Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you?

to answer all the questions,my answer is no

if my real answer is 1 or 100, its in my past...and im not living in the past anymore...im thinking about my future, so even if we end up getting married, my past is where is should be!!

It would depend on how many she currently has and if she can fit me in two times a week.

This reminds me of a funny true story from a few years back!

This woman had asked me if I would go out with her (on a date)!

She had a reputation of having been with being with every guy in town, and I had brought that to her attention!

In her defense...she calmly replied, "Well, this town ain't all that big"!!!!!

I think back now...at how funny that sounded at the time!

I guess it would have made a difference to her, if it had been a metropolitan type of town (larger city)!

Oh...and I did NOT go out with her!

So, you do bring it up and it does matter to you how many people someone has had sex with.

I've never asked someone I've dated about how many people they've been with. It doesn't really matter to me.

Well, the purpose of sharing, what I thought was a humorous event, back in my younger days...doesn't say I actually care one way or the other...within reason!

It's true, what you have done is the past...should stay there!

That may have been who she was in the past, and may not have anything to do with who she is today.

But, when you get to a number which might figuratively be the "every guy in town" status attached to her reputation...I'd rather just pass on it! JMO!

I mean...I wouldn't want to get serious with someone, that has been with really a lot of men! To walk down the street, hand in hand with her...wondering if the guy's you see...has had his turn with her!

It really don't matter to me either, to a certain point...then again, we all don't think the same way!

I can see the other side of the fence as well:

I've been accused of being with every woman in town too, so damn if you do...and damn if you don't!

it's not my business

if she had a couple partners during the same week we were going out then it might be a issue

but I'm not so territorial as to worry about the past (some guys are)

I lived in a small town up north and started out just dating a woman and didn't take long to find out who all her ex's were. It wasn't that it was so many (it wasn't many considering it was her home town) but seemed like I couldn't go ANYWHERE without running into one of them, that was sort of irritating. I think they detested me way more then I did them.

Singmesweet, to answer your question NO I don't ask but I think its our human nature to wonder about those things like has she ever been a sl*t, would she be a porcupine if....... and if so can she be faithful to me NOW? As far as me being asked, they can ask away. I'm totally open about it.

BTW I stayed with that gal for 7 great years.

Another way to look at it:

Suppose you were in the market for a good use car!

You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc!

One has a lot more miles on it than the other!

Which would you be inclined to choose?

I'm not saying it's wrong to not date someone because you think they've been with too many people That's your choice.

Though, I guess you'd be ok if a woman wouldn't date you for the same reason, since you say you've been accused of the same.

You're comparing people and cars?

Are you assuming that because someone has had many sexual partners before you that they haven't been faithful in the past?

Nope...I wouldn't hold that against her at all...she also has a right to what she is willing to go for!

A car? You are comparing choosing a person to date with a car?

Good question ,I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where I wasn't asked and some of them even asked for names. It wouldn't matter much now because I'm 1000s of miles from home and in a city but when I was in a small town it was a case of asker beware because your likely going to know some of the people. In a few cases they ended up angry because some of them were friends of theirs who had never told them. The past is the past let it stay where it belongs.

what about at one time?

would that matter?

I just remembered a incident in Baton Rouge and wondered if that counted

No...not really comparing people to cars (per say), just the normal human choice to most likely pick the auto with the least miles!

I guess you could say I was trying my attempt at being philosophical, guess I suck at it...huh?

Yeah.. not a good comparison.

I never ask, but I get asked then when I tell, they usually tell. If they don't share after asking me, then I ask. I really don't care. I just hope they feel the same way.