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money is important but not everything. plenty of things men can do to please their ladies w/o involving money: -take the garbage out w/o being asked -cook her dinner as a surprise (on one special weekend) etc etc etc men are sexy (tmo) when they pay full attention to their ladies and treat them right  sigh... hard to find them though
Being financially secure is important, but that does not mean that he has to be rich. I would rather have a man actually paying full attention when communicating rather than having flowers, jewelry, etc. Spend a night camping and talking under the stars next to the fire---sounds mighty nice to me. 
 yes yes yes same here
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Being wealthy and having financial security are two different things. I dont blame a woman for wanting to be with a man that has that security. If you plan on having children, you def need that security. Even though I'm not a parent yet...I do believe it would be quite difficult to raise a child when you yourself cant afford to eat.
even with having children already, i don't want to date a man who isn't financially stable. what if we ever decided to get married and he's entitled to half the matrimonial home (and possibly more, even with a contract)? i've worked hard for what i have, and i intend for it to all go to my children, not to share with some guy who hasn't made his own kind of effort. that totally depends on the value of the man, and i don't mean it in a financial sense but rather in the quality and depth of the individual. I have always thought that if I ever remarried or got into another LTR - we'd keep our money somewhat or totally separate except for times that we do something that 1 of us (the 1 with the least money)cannot afford - then we can help each other so we can do or go to whatever it is - or something along those lines. |
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can't be done eventually they'll want more of a sign of your love and you can only draw so many huge hearts in the sand on the beach. metaphorically speaking of course free only gets you so far . . . most of the men I know have no problem assuming responsibility for covering a date. Wanna keep it low or no cost - fine - but don't obsess & keep score - it's not so much that we want ur money. But to spend time with us and do things together can sometimes involve some expense - that's life - otherwise you just look like a loser who wants to panhandle for free sex - a user & a freeloader - not an attractive picture - jmho |
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gawd..you all truested a woaman with your credit cards and got burned... bitoches..makes it soooo hard for the rest of us. No wonder your all so jaded, stop giving your credit cards out to the first beautiful woman you fall for. geez!!! This is almost a "nice girl" comment - but - I'll switch up to "nice people". It always seems the evil ones ruin it for the good ones. 
I've never had a guy offer his credit card to me, but if that happened, I probably think there was something wrong with him and stop seeing him!  He doesn't need to buy my love or be THAT trusting. Besides, I can use my own credit card. 
I AM a nice girl...with a dirty mind and a itsy bitsy bitchy side! A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste. |
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74Drew
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Sun 05/09/10 09:53 AM
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can't be done eventually they'll want more of a sign of your love and you can only draw so many huge hearts in the sand on the beach. metaphorically speaking of course free only gets you so far . . . most of the men I know have no problem assuming responsibility for covering a date. Wanna keep it low or no cost - fine - but don't obsess & keep score - it's not so much that we want ur money. But to spend time with us and do things together can sometimes involve some expense - that's life - otherwise you just look like a loser who wants to panhandle for free sex - a user & a freeloader - not an attractive picture - jmho all i know is that every time i've been out with a woman i'm interested in i've always felt like every thing i do or don't do is being scrutinized. did i spend enough, tip enough, say the right/wrong things, do the right/wrong things? i never feel like anything i do/can do/will do is good enough. so from my perspective/experience, nothing is ever enough and no sex has ever been free or even cheap for that matter. . . . |
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can't be done eventually they'll want more of a sign of your love and you can only draw so many huge hearts in the sand on the beach. metaphorically speaking of course free only gets you so far . . . most of the men I know have no problem assuming responsibility for covering a date. Wanna keep it low or no cost - fine - but don't obsess & keep score - it's not so much that we want ur money. But to spend time with us and do things together can sometimes involve some expense - that's life - otherwise you just look like a loser who wants to panhandle for free sex - a user & a freeloader - not an attractive picture - jmho all i know is that every time i've been out with a woman i'm interested in i've always felt like every thing i do or don't do is being scrutinized. did i spend enough, tip enough, say the right/wrong things, do the right/wrong things? i never feel like anything i do/can do/will do is good enough. so from my perspective/experience, nothing is ever enough and no sex has ever been free or even cheap for that matter. . . . I don't think that is just a "woman thing". I over analyze the date too. Did I give enough eye contact, laugh enough, do the right thing, was I apprecative enough, etc. I have also paid for dates before and never have I questioned if I spent enough.  Maybe that is what I am doing wrong!
Sex shouldn't be free, in my opinion. Not that you should have to pay for it, but investing time and feelings. My opinion. 
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Sex isn't something that the partner should earn. Sex should be enjoyed because both partners feel the urge to share in it.
Money should never EVER be a factor in a relationship. If someone considers it as a factor to me then I don't want that woman. I can have fun and maintain a great relationship without spending extra money. When I was extremely poor, i managed to keep relationships based solely on my personality and theirs enjoying life. Money was never an issue. Any woman that expects gifts can go make their own kite and fly it. Gifts should never be expected but appreciated if they come. |
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~Without reading previous posts.~ Try to be a good person to her. Money isn't the end all. If you can't take her to a restaurant per se you can easily take her for a picnic in a park and be just as romantic and nice. Money doesn't give you true comfort. Especially in this economy. It takes time to find that special person but it can happen.
