Obviously a male..other than that what does it take to be a man?
I hear the term "man up", he's not a "real man"....
I watch my sons turning into men, for now physically.
What does manning up and being a real man require?

a person with a dangly thing?

It's an expression meant to describe courage. But in this day and age courage is only thought of in physical terms too often! But I see being a man as in the moral terms as well!

I'll second that...and maybe chest hair??? Big feet??? mustaches...no...I know women with that....hmmmm???

To me, in my humble opinion.

Manning up is to be accountable for your actions and to face your responsibilities.

Being a real man is living up to your character,and your responsibilities. Being the best you can be. If you are in a relationship or married, being true to your girlfriend(if you are in a relationship), being true to your wife(if you are married). If you have children, being the BEST father to your children that you can be. Doing the best for your family that you possibly can. Treating others as you want to be treated.

I know that actions speak louder than words. I know that there is a lot that I have probably left out. But this is what I have lived by my whole life. Not bragging, but I think my parents and all of my friends parents ( yes, I considered my friends parents as adopted parents. As my friends also considered my parents as theirs) from back in the day did an awesome job of leading me in my life.

do what has to be done when it has to be done and don't whine about it

just do it

Ladylid, I think another answer you're fishing for here is "morality" and "maturity."

9 inches plus..if not, your not a man

Being able to do basic things, such as drive a manual, put up a tent, install a door, comfort his spouse, being a leader, shoot a fire arm, have basic fighting skills, defensive driving skills, survival skills, basic woodworking skills


So basicly if a guy can protect himself and his family, knows how to do things outdoor wise, he dosnt show his emotions/not a cry baby, and can do things around his house and car without calling someone he can call himself a man

You have my vote, well stated..Thank you for manning up.

so feeling fear yet still going through with something...would be courage.

me

so a woman who does what needs to be done when it needs to be done is a man?
Oh no...we get to whine, that what makes the difference

A man is a person that loves his woman and cares for her as much as she cares for him.And holds her when she is bother with something or on her mind.Love her for better or worst,richer or poor, tildeath dose them part. dose that answer your question.

Guess you'd be SOL just like the rest of us, eh??

what he said...

Well, there's not a single definition for being a man, certainly, but here are some traits, beliefs and behaviors I try to live by...

I have a clear sense of morality;
I possess a never-ending quest for excellence;
I am confident...not cocky;
I have a clear view of reality;
I am decisive;
I look you in the eye;
I am comfortable expressing my feelings;
I express anger without violence;
I admit when I'm wrong;
I engage other people....because I always gain knowledge and wisdom;
I have not and will not ever physically harm a woman or a child;
I am resilient.
I push through my fears...surviving them makes me stronger;
I know the sun rises again everyday;
I make stupid mistakes...but try not to repeat them;
I take responsibility for my actions and behavior;
I stand up for what I know is "right" and believe in...even in the face of overwhelming odds;
I know how to treat a woman...and make her feel like a woman...without ever making her feel less than an person;
I know who I am...and I'm comfortable in my own skin;
I'm not afraid to cry or hold any real emotion inside;
I live a Carpe Diem philosophy;
I am passionate and compassionate;
I try to improve in some way...every day of my life.

Well,,honestly,,YOU could now just say the same as becoming a woman....What is that to become,,a woman..
As we live in the world of equality beind and seeing as equails.
Would not then,,,the statement to woman-up,,also be a ralative?

A man,,,in the content of being a fully matuered youth,,,

Indepentently his own person, with all basics of lifes values
formed into him, and successfully proved that in the minds of his peers. Fore its THROUGH,,,,OTHERS that WE even have reason to SAY MAN.....as we could say male, boy, him. Yet we feel the need to show in a name,,,,,,,ones maturity as out method of thought and values..

As for man-up,,,,,same as 'you ain't got the balls',,,
same as 'your a wuss if ya don't do it'....

A slang now used by peers to show ones abilities to be brave.

Personally,,,many boys,,,as we use that term, are a MAN,,,
as to their maturity levels of responsibilities, amd values already
earned in their hearts and minds...

A ten year-old,,,,could MAN-UP....wink..as in proving a dare,,or to be his own person in thought.,,,,,,brave..

I would like to add "the Seven Virtues."

Chastity- Embracing of moral wholesomeness and achieving purity of thought through education and betterment.

Temperance- Constant mindfulness of others and one's surroundings; practicing self-control, abstention, and moderation.

Charity- Generosity. Willingness to give. A nobility of thought or actions.

Diligence- A zealous and careful nature in one's actions and work. Decisive work ethic. Budgeting one's time; monitoring one's own activities to guard against laziness.

Patience- Forbearance and endurance through moderation. Resolving conflicts peacefully, as opposed to resorting to violence. The ability to forgive; to show mercy to sinners.

Kindness- Charity, compassion, friendship, and empathy without prejudice and for its own sake.

Humility- Modest behavior, selflessness, and the giving of respect. Giving credit where credit is due; not unfairly glorifying one's own self.

That's what I'm asking...
These definitions of being a man are definitions of being a good person, male or female. A good parent, a loving partner, accepting responsibility, doing what needs to be done, having courage...
So what is the difference? The protector/provider mentality that has been installed into boys brains...even that wouldn't be a male virtue anymore as a woman I have the mama bear mentality also.
So basically "manning up" is just not being a p*sY?