are you or have you ever been a slave to anything, like say a slave to your desires...if so how did you get out of it

still working on that ...

It would have to be rage. But much help from a good nurse who is a good listener and actually gave me the okay to disagree with her really did a lot of good to get better with it. When I first started with her help to learn how to vent I was loud, angry and combative. She admitted that at first she was afraid of me but I guess my arguments made sense at some level, however remote, and eventually I could get the point of talking lower. Then, I got to the point where I didn't to cuss. Then, surpringly enough I mumbled less and got less defensive. As she seen I was trying to be more honest with her response became less accusatory and I became less defensive which brought the angry level down even more. Then, I got more sarcastic but then worked on that because I got too extreme with it. The verse; "Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord.", I used less and the verse. "Come my yoke is easy and my burdens light." Became more perferrable. Today, I don't have to stuff my anger like I used which really helped a lot thanks to learning how to vent my frustrations. "Be angry but sinneth not." Lets me know that anger is not a bad thing but just a part of being human. I take it as being human is not a sin.

The this ive learned about emotions and feelings is that they come and go, and that its not to be trusted alot of the times, Proverbs 3:5-7: Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6- In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. 7- Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the lord, and depart from evil.
Trust in God and depart from evil. Depart from things or people that would provoke feelings or desires that's un-godly. For an example I know a drug addict that was freed from his addiction because he stopped going to places that would remind him of drugs, stopped hanging around people that did drugs, stopped listening to music that reminded him of drugs. And in replace of all that, he started going to Bible study, hanging around with like minded believers, and started listening to music that didn't provoke drug abuse emotions.

Id say, not a slave but definitely a submissive,,,

to compassion and lust

I am sometimes so overwhelmed with worry for others comfort that I make myself extremely uncomfortable,, Im trying to find the balance there

Same thing with lust, I am (internally) attracted to male and female. I keep myself away from any situations that may tempt me into intimate encounters with a female but with males it is much more difficult as I am interested in one day having a life partner.

I am very attracted to touch, I hug ALOT and love kisses and cuddles, and it is hard to keep that from turning into something more physically serious. I can leave a warm cuddle from a 'date' and be thinking about them for several days in a more than cuddly way. Being on my own right now, I am getting all these 'impure' thoughts, as it were, under control and learning other ways to think of and to get physical contact with others.

I don't think I have ever said no to a lady wanting me,,as we were in a heat of passion....So I guess I should try and stay away from the heat,,wink..

I guess that's why so many marriages fail, because the two started the relationship off sexually, and a lot of the times when that happens the relationship is based on sex and the feeling of lust and sexual dependency gets mistaken for love. often a short while into the marriage the two find each other repulsive in each others ways and the sexual attraction is gone...I'm not saying that's always the case but Ive seen it happen to 90% of all my friends and a lot of other people. That's why its always better to get to know someone as a friend first, that way you get to know there good and bad habits before you get lost in a haze of sexual emotions.

Absolutely agree. And it's not just about finding a way to get out of things. That's easy. It's making the conscious decision that you WANT to stop doing what you're doing and make yourself a better person. Indecision becomes decision in time, so do your best to make the right one at the right time.

I totally agree. That is why I like the idea of chatting online or over a phone for a while before making physical contact.

being proactive is the way 2 go