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KayaksJuliet:
If you can't take her to a restaurant per se you can easily take her for a picnic in a park
... Or, sure, for the first date, maybe. But let's face it, how long can a man entertain his date with a picnic in a park? ? ? Unless a man possesses something special -- extra-attractive looks, or an overwhelming experience, or an extra-ordinary mind (i.e. anythithing to keep a lady captivated) -- cheep dates can last no more than 2-3 times. After that, a lady should begin wondering whether he's worth of her affection!!! I'm not talking about splurging big bucks, but neither am I talking about the high school years! Men better save some daugh, before inviting a woman out on a date! Either that, or Stick to the Internet and DON'T EVEN BOTHER! |
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allow me to lick my eyebrows and think about this one
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LOL. Are u sure u know how? May be you better lick your ears!
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KayaksJuliet: If you can't take her to a restaurant per se you can easily take her for a picnic in a park
... Or, sure, for the first date, maybe. But let's face it, how long can a man entertain his date with a picnic in a park? ? ? Unless a man possesses something special -- extra-attractive looks, or an overwhelming experience, or an extra-ordinary mind (i.e. anythithing to keep a lady captivated) -- cheep dates can last no more than 2-3 times. After that, a lady should begin wondering whether he's worth of her affection!!! I'm not talking about splurging big bucks, but neither am I talking about the high school years! Men better save some daugh, before inviting a woman out on a date! Either that, or Stick to the Internet and DON'T EVEN BOTHER! I dont happen to agree. To suggest a person save money to go out on a date, ok, BUTT so he's broke and saves for a date...thats just being fake to impress. UNLESS they just aren't spending money because they are cheap. THATS entirely different. If they are a good person and have lots to really offer, there are plenty of ways to court/date with. Im the type of girl that appreciates the intent and true trying. If you can't afford to buy a card for me...make me one (not just crayons)  There are endless things you can make extremely special and romantic or funny it just requires more thought and effort than money. I have tons of other examples but really dont need to go that far. Point being... there are lots of creative ways to go out and have a good time without spending much money. Especially in these economic times.
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KayaksJuliet: If you can't take her to a restaurant per se you can easily take her for a picnic in a park
... Or, sure, for the first date, maybe. But let's face it, how long can a man entertain his date with a picnic in a park? ? ? Unless a man possesses something special -- extra-attractive looks, or an overwhelming experience, or an extra-ordinary mind (i.e. anythithing to keep a lady captivated) -- cheap dates can last no more than 2-3 times. After that, a lady should begin wondering whether he's worth of her affection!!! I'm not talking about splurging big bucks, but neither am I talking about the high school years! Men better save some daugh, before inviting a woman out on a date! Either that, or Stick to the Internet and DON'T EVEN BOTHER! I dont happen to agree. To suggest a person save money to go out on a date, ok, BUTT so he's broke and saves for a date...thats just being fake to impress. UNLESS they just aren't spending money because they are cheap. THATS entirely different. If they are a good person and have lots to really offer, there are plenty of ways to court/date with. Im the type of girl that appreciates the intent and true trying. If you can't afford to buy a card for me...make me one (not just crayons) There are endless things you can make extremely special and romantic or funny it just requires more thought and effort than money. I have tons of other examples but really dont need to go that far. Point being... there are lots of creative ways to go out and have a good time without spending much money. Especially in these economic times.
By diagreeing with me you, actually, are contradicting yourself: you said: If they are a good person and have lots to really offer, etc.
I said: Unless a man possesses something special -- extra-attractive looks, or an overwhelming experience, or an extra-ordinary mind (i.e. anythithing creative to keep a lady captivated) -- cheap dates can last no more than 2-3 times.
Essentially, you agree with me completely: ONLY DULL MEN ARE CAPABLE OF CHEAP DATES -- regardless of how much money they have!!! |
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By diagreeing with me you, actually, are contradicting yourself: you said: If they are a good person and have lots to really offer, etc.
I said: Unless a man possesses something special -- extra-attractive looks, or an overwhelming experience, or an extra-ordinary mind (i.e. anythithing creative to keep a lady captivated) -- cheap dates can last no more than 2-3 times.
Essentially, you agree with me completely: ONLY DULL MEN ARE CAPABLE OF CHEAP DATES -- regardless of how much money they have!!! We may share some generalities BUT I do not feel you have to be some extra ordinary person. Giving comes from the heart (no matter what) not the pocket book. The most memorable experiences I have had in my life have had very little to do with money or how much of it. AGAIN...if they have money and are just being CHEAP penny pinchers then that is a different story entirely! Expression of true love or affection doesn't have a cost on either side.
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Show them your gold card and plane tickets to Aruba and U have it made!!
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Just call.
Requires no money at all. |
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Just call. Requires no money at all. Especially if you're standing outside their window. |
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Just call. Requires no money at all. Especially if you're standing outside their window. In that case. Just call..... 911 |
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Or maybe just call out... "come in"
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show some ambition (desire and effort to MAKE a living)
show a sense of responsibility be emotionally supportive be physically atuned to what pleasures her if you can do those four things, you should have a pretty decent shot at romance |
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