rather be beaten up atleast that way the pain doesnt last but when they really get into your head that never really goes away especially the consequences of them i still have days where i simply cant look at myself cant eat and constantly work out till i can barely stand
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sometimes U just have to ignore peoples opinion of U!!! My daughter has red hair and was made fun of till she grew into the gorgeous lady she is and the last laugh is on them!! People that demaean others for Whatever reason have their own problems. if they want to be negative, remember that God put us alll here for a good reason, and Love is all that matters!!!! Great thread Kim!!!
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True the power is yours but in reality one has to realize that at times many have been convinced they are not worthwhile and that power seems to be shoved aside at times....... So even though the power is yours at times others can take you down. I have seen it happen more then once. I have seen those on here that say they have that power but then let others words get to them........... The way I see it that can go either way at times words can even take the strongest ones to their knees......... Agree words are mighty powerful, but up to the individual to determine and allow it to cause harm or boost one's self esteem. It's not what is said, nor who says it but how I take it and what I answer to. How ya doing Kristi? Doing good where ya been hiding shshhssh did ya find ya a hot toddy to hang out with
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i can honestly say that i have no self esteem whatsoever ive been through multiple eating disorders fitness disorders anger management sessions and fitness disorders but id much rather have been through that and realise what some people have to deal with on a day to day basis then be so insensitive as to say that a person with low self esteem is the one to blame that its there fault for listening that everyone can block it out can any of you honestly say that in your whole life you've never taken a single insult to heart? I will be the first to admit as strong as a person that I'm even I have let someones words make me think different and brought my self esteem down....... For words not to have that effect on someone all I can say is they must have a cold heart. I have seen those that their self esteem is off the charts in one area of their life but lacking in another...... Sure we have that control but at times it is hard to maintain it.... |
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because deep inside everyone is afraid of being inferior theres nothing worse to me then psychological taunting and harrassment id much rather be beaten up atleast that way the pain doesnt last but when they really get into your head that never really goes away especially the consequences of them i still have days where i simply cant look at myself cant eat and constantly work out till i can barely stand And yet, you choose to make this personal ... A bully really has NOTHING to do w/ you and has lower self esteem issues than you imagine, realize ... (Lower than yours!) Don't write your name on random bullets ... I know this message can be hard to really get ... I tell my child daily ... Your RESPONDING is there ENTIRE pay off ... ... Do not give them a thing!!!
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well guess what it isnt so easy to just let it be and believe once the damage of years of torment from family co workers class mates every single day of the year sorry if thats just a little hard for some people to just let go unless you've personally been through this kind of torment exactly how do you know the effect it has mentally granted im in better physical shape then ive ever been but at what price?
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sorry if ive ruined this thread people but this is something im very passionate about ive not only been through this sort of stuff but ive helped other people who've been through it to i just dont think it should be taken so lightly
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