I think if your unhappy in your relationship, then you need to make a
decision about whether or not it is worth the effort to stay there...or
get out. I was NOT happy in my marriage, I chose not to stay. I don't
think it is that easy for everyone. I was brought up to be an
independant woman and not to rely on a man, that heleped me in my
decision.

I don't think that it is that simple...for most.

i say its not worth my time..... im more valuable than that... i had a
guy flirt with me in person like that... wife is sick well paralized for
2 yrs.. never cam out with asking me for anything but to meet him for a
drink... but i wonder.... i never went so guess i didnt wonder that
much

I just changed my profile, because I am not interested in becoming
involved in a threesome. I went through a man cheating on me and I take
it personally when a married man tries to engage with me on a singles
site.
Although I respect everyones right to do what they feel, I do not want
to be a part of it.
I think marriage is scared and should be treated as such when a person
goes outside the marriage for conversation, relations or sexual
satifaction it does not give the other person in the marriage a fair
chance to work on what is wrong.
I agree with most, if there are problems, a person needs to evaluate it
and break it off before getting on. It hurts to many people to be
deceptive.
If it is OK on both parts then go for it, just don't contact me.

"sacred" scary too.

I sugest that they get out of the present and look for fulfill thier
passion and be honest in fulfiling their dreams in a straight way? guys
correct me if my thinking is wrong.

King

agree with oldsage

after reading the whole thread, if one is out of the relationship
psychologically then there is nothing wrong with moving on as long as
everyone is open & honest...

life is complicated sometimes and
it is *definitely* too short to waste time

now, leaving and entering the fireproof bunker
OH, hi oldsage...

Well the key word here is "agreement"...Which is fine...BUT looking when
the other partner has no clue the "passion has gone out of the marriage"
or that his or her partner is looking...UMMMMMMMMMM.....Is plain
cheating!!!!!!!!!!

Agreed Shelly

Hey g/f!!!!!

earlier in the thread it was stated that both partners are out of the
relationship

What do you think of married people looking to fulfil the lost passion
in their lives on dating sites?

Well the original question was sort of open so could be taken both
ways...I was just saying there is a big difference between agreements
couples have made and when they are searching without the other having
any knowledge at all....

yes of course - now i think the post title and orignal question was a
little misleading - didn't reflect the situation that came out during
the "question and answer" period

both partners need to know the relationship is over
of course if one leaves - the other has no choice
it's over

Thank you everyone...for all your opinions. I think I'm going to just
back off from this guy...if he says that his marriage is dead...then why
are they still living together? Mine is dead...but we are NOT living
together...I don't think I want to deal with all this nor wait for
however long it takes him to leave...if he's ever even going to leave.

You all have made up my mind! Thank you, again!!! You are all great!

Oh, and sorry for the misleading question in the beginning.

Good choice..I think you are saving yourself alot of heartache...Find
someone totally single that loves you because that's what you
deserve!!!!!!!!

Good Luck
Shelley