Topic: Frustrating Relationship..just wanna scream
Jill298's photo
Wed 11/18/09 12:02 PM

He will come back to you and ask for another chance. He will promise he adores you, was wrong to mistreat you, and that he is an idiot. My advice? Invite him over, have at it for a few hours, then get him up and kick his azz out. Tell him you never want to see him again or hear from him at all. If he gets mad or wants to talk about it, just suggest he text his other lover.

Then never ever see him or talk to him again.
:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: shoulda done this a long time ago :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 11/18/09 06:05 PM
We often teach people how to treat us. Sounds like this guy has been treating you like second string all along and you should drop him like a hot potatoe. You don't need and explanation for bad behavior. It is what is is. Put your energy and feelings where you are treated like the great gal my guess is you are. Your feelings will fade for him fast when a nice guy comes along.

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Wed 11/18/09 08:34 PM

He will come back to you and ask for another chance. He will promise he adores you, was wrong to mistreat you, and that he is an idiot. My advice? Invite him over, have at it for a few hours, then get him up and kick his azz out. Tell him you never want to see him again or hear from him at all. If he gets mad or wants to talk about it, just suggest he text his other lover.

Then never ever see him or talk to him again.


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TNLakeLady's photo
Thu 11/19/09 05:44 AM
well..talked it over..agreed that we need better communication..the saga will continue for now..

I know... I am stupidfrustrated

lilith401's photo
Thu 11/19/09 11:06 AM

well..talked it over..agreed that we need better communication..the saga will continue for now..

I know... I am stupidfrustrated


Please post again so we can all say, I told you so.

To not listen to objective opinions, all of whom would love to see you happy and actually appreciated... well. I'm sorry. This will end horribly.

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Thu 11/19/09 02:38 PM
yes it looks fishy and all... but theres gotta be a reason? You said it... You have "feelings" for him and unless you get those same feelings for people often...I'd try and work it out with him. Just get to the bottom of it is all.

because I'd want the chance to explain myself if she felt a certain way about my actions. no?

Another thought... If my woman is getting her "how to treat her man" advice from sites like this.... I think I'd dump her. You peeps are harsh! LOL

Good luck flowerforyou

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Fri 11/20/09 07:24 AM

slaphead Wake upsurprised


YUP..its hard I KNOW...but do it!

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Fri 11/20/09 12:23 PM
yeah honestly it sounds fishy in my opinion. just make sure you have the facts though before doing anything you might regret. i say you should ask him if you can see his myspace and if he refuses right away then hes hiding something.

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Fri 11/20/09 12:26 PM
by ebb and flow, such is the erosion of romance ya lol?

Jill298's photo
Fri 11/20/09 12:31 PM

yes it looks fishy and all... but theres gotta be a reason? You said it... You have "feelings" for him and unless you get those same feelings for people often...I'd try and work it out with him. Just get to the bottom of it is all.

because I'd want the chance to explain myself if she felt a certain way about my actions. no?

Another thought... If my woman is getting her "how to treat her man" advice from sites like this.... I think I'd dump her. You peeps are harsh! LOL

Good luck flowerforyou
Sometimes the truth is harsh and we can only comment on the one side of the story we are given. However, it doesn't matter where you're S/O is getting advice from. It's up to her to make the decision and what to do. If she gets bad advice, whether it be from here, a friend, neighbor, sibling, whoever, and she takes it... that's on her. Not the person she got the advice from. My advice I have given here might be different if I knew his side of the story. But I don't.
There's always 3 sides the situation. His side, her side, and the truth of what actually happened.

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Fri 11/20/09 01:48 PM


yes it looks fishy and all... but theres gotta be a reason? You said it... You have "feelings" for him and unless you get those same feelings for people often...I'd try and work it out with him. Just get to the bottom of it is all.

because I'd want the chance to explain myself if she felt a certain way about my actions. no?

Another thought... If my woman is getting her "how to treat her man" advice from sites like this.... I think I'd dump her. You peeps are harsh! LOL

Good luck flowerforyou
Sometimes the truth is harsh and we can only comment on the one side of the story we are given. However, it doesn't matter where you're S/O is getting advice from. It's up to her to make the decision and what to do. If she gets bad advice, whether it be from here, a friend, neighbor, sibling, whoever, and she takes it... that's on her. Not the person she got the advice from. My advice I have given here might be different if I knew his side of the story. But I don't.
There's always 3 sides the situation. His side, her side, and the truth of what actually happened.


