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 others declare if you are a nice guy or gentleman
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I have only been here a week but I am starting to have some deep revelations about the the virtual world around us. I have been portraying the "Nice guy" and "gentlemen" because.... well that is just simply who I am. But I have discovered that most ladies arent really looking for a nice guy, most just want a decent dude, or at least thats what they would settle for. We, the men in the world, have created this, and believe it or not chivalry dies at our hands, not the hands of that beautiful creature we call woman. So I ask you ladies would you be happy just finding a decent dude who is just trying his best to do the next right thing? I guess I fail to see what the problem is, you describe yourself as a gentleman because you open doors for women, right? Okay, as several women, myself included, have pointed out, we are fully capable of opening our own doors. The only time I think it'd be nice if someone (man, woman, kid, whoever) opened a door for someone else is if you happen to be carrying a heavy package and your hands are full, or if you're elderly and/or disabled and can't open it yourself. In other words, it's not necessary or required. I guess it's a nice gesture, but not necessary. The only time I think "chivalry" should come into play is when a man does something that's actually necessary for a woman, ie. something she can't do for herself, and I have no idea what that would be. So what else does a "nice guy/gentleman" do besides that? I'm not being snarky, I'm totally curious about this. I think this is a very valid question. What exactly does a gentleman nice guy do that makes him so nice? Well first off I see compassion being the difference between myself and most guys. I genuinely care what the woman I am with is feeling, and through that compassion for her feelings I find understanding. So I provide that compassion and understanding to her when she really needs it and she returns the favor when I am in need. Can you do that for yourself? |
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most of us have seen many "nice guy posts" sorry but its pretty much a joke...
action talks bs walks...plain and simple words are cheap...and everyone knows it... best way to show it is join in the posts and let your personality do the talking.. if you are a nice guy chances are it will show through... but for petes sake no more nice guy posts....lmao   
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ahh..yeah,i got the same wakeup call too...lol! Maybe its time more of us woke up to what it takes to be a man these days. At least I dont feel so alone anymore. Heres to all the guys out there just trying to do good. We suck at it, but were trying!!! 
Why are you telling everyone you suck at trying to do good? Maybe its a guy thing, and maybe its just a me thing, but I think most guys out there are really trying to do the next right thing. Ladies to..... (oops) anyway most of us just arent very good at trying. We try and try everyday, and many of our attempts fail. That leads me to believe we just suck at trying. A quick example before I go. I have a dozen things to do today which is why I got up early. I am really trying to get them all done because I know its my responsibility to get them done, but instead Im sitting here almost ready hanging out with you. Im trying to get out of the house, I just suck at it... Gotta go, have a great day everyone!!!!! I guess I just think it's strange you're speaking for men, rather than just yourself. I know men who do the right thing all the time. Why would he only point the finger at himself? He's a "nice guy" afterall...back to point A. I think this one is a little unfair. I find myself pointing the finger at myself regularly. I examine my motives, and look in the mirror everyday. I unfortunately am the type of guy who takes alot of guilt on myself, and I wear it with shame. I just simply do the best I can. |
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I have only been here a week but I am starting to have some deep revelations about the the virtual world around us. I have been portraying the "Nice guy" and "gentlemen" because.... well that is just simply who I am. But I have discovered that most ladies arent really looking for a nice guy, most just want a decent dude, or at least thats what they would settle for. We, the men in the world, have created this, and believe it or not chivalry dies at our hands, not the hands of that beautiful creature we call woman. So I ask you ladies would you be happy just finding a decent dude who is just trying his best to do the next right thing? In my experience, it has nothing to do with "nice" or "decent" -- it's all about how domesticable you are. Nothing else matters just so long as you're amenable to becoming a mindless cardboard cutout and following orders unquestioningly. |
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So many guys (on here at least) are not really honest! Be straight up about who you are and what you are looking for! I for one am very straight forward about who i am and what I am looking for! No guess work with me! If you don't quite get it with me,,,,then ask! I am more than happy to fill you in then it's all good! Is it just a little possible that I am exactly who I portray myself to be? And that I am being very honest? Is that so hard to believe? |
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I know ‘decent’ means well-mannered, polite and honest but most people improperly use the word ‘decent’ to mean second-rate, average or mediocre. For example, “How was that restaurant?” ... “Oh, it was decent but not the best.” I don’t want a ‘decent’ man in that term. In answer to your question: I don’t settle for anything. Someone might be right for me or I may never find anyone right for me. I just date, have fun, and see where life takes me. Don't try so hard for the wrong person. Just be a nice person (guy or not) and you will attract a person that is right for you. 
Do we HAVE to be or NEED to be paired? That is so antiquated. 
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others declare if you are a nice guy or gentleman
I agree, but how are others supposed to decide about me if I dont express myself and get out there a little. Tell you my views, talk about it. How else would you be able to tell if I was the real deal? |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Thu 04/15/10 02:25 PM
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I know ‘decent’ means well-mannered, polite and honest but most people improperly use the word ‘decent’ to mean second-rate, average or mediocre. For example, “How was that restaurant?” ... “Oh, it was decent but not the best.” I don’t want a ‘decent’ man in that term. In answer to your question: I don’t settle for anything. Someone might be right for me or I may never find anyone right for me. I just date, have fun, and see where life takes me. Don't try so hard for the wrong person. Just be a nice person (guy or not) and you will attract a person that is right for you.
Do we HAVE to be or NEED to be paired? That is so antiquated.
Why would you insult yourself by saying you are second-rate? Maybe everyone else senses that too. You attract what you project! 
Who cares if other people settle. Have your own set of guidelines and expectations. Do you really want a girl who is “settling” for you? That is a guaranteed ticket to dysfunction. No, it's not wrong of you to have more confidence in yourself. No one looks out for you but you. Each of us derserves "the best" and "the best" will be different for each person. |
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others declare if you are a nice guy or gentleman
I agree, but how are others supposed to decide about me if I dont express myself and get out there a little. Tell you my views, talk about it. How else would you be able to tell if I was the real deal?
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most of us have seen many "nice guy posts" sorry but its pretty much a joke... action talks bs walks...plain and simple words are cheap...and everyone knows it... best way to show it is join in the posts and let your personality do the talking.. if you are a nice guy chances are it will show through... but for petes sake no more nice guy posts....lmao
I have joined in, and I am letting my personality show through. I am trying to get involved. I post on this topic because people seem to like them and want to talk about it. You keep coming back, and I really like you all, so why not do nice guy posts? Its as good as anything right? |
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I have only been here a week but I am starting to have some deep revelations about the the virtual world around us. I have been portraying the "Nice guy" and "gentlemen" because.... well that is just simply who I am. But I have discovered that most ladies arent really looking for a nice guy, most just want a decent dude, or at least thats what they would settle for. We, the men in the world, have created this, and believe it or not chivalry dies at our hands, not the hands of that beautiful creature we call woman. So I ask you ladies would you be happy just finding a decent dude who is just trying his best to do the next right thing? In my experience, it has nothing to do with "nice" or "decent" -- it's all about how domesticable you are. Nothing else matters just so long as you're amenable to becoming a mindless cardboard cutout and following orders unquestioningly. Is it possible that through mutual understand that two people can reach a place where neither one of them turns out as a cardboard cut out? |
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I have only been here a week but I am starting to have some deep revelations about the the virtual world around us. I have been portraying the "Nice guy" and "gentlemen" because.... well that is just simply who I am. But I have discovered that most ladies arent really looking for a nice guy, most just want a decent dude, or at least thats what they would settle for. We, the men in the world, have created this, and believe it or not chivalry dies at our hands, not the hands of that beautiful creature we call woman. So I ask you ladies would you be happy just finding a decent dude who is just trying his best to do the next right thing? In my experience, it has nothing to do with "nice" or "decent" -- it's all about how domesticable you are. Nothing else matters just so long as you're amenable to becoming a mindless cardboard cutout and following orders unquestioningly. Is it possible that through mutual understand that two people can reach a place where neither one of them turns out as a cardboard cut out? Only if they're both up front about their own respective realities from day one. In my experience, that never happens. They always start out with "I love everything about you!" and it turns into "Now I have to CHANGE everything about you!" three months later. |
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most of us have seen many "nice guy posts" sorry but its pretty much a joke... action talks bs walks...plain and simple words are cheap...and everyone knows it... best way to show it is join in the posts and let your personality do the talking.. if you are a nice guy chances are it will show through... but for petes sake no more nice guy posts....lmao
I have joined in, and I am letting my personality show through. I am trying to get involved. I post on this topic because people seem to like them and want to talk about it. You keep coming back, and I really like you all, so why not do nice guy posts? Its as good as anything right?  missing my point..but hey whatever....im talking the games ,the advice, all the other posts that show little bits of you...not im a nice guy posts....im just trying to help you..
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most of us have seen many "nice guy posts" sorry but its pretty much a joke... action talks bs walks...plain and simple words are cheap...and everyone knows it... best way to show it is join in the posts and let your personality do the talking.. if you are a nice guy chances are it will show through... but for petes sake no more nice guy posts....lmao
I have joined in, and I am letting my personality show through. I am trying to get involved. I post on this topic because people seem to like them and want to talk about it. You keep coming back, and I really like you all, so why not do nice guy posts? Its as good as anything right? missing my point..but hey whatever....im talking the games ,the advice, all the other posts that show little bits of you...not im a nice guy posts....im just trying to help you..
Thank you for your advice, and I apologize if I mistook your other comment. I am not playing games, I am just posting about a topic that interests me and seems to interest alot of other people. I have only been here a few days and I already feel like I have made some new friends. Isnt that what all this is about? |
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They don't understand what it means to be a gentleman. I just smeared grape jelly all over my nipples...ladies, any takers???
 I'm only asking because I am a true gentleman
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most of us have seen many "nice guy posts" sorry but its pretty much a joke... action talks bs walks...plain and simple words are cheap...and everyone knows it... best way to show it is join in the posts and let your personality do the talking.. if you are a nice guy chances are it will show through... but for petes sake no more nice guy posts....lmao
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