as many times as i've lost friends and had to do things on my own, that's the way i prefer it.

as long as your happy with who you are as a person thats all that really matters

It is not good, but great to get a helping hand, a word of praise, a pat on the back, some support.

You are the sole captain to your ship - gain control, allow passengers to get on and off but you are the only one with the power to direct it's course and course of action.

I actually agree with you in this......when people terrorize and bully others starting in childhood because of prejudices (i.e. nationality sometimes, but weight, looks, etc.) it has caused suicides, self mutilation, etc. These children grow up not understanding their own beauty, nor inheriting their self-esteem, nor understanding the beauty in life itself. The view becomes distorted and self-esteem not evident, nor do they know how to take control, of their own conscious behaviors. Many often internalize the meanness of thought in action to take it out on others, family members, or even themselves. I am for stopping mentally abusive beahviors in school, public, and at home. For those of you capable of having self-esteem power to you, but just because you do not understand others or their ownership of the mental faculities, does not mean we should negate the evidence there in. I hope everyone remembers beauty comes from within and in all shapes colors and sizes.

yea i like figuring things out on my own too theres a lesson there to alot of relationships fail because people arent open with each other but yea its completely up to the individual as to whether they will accept help if its offered

my failed friendships were due to bs, not a lack of communication.

life happens, you can deal or quit

its only getting worse down here kids are starting to bully each other at younger and younger ages i cant even start to think what it might do to a pre adolescent mind fulling knowing what it can do to the older age groups

alot of friendships are ended like this but once you find friends who will stand by you their the ones to keep i know id die for few people but a few friends are at the top of that list

bullying has been going on forever, that includes preteens, i know i was bullied then and witnessed tons more.

imo, there's just too much bad parenting and coddling going around

bad parenting tends to come from bad parenting so thats essentially an endless cycle

We cast spells all the time with our word....a woman who stays in an abusive relationship has had her self esteem broken. A child that is regularly ridiculed will have their self esteem damaged and many times become what the parent, or whoever told them they were. We make agreements/contracts once we believe the things we are told. Everyone has self esteem issues to one degree or another...these are the things we work through to find our self worth..again.

ha... about parents effecting selfesteem..

i guess i just took it all differently than a few, my situations made me a stronger person. my mom has said horrible things to me, how much damage could someone who is not my mother inflict?

in the end, i hold the power to veto or choose to accept their words

yea very true but thats you not all people are so strong willed anyway im off to bed have a good day guys and girls

that's a true statement. i've had a few debates with smokers since i quit cold turkey and believe everyone has the power to do so

I know what you are saying. Especially if you believe the insult is true. But if you recognize your weaknesses and know what you want to change about yourself and keep working on it, you will get there.

I remember feeling a huge boost to my self esteem just when I got a nicer car. I was used to driving around in a falling apart junker with duck taped seats. It is amazing the boost I got just by having a nice car. I must have been feeling bad about my junker and not even admitting it to myself. I would tell myself I should be grateful that I have a car that runs.

quit worrying what others think of you and most of that crap falls away...
someone tries to push me down mentaly, i simply write them off... thats it..

that can be argued to coz it depends on your situation people have all different reasons for smoking i personally dont want to quit i like enjoying a smoke when im angry or upset it cuts away the stress but yea people have that dependency for their own reasons its y trying to quit can be of varying difficulties for everyone

What you believed you could do you did...does not mean others believe he way you do.

Personally, I think self esteem is subjective, or relative. It's in how you show it around people. As far as raising or lowering, another person can help raise your self esteem, but the only way other people can lower your self esteem is by the way you react to what they do. You have to let someone lower or raise it, but it's mostly up to you.
I know this from experience.

i'm no superhero