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Topic: Open relationships....
Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Fri 10/09/09 11:51 PM
Jess Im curious....this open relationship seems to be with someone exclusively but not. Its like a relationship but not. Was this his idea or yours????

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Fri 10/09/09 11:57 PM
Jess Im curious....this open relationship seems to be with someone exclusively but not. Its like a relationship but not. Was this his idea or yours???? Right from the get go...when we first met....nearly 8 years ago...he explained who he is....how he is... and what he can offer. My choice to be involved or not. I dont have an urge to sleep with anyone else, I am not wired that way....but if it ever did happen, it is not a deal breaker. I have known he is who he is from the get go. I am going to blame old age for him becoming less and less interested in going elsewhere.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 10/10/09 12:01 AM
Jess Im curious....this open relationship seems to be with someone exclusively but not. Its like a relationship but not. Was this his idea or yours???? Right from the get go...when we first met....nearly 8 years ago...he explained who he is....how he is... and what he can offer. My choice to be involved or not. I dont have an urge to sleep with anyone else, I am not wired that way....but if it ever did happen, it is not a deal breaker. I have known he is who he is from the get go. I am going to blame old age for him becoming less and less interested in going elsewhere. Hmmmmmm but we all have "urges" to go elsewhere but dont act on it because if we did....we would be sharing our "intimacy" with someone else. I for one know that sex isnt love and love isnt just sex and we can have sex for the hell of it as well. But...still I couldnt be ok with it.

JaneStar1 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 1580	Sat 10/10/09 12:01 AM
I refuse to have orgies or threesomes with my partner( she doesn't want this.I'm just giving an example) because I believe sex is for the person you're going with (or married to) and that person only. You can have as many open relationships as you would like but when you discover true intimacy and being with one person only, you'll probably see what you've missed out on. No disrespect but I don't think I'm better than anyone but I do look down on open relationships due to the sleazyness and sleeping around and hurting people in the end.. Well said, Safina! Spoken like a real Lady!

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sat 10/10/09 12:08 AM
my relationships have not been open at all, never have been, and hopefully won't ever be. if my boyfriend wants to sleep with another woman and does, i guess that's okay - but he wouldn't ever be sleeping with me again. i couldn't share anyone in such an intimate way, nor would i be able to give myself (my love and my body - and i need both present to even consider having sex with someone) to two men simultaneously.

JaneStar1 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 1580	Sat 10/10/09 12:28 AM
But what would happen if, God forbid, you break up with him? ? ?

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 10/10/09 12:31 AM


EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Sat 10/10/09 01:37 AM
my relationships have not been open at all, never have been, and hopefully won't ever be. if my boyfriend wants to sleep with another woman and does, i guess that's okay - but he wouldn't ever be sleeping with me again. i couldn't share anyone in such an intimate way, nor would i be able to give myself (my love and my body - and i need both present to even consider having sex with someone) to two men simultaneously. Have to agree here. Not my thing. Any friends I know who have done open relationships, never ended well.

catseyes1 Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 1459	Sat 10/10/09 06:16 AM
I prefer a one on one relationship. No opens for me.

Lilypetal Joined Wed 02/25/09 Posts: 4052	Sat 10/10/09 06:26 AM
It's alright if a guy wants an "open" relationship...it just won't be with me.

Modela Joined Fri 09/19/08 Posts: 2535	Sat 10/10/09 12:17 PM
my relationships have not been open at all, never have been, and hopefully won't ever be. if my boyfriend wants to sleep with another woman and does, i guess that's okay - but he wouldn't ever be sleeping with me again. i couldn't share anyone in such an intimate way, nor would i be able to give myself (my love and my body - and i need both present to even consider having sex with someone) to two men simultaneously.

4974 Joined Mon 01/19/09 Posts: 1621	Sat 10/10/09 12:19 PM
i do not share well with others...no way wld i allow anyone to touch my man

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Sat 10/10/09 12:30 PM
Open relationships are great,for people mature enough to handle them. Hugh Hefner and his 'girlfriends'are prime examples of people mature enough to handle this type of lifestyle. Individuality=Freedom,Ownership=Captivity. be seeing you

Rockmybobbysocks Joined Thu 10/30/08 Posts: 3961	Sat 10/10/09 12:48 PM
I think you have every right to have an open relationship . I however cannot feel that way for myself. I think, to me, that if I am not enough, then you need to get to steppin. If I start contemplating sleeping with another man, then doesn't that just mean you're not enough for me? to me, I feel there shouldn't be a need for it, and if there is, then something isn't right for me. you feel different and i wish you the best in that. but to me, cheating is cheating, open or not.