I was just wondering,why is it sooo hard to find true loyal love in the gay world?Many say it's the same in the heterosexual world, but it seems worse in the gay world.I wonder why...

It's hard to find strait love as well

Best of luck to you

one time I worked in an adult bookstore/video/toystore

it was a disgusting and depressing job actually and I couldn't do it more than a few months

the place was a popular cruising spot for gays

now I can only speak from the frame of reference for males, there were very few females that went there

but for the males

they NEVER looked at a man from the crotch up. Their ONLY goal was sex. as much as they could get as fast as they could get

there was no interaction on a emotional or intellectual level

and then I would hear em complain cause they couldnt form relationships and I thought "well duh"

maybe its different away from that environment but that was all I was exposed to

That's interesting. Many of the gay or lesbian couples that I know/have known seem to have less troubles than straight couples. Sometimes I am envious because so many seem to have their heads together and know what they want.

I think that if you want a serious loving relationship, you should make sure that the other person is sure about themselves and that they're not just looking for sex or to experiment.

I think that gay people just think they have it worse with dating, same as they think they have it worse with everything else. When they realize just how much society treats them with kid gloves, and has for a long time, maybe they will stop feeling this way.

Regardless were one is looking for love it is never easy to find or to keep once you do find it.

Maybe because you're going through it, so you think it's worse.

Doubt there is much difference in the gay world vs. the straight world.

maybe ur looking for the wrong sex hehe

I know it happens. Just now going back and forth with some frustrated dude that seemed to be so stupid that he missed I was female LOL

I suppose it would have something to do with the liberal, socially free aspect of being openly gay. It's a bit of a social expectation. Perhaps you'll find better luck in pursuing the reserved type; thus, unconventional to the expectation. A reserved rebel.. haha

hmm.. I'm not sure if this generalization is warranted.

Also, there are social injustices, in the form interpreted legislation, that exist against homosexuality. 'Societies' treatment of homosexuals (apparently you are excluding homosexuals from being a part of society) is easily interpreted as handling.

A 'class' of society's liberties are being denied unjustly and they are being handled, and you trivialize their criticism as a victim complex?

Care to give example, since I have no clue what you are referring to?

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=legislation+against+homosexuals

Furthermore, review 'Defense Of Marriage Act' and 'LGBT adoption'

LGBT adoption is an interesting case, as it is highlights the 'advancement' of legislation to change the social norm, unjustly.

Additional Reference: http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_legis.htm

Im sorry, are u defining social injustice as individual intolerance? Because many groups would fall under that category...

I still didnt see any ACTUAL discriminatory legislation on the site though.

Apparently it's hard for most people to find love, not just gays. Good luck, though.

so true

Your experience may have more drama from where you tend to meet other gay's. If it is in a bar or a fetish club then it might be more dramatic than if you met in a church that welcomes GLBT's or say an educational or support group.

I have seen happy long standing gay relationships several places I have lived. Noteably they are usually in larger cities and might be more open but even in small towns there are usually a few "odd" couples to what is the norm.

It is probably not as obvious as younger couples because just as in hetero couples the public passion tends to fade.

LOl maybe wrong sex is a good idea, if i were straight i would have kids and a wife in a heart beat.But...I'm gay.I know at the age of 19 I'm ready to find true love and find the ''one'' if he exists!But thank you everyone for posting!

You can't see it because there's too much sex in the way.