Humm well in the first place when someone comes to you and ask to BORROW some money and will pay you back when they get paid in two days that is considered a loan. And you have the responsibility to pay it back out of respect people should learn to keep their word.

Let me see now does one expect to walk into a bank take out a loan and figure ohh well it was a gift cause they gave it to me and I don't have to pay it back. Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Or if s friend asked to borrow your lawn mower do you not ever expect them to actually return it?

I'm sorry but when I buy something or work for the money I have that now belongs to me if I loan it out I expect that person to take care of what I have loaned them and return it in a timely manner in the same condition it was when I loaned it to them.

There is a big difference in loaning something and giving something to someone.....

I kind of figured I would not see the money again when I wrote the check.....but I would never loan out what I could not afford to lose.

Money is just money....you can't take it with you. I never worried about it.

Does he have the money to pay it back? Was there a time limit? Are you now suffering because of it?

First off a bank works different from a person. Second with regards to material things, like a lawn mower or a pen, those can't be replaced as easily as money can be when you're working. I dare say there is a difference there, at least to me.

I do think the guy is in the wrong however for making a promise he didn't deliver on, that much I agree with.

Ohhhhhhhhhh tooo funny when one goes to small claims court the only thing that happens most of the time is you get the satisfaction that it is on record they owe you. But like the old saying goes you can't get blood out of a turnip. For if they don't have the money or say they don't you will only get a judgment.

As far as me I'm through asking for it and will chalk it up if he does pay then great. But will I do it again no way....I'm not one that will walk walk over coals the second time cause I only got my feet blistered the first time to see if it will do it again.

We live and learn just sad to find out those you trusted you no longer can..

Ohhhh I will never give up trusting others with their word they just want get my money in the process lmao

This is my general rule which may not apply to everyone. I NEVER loan money that I cant be without. I make the assumption that I will not get it back and when I do I am happy, but when I dont,, I move on just the same because I wasnt expecting to.

True you can not take it with you actually it is not the money in reality it is the fact that you trust others when they give you their word and then they act like it is nothing and they don't seem to care who they betray....

Believe me I have shelled out over $10,000 to my son over the past 8 years. And regardless I would never drive a wedge between us over the money. For it is only money but then I'm the one that put it in his hands knowing he could not pay me back as well. That is different when you give it knowing you might as well write it off. Hell at least he acknowledges how much I have helped him we just laugh it off and take it with a grain of salt. Of course I tell him one day he will pay me back for when I get old he will have to take care of me.....

Okay I get where your coming from but...........just curious how is money any different then the material things for if you look at it that way then just take the money you make working and by them over again no biggie it's only money.


It just amazes me how some feel they are responsible to pay back a finance company or a bank. But when they borrow the money from a friend or family all of a sudden those values go out the door...what is the difference?

It's always hurts when a friend doesn't live up to your expectations or do what you might do. Everyone experiences that during their life. Unfortunately issues over money tend to be even more divisive. Over time I have loaned money to friends...like most of us...sometimes when I was flush with cash...and in my younger days, sometimes when I wasn't! I decided when I was in my 30s that
I would never lose a friend over money...a price I was willing to pay...whatever price that was. So, when I a friend asks for help...I do...and I let them do the talking...set the terms. Most have repaid me in full. Some, I accepted the payment and returned is as a gift with a note about how much I respect their integrity, their kept promise...and their friendship. Some I've said from the outset, when you can, extend the same help to one of your friends in need...kind of passing it forward. I've always been pleased at how reliable friends have been...

So, I know you're hurt by the failure of a friend...but try to look at your loan as a gift. Your heart might feel some better. You're a good person, obviously, and it's hard to overlook something you wouldn;t do to a friend. TAke care.

Never lend what you can't afford never to see again.
Go in to it doubting that you will ever get repaid.
You'll save money and the friendships

I have barrowed money too, but I have ALWAYS paid it back too. But, some just don't care. Looks like several on here are in the same boat we are in. ..I know it has taught me a lesson. Now there are only a VERY few people I would even THINK about lending money too and then I might even have think twice.

rule of thumb never loan money,give it instead if you can and only once..
the other is if they hit on your/MATE when your not around they are not trust worthy for anything. if i hear that from my gf, friendship is now null and void..they now become aquaintences

The way I see if real friends would not take advantage of you in the first place. I'm one you may get me the first time but I will not give you the second chance to do it to me again..


And well the cheating part shshsh there is never a second time one will have to do it again to me I will turn my back and walk away in a heartbeat....

the last time i loaned someone money and they didn't pay me back, they got a 3 foot-long key job on their car.

if they ain't paying ME back, they're gonna be paying SOMEONE.

I totally agree with this.

ive had a couple friends hit on my gf..when i confronted them about it they said they were lookin out for me.tryin to see if she would do it....lmao...lookin out for me.....god what an excuse.......needless to say i dropped them like a bad habit

Also, never give your books to anyone. I still haven't got my books back from like 15 years ago.. no more books for anyone, buy your own!

Ouchhhhhhhhhhhh well I'm not one to be vindictive I believe in the old thing called Karma they will get theirs in the end the way I see it...