I haven't read this whole thread yet because I want to answer from my own thoughts first, without influence.

There are many ways to please that do not involve money. In fact, most of the significant ways do not involve money.

I was honestly astounded to read that there is someone who does not realize that

Honesty, thoughfulness, not playing mind games, giving of your time and thoughts, listening, cheering me up, sincere compliments, help with something like a chore or a decision, a hug - lots more out there

It's answers like that that makes us believe a man
needs money, financial security and all that to be
worth anything to a woman.

I can see though that some women think different, thanks. Thanks for the suggestions too from elleS, OKgirl, sweetestgirl11 and those others too.

Ron

Being wealthy and having financial security are two different things. I dont blame a woman for wanting to be with a man that has that security. If you plan on having children, you def need that security. Even though I'm not a parent yet...I do believe it would be quite difficult to raise a child when you yourself cant afford to eat.

Agreed.

O'K, guys, let me spell it out for you:

Pleasing a woman without money is really easy -- all a man has to do is Give a poor chic some money! That would please her enormously! (since she's without money, and she might even return a favour!}

Sounds like a hooker.

Even a hooker is still a woman. The OP says nothing about what kind of a woman without money a man is supposed to please, silly!

Lol...I agree. I was just merely stating what you were describing sounded like to em. Nothig more, nothing less. WOOP WOOP!!

Sorry, but your logic is quite twisted:
Just cuz a man wants to please a woman without money (and gives her some), doesn't automatically make her a hooker! (unless there's a bargaining involved). Even the Queen of England would be pleased, if men gave her money!!! Actually, anybody would! Accepting the money from those who want to please you, doesn't automatically you a hooker!!!

There's also the regular interpretation of that question, which amounts to a "cheap date", i.e. the act of a woman's pleasing without any money -- covered extensively by all of the initial answers. (many good suggestions, though my favourite one would be the "toungue exercise"!!! * * *)

Wow...you take things way to seriously.

LOL, I was just merely commenting on your derogatory interretation!

I still think shes a hooker...

money is important.....

even with having children already, i don't want to date a man who isn't financially stable. what if we ever decided to get married and he's entitled to half the matrimonial home (and possibly more, even with a contract)?

i've worked hard for what i have, and i intend for it to all go to my children, not to share with some guy who hasn't made his own kind of effort.

True, but I wasn't thinking that globally. I was thinking more along the lines of the little things we do for each other everyday. Women can be breadwinners too. We do not necessarily look for men to be our financial security any more - that's pretty 1950s. But for a man to have a sense of responsibility about money and able to support himself, those are attractive qualities to be certain!

For myself, I like having money kinda out of the equation - Being self supporting means that I can concentrate on falling love for the sake of it - I am looking more for things like attraction, emotional, psychological, and sexual compatability, interests we might share, that all important "spark." jmho

but seriously, I think if we mull it over, you probably wouldn't get involved with someone like that in the first place - much less marry them. To me, what is really important about what you are saying is that we need to take time before committing to a man to learn if he has the qualities we like.

can't be done

eventually they'll want more of a sign of your love and you can only draw so many huge hearts in the sand on the beach.

metaphorically speaking of course

free only gets you so far


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that totally depends on the value of the man, and i don't mean it in a financial sense but rather in the quality and depth of the individual.

money is important but not everything. plenty of things men can do to please their ladies w/o involving money:

-take the garbage out w/o being asked
-cook her dinner as a surprise (on one special weekend) etc etc etc

men are sexy (tmo) when they pay full attention to their ladies and treat them right sigh... hard to find them though

Being financially secure is important, but that does not mean that he has to be rich.

I would rather have a man actually paying full attention when communicating rather than having flowers, jewelry, etc.

Spend a night camping and talking under the stars next to the fire---sounds mighty nice to me.