I think its best to steer clear of temptation. For me, at least, with physical intimacy comes the real potential for emotional attachment. I dont wish to risk the emotional exclusivenes I have with my loved one nor for him to risk that exclusiveness with me. The potential risk for harm and for emotional bridges to form is too high,,,for me. I understand the other side though, a desire to know about a partners outside lusts instead of being snuck around on. There is empowerment in feeling like a participant and not a bystander. I have had a situation with someone who ran this idea past me and i did in truth consider it. Then I realized, that if I could be ok sharing him that way,, I probably didnt have quite the exclusive feelings for him that I thought I did.


But that is just me.

ever use a cheese grater as a weapon?????

<----NOT open to cheese grater kink.

ever use a cheese grater as a weapon?????

<----NOT open to cheese grater kink.

its not supposed to be kinky!!!

its not supposed to be kinky!!!

I have to admit Jess, I personally think it's kind of crazy, and I would never even think of having an open relationship, HOWEVER, I have never seen it explained in such an honest, articulate, heart-felt, and logical way. My hat is off to you if you can handle that kind of relationship with such and open heart and mind, to have both of you be strong enough to discern the difference between additional acts or needs, but always know where the heart lies, and retain that level of commitment to each other. Most of the time these things turn out badly, but, as with everything, there are the exceptions to the rule, I truly hope things continue on the good path for both of you.

As I said, for myself, I will only accept complete monogamy with the communication, respect and trust with the one person I am seeing, although I always value and try to understand others point of view, as none of is perfect, and no one should think themself in a position to judge another. What works or is comfortable to one, might not be to another, and that's ok.

No, I get it ...



it smoothes out the .... kinks

well finally ... I was about to go on a rant about feeling ignored in this thread

You're all SICK!


Wish ya lived closer!

I refuse to have orgies or threesomes with my partner( she doesn't want this.I'm just giving an example) because I believe sex is for the person you're going with (or married to) and that person only. You can have as many open relationships as you would like but when you discover true intimacy and being with one person only, you'll probably see what you've missed out on. No disrespect but I don't think I'm better than anyone but I do look down on open relationships due to the sleazyness and sleeping around and hurting people in the end..