I always appreciate peoples opinions however, bad advice is bad advice to me. Giving advice on 50% of the story is IMO "bad advice". Opinions, Personal experiences and personalities vary. I was a little surprised by the pile-on this guy got.
She went back to him....she deleted her profile and all because she likes him!? Go figure

I am fairly new here... I am NOT single. I browse this site and other forums because it is a reminder of how lucky I am to be with the one I love and she reciprocates that every single day.

Will you nurture and care for it when it comes? Or cut him/her loose on a whim with others advice/opinions.flowerforyou peace



Jill298's photo
Fri 11/20/09 01:57 PM
Edited by Jill298 on Fri 11/20/09 01:58 PM
always appreciate peoples opinions however, bad advice is bad advice to me. Giving advice on 50% of the story is IMO "bad advice". Opinions, Personal experiences and personalities vary. I was a little surprised by the pile-on this guy got.
She went back to him....she deleted her profile and all because she likes him!? Go figure

I am fairly new here... I am NOT single. I browse this site and other forums because it is a reminder of how lucky I am to be with the one I love and she reciprocates that every single day.

Will you nurture and care for it when it comes? Or cut him/her loose on a whim with others advice/opinions

I understand what you're saying about advising on only half of the story is bad advice, but it's all we got to go on.
Tho I do think sometimes people on here can be extremely critical, it's still up the person asking the questions on what advice works for them in their situation.
If you put something out for the public to give opinions on, well... you get their opinions lol And some of it, is going to be bad.
I have made many comments before about how when someone has the slightest issue with a partner, people seem to jump out and accusing them of cheating, just dump him / her, he / she's a loser, etc etc. It's just something that happens, not only here, but in any public forum.
People sometimes forget that there is another part to the story, and it's always easier to tell someone what to do, then to do it yourself.
I can only comment on my past experiences, what I have gone thru and what worked and didn't work for me.
You also don't know, since you're new here, that we see these kinds of posts, time and time again. There are alot of people here with a lot of very valid advice that do genuinally care about others.

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 11/20/09 02:04 PM


well..talked it over..agreed that we need better communication..the saga will continue for now..

I know... I am stupidfrustrated


Please post again so we can all say, I told you so.

To not listen to objective opinions, all of whom would love to see you happy and actually appreciated... well. I'm sorry. This will end horribly.



Ain't it the !@#$%^% truth?

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Fri 11/20/09 03:23 PM

I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..


Just forget about him...

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Fri 11/20/09 03:42 PM
"You also don't know, since you're new here, that we see these kinds of posts, time and time again. There are alot of people here with a lot of very valid advice that do genuinally care about others."


For what it's worth, I usually call the Pope to find out what time mass is at. That way I'm certain to get the right information. I'm not sure it's fair to say it's because I'm new to this site that I don't understand?
Professionally speaking... therapists wouldn't grasp what you wrote above. No matter what the volume of broken hearts and heartaches in this/other forums or even in real life.. shouldn't matter... sound advice is sound advice. period!

Cheers and I enjoy reading everyones posts





irisheyes79's photo
Fri 11/20/09 07:13 PM
proves my theory some women just like being treated second class

Jill298's photo
Fri 11/20/09 08:44 PM

"You also don't know, since you're new here, that we see these kinds of posts, time and time again. There are alot of people here with a lot of very valid advice that do genuinally care about others."


For what it's worth, I usually call the Pope to find out what time mass is at. That way I'm certain to get the right information. I'm not sure it's fair to say it's because I'm new to this site that I don't understand?
Professionally speaking... therapists wouldn't grasp what you wrote above. No matter what the volume of broken hearts and heartaches in this/other forums or even in real life.. shouldn't matter... sound advice is sound advice. period!

Cheers and I enjoy reading everyones posts





Why are you here?

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Sat 11/21/09 07:44 AM


"You also don't know, since you're new here, that we see these kinds of posts, time and time again. There are alot of people here with a lot of very valid advice that do genuinally care about others."


For what it's worth, I usually call the Pope to find out what time mass is at. That way I'm certain to get the right information. I'm not sure it's fair to say it's because I'm new to this site that I don't understand?
Professionally speaking... therapists wouldn't grasp what you wrote above. No matter what the volume of broken hearts and heartaches in this/other forums or even in real life.. shouldn't matter... sound advice is sound advice. period!

Cheers and I enjoy reading everyones posts





Why are you here?


Entertainment! Youz a funny bunch. And of course friendships/human connections and common interests... For Example: I friggin LOVE ferrets!love waving

Jill298's photo
Sat 11/21/09 08:19 AM
:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: yea well, there's that

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Sat 11/21/09 08:36 AM
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