I was chatting with someone about what does and doesn't work in emails and thought it would be interesting to find out what works for everyone.

When writing an email to someone here that you'd like to get to know, what works best for you? What kind of first emails do you write? How do you keep the conversation going? What gets the best replies?

Hmm, no response. Perhaps nothing works?

Only time I write first emails is to people in the forums if I found their posts interesting or funny. On the reverse, I get emails from people on the forum and their dislike for what I've posted. I rip them a new one and then block them. You know who you are.

A lot of the initial emails that I do get, 99% make me think they've never had a conversation with a real life person before or they are uneducated and sending out mass emails to see what sticks. I loath text speak, so I don't return those emails. A good 75% of my emails are in text speak. So read/delete.

If the email is coherent, I will return the email if just to say thanks for writing and good luck to you in your search. There are a few that try to use my response as meaning I want to carry on a conversation with them. They thank me for thanking them. What part of 'good luck in your search" means I want to continue further?

Trust me when I say I've tried everything when it comes to sending the first email. I admit that if I get a reply, even one saying thanks, but no thanks, I assume she's interested on some level because about 3 out of 100 reply.

I'm starting to think women only reply when the planets are properly aligned.

Forum based commonalities when there has been a direct exchange (at least with positive people) have worked incredible for me.

Unsoliticited emails sent or received are just weird and akward (personally).

I also get many emails from people who don't seem to have a clue what to write, or how to talk to women. Text speak from a 30+ year old man? No thanks.

However, I will reply to most emails. Even if just to say I'm not interested. Of course, that doesn't always mean they'll listen to the not interested part.

A polite response does not mean someone is interested in you in more than the response they gave you. That makes you sound desperate, pathetic and creepy or don't know how to interact socially on a basic level. If someone says "no thanks", that means "no thanks". Now you know why it's only 3/100 response.

Yeah good luck in your search!

What was the question again?

I'm not creepy or desperate. I do great in real life. I just think it's funny that here women won't even say hello. If I've found one that will, I'm going to attempt to show her my dazzling personality. If you don't like it, don't send replies.

I don't send emails. I only answer those that are sent to me.

Why? Has that worked well for you?

I love it when people dazzle me with a positive outlook in the forums or are incredibly funny "naturally"....

...and when I check out their profiles they are just "naturally" that way. They never need to "say" "I am witty" or "I have a great sense of humor". Those that do...usually don't.

After that if something is conveyed randomly but with some spirited truth and sense of play, like minds will usually spark.

I don't email people except my friends on here.

Not for me....lol

I just thought of something I haven't tried. Threats! Maybe if I threaten the women I write to they'll send a reply.

Something like: Hi, I think you are very attractive and interesting and I'd like to get to know you better. And if you don't reply to this message, I'll start a vicious rumor about you involving live aardvarks and marshmallow cream.

I'll get back to you.

don't send me an email if your a spammer or just a tease trying to boost your self esteem. i don't like emails that take me all day to read or very bad spelling and punctuation.


i do like emails that are short and simple, that give reasons why they are interested or just say hello if i know ya. i don't always respond back because reality causes me to forget alot...."real life things"

What about the emails you send? What has worked for you?

Hi,

I've read your posts and profile, and you seem like someone that I would like to ask.....

Where in the world would you like to go?

I have the strange feeling that our interests might be similar. Could we possibly meet for coffee at your local airport. I, probably like you, really like the energy there.

After that, don't let the theme rooms and farm animals on my jet throw you. I assure you that you will completely understand after we get to know each other better. Also be assured that the "front" of the plane is completely 1st class accomodations. The one exception is George the llama. He has free reign. I love that guy.

Please reply and tell me what you think.

PS. Does your airport have a donut shop? I have this interactive jelly donut sculpture idea that I think would work perfectly in a pressurized cabin.

i just tell them about the same interest we both have and if its a profile with not much in it but they caught my eye i ask them about some of their interest, or i'll even make a smart remark about something they had in their profile....btw hey